He apologized last night via text and tried to call a few times but I was honestly too hurt to even talk to him. He also called me this morning and apologized over the phone. I just don't know how I should feel or react. After him telling me that I feel like I won't be able to feel comfortable around him anymore and I'll always feel insecure. The thing is, he isn't even fit and he doesn't workout at all, not that I care but it's kind of contradictory. Honestly, I kind of don't even want to be with him anymore if he doesn't find me attractive and isn't willing to accept me the way I am. I need advice?
My boyfriend told me I need to start working out/lose weight but he isn't even fit?
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Anonymous
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Wow girl I honestly couldnt be with that guy anymore. I mean if he wanted to text you being sexy he didn't have to mention your weight. He couldve just said he wanted you to ride his dick or whatever however y'all sexy talk... but saying you need to lose weight was kinda harsh... I really wouldn't feel right with that guy... I would be really hurt... I mean talk to him but honestly you will always think about that and it will always hurt... to know He even said it or was thinking it.. if you have gained some weight since dating then he should try to help and encourage you and maybe suggest you guys working out together or something. I would dump him if it were me.
Ever stopped to think that maybe you are too good for this person?, just a gut feeling of mine. I am reading his text and going, um maybe he thinks you're too good for him, kind of a head game so you don't notice it.
I'd be hurt as hell too. That was not nice to read from someone who supposedly cares about you and loves you. There are a lot of ways to say things, and he choose the worst. He seems immature too, tbh.
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Anonymous
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It sounds like he was drunk, watching porn with friends, and this seemed funny to the guys. What a tool! Was it just a really big lapse in judgement and he is normally a good guy? Not as far as I can see, but you know him and we don't. If it's forgivable in your mind, be careful. Maybe he learned something about how to treat a girlfriend but… maybe it's just the first look at the real him.
It looks like your boyfriend is a fuck-boy and a hypocrite. I would say dump his ass, but I know that fuck-boys are secretly the most attractive kind of guy. Just know that he's not bright, he has no good qualities that I can deduce from the text message and even if you were as fit as an Israeli commando, he wouldn't stop making demands from you.
This is hilarious. He's just one of those people that don't know he's offending someone. I'm pretty sure it's innocent but rude still I would say why don't you work out? If he makes excuses ask him to join you there and that's fair and beneficial for both u. I sympathise with him only because I've said shit like that in the past
Ugh, you deserve so much more than this. I know it's tough, but I think that you shouldn't put up with this. And you're absolutely beautiful, how tfh can he not acknowledge that and treat you so?
How old is he? The way he talks seems very immature and disrespectful. Honestly if he can't respect and accept you for who you are I don't think he's worth keeping.
Your boyfriend was way too insensitive. You never ask someone to lose weight like this even if it was for the person's benefit. Make that nigga apologize 😒
If he continues to show disregard for your feelings like this it's time to dump him
Hmm seems like that's more a problem with you, i mean yes he shouldn't have done that but at the same time you should be able to stand on your own two feet and fire right back. He's human and what he did is known as a Freudian slip... people make mistakes, but they also do right by you and right now all you are thinking of is how he hurt you while disregarding all he's done for you. @vishna bruh i should become a hermit already
He's quite smart in that sense and mature. Im lucky, damn.
About yours... I don't know what to say... I hope it was just a lapse in judgement. But I would be hurt too. You have to make him understand it isn't ok for him to say that when he himself is no Adonis.
Yeah, ya get nothing from text but misunderstanding. There's no emotion, zero body language, so at least half of what is being communicated is lost. Quit doing this.
Have him excercise with you, boom you two will be partners to motivate each other. Then you can be those couples that post videos of working out with each other
Give him another chance. I'd say he fucked up, but it's very likely it was an accident. He might've been trying to be flirty or playful. If he doesn't apologize or scramble to take it back, that's a red flag.
He was giving you sincere suggestions to make him happier in the relationship. A good relationship involves good communication with both individuals telling each other what would make them happier. But my advice to him is that he should have found a more fit girl in the first place rather than convince one to lose weight.
Did you read the texts he sent to her?, it was oozing douche. Yes we should communicate what we need, but that is not the way to do it. Maybe if he was thinking of them becoming a fit couple, suggest they run together or join a gym, after all we would love to live longer. It also seems like this was coming from out of nowhere, this guy doesn't deserve her, he sounds like human garbage and was just plain rude.
The only reason I would ask my girlfriend who I dont have is to loose weight. I dont find women who is not skinny attractive but this is just me. I would never tank to a girl like that by the way even if I was her boyfriend for ages
This is so random but I just came across your post would your boyfriends name possibly be nick because my ex name is nick and has said these exact things to me I wish I could screen shot if honestly
That takes effort and it's upsetting to feel like you have to exercise. People should just accept you even if you're out of shape and don't wanna do anything about it.
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