Are you good at controlling your emotions?

[TiaNour]

Tbh if I’m with my friends or people I like, I’m finna show them every emotion lmfao

But if I’m in public, I’m standing on business lowkey

[WhiteSteve]

I…. uhhhh…. WELP…..😬😬😬

8 in gray, standing up for a teammate, then another soft teammate grabbed me up😒

Yelling at the ref because I had JUST told him to control that goalie or else I would….

Annnnnnddddddd I’m ejected from yelling threats from the penalty box lmfao

That goalie finally caught the fade though, I’m 44 in green this time

Just generally wildin’ because I was mad at myself lmfao

So…. I’m a bit of a live wire⚡️😅 I’m usually chill but sports/disrespect brings it out of me

[TiaNour]

My senses are telling me you like to fight

[WhiteSteve]

When I was your age, yes, haha. Nowadays I keep it to the ice and just to hold down my teammates or defend myself. There are no scouts in the stands and no one is getting paid (usually we don’t even have stands, lmao), so getting in any fight and possibly falling and cracking your head open is dumb, let alone doing it to be a tough guy. But I swear…. I play like 6 times a week, and this league is the ONE place I have problems. Everyone’s hard when there’s a referee team there to break it up🙄

[love_conquers_lust]

That last clip is hilarious. At what point do you guys play hockey?

[WhiteSteve]

@love_conquers_lust Yeah, I’m kind of an idiot, lmfao. I actually made that gif by request of one of my teammates, he wanted to have it😂 There we’re actually more gifs but I didn’t have room to post them all lmao. And they all involve that goalie, he’s the common denominator. And he’s on my team again this season, and he starts getting even more active when he knows I’m out there to back him up🙄🤦‍♂️😂 I wouldn’t disrespect the sport by calling what we play “hockey”, but whatever it is, we squeeze some in between scuffles. Honestly it’s like a bunch of bankers trying to LARP as tough guys by night🤣

[love_conquers_lust]

I have a theory. In the minors and club leagues, those jobs can suck. Travelling all the time away from their families not getting paid all that much if at all. I think there's a number of guys in those leagues trying to keep their dreams alive. They're pissed off with what they have to put up with to keep playing. So they take it out on each other.

I attended a minor league game for a team called the Rough Riders in Iowa, such an apt name. Before the opening faceoff, two guys got into a fist fight and people were cheering. I've also been to a few NHL games, so when I saw this my thought was, "What kind of bush league shit is this?". But I think it also helps put butts in seats. It's like adding WWF to hockey, except they aren't pulling punches. I don't think it's worth the pain. I'd rather watch hockey. But I don't watch any sport nowadays.

[7Phoenix7]

@WhiteSteve That was funny af

[WhiteSteve]

@7Phoenix7 lmao. I try to only dumb out like that on the ice these days😅 Kinda wild to have a venue in life where your antics can be accessed on camera. Imagine if we had that for all of our waking hours, wherever we went?😂

[WhiteSteve]

@love_conquers_lust Haha, I think there’s some validity to that. Fighting is also just a part of the culture of professional hockey, it’s a self-policing game in a lot of ways. The refs enforce the written rules, the players enforce the unwritten rules. Cedar Rapids is a USHL junior team so all those kids are 16-20 and trying to reach the next level, and part of that is doing whatever you can to help the team, which can include fighting. Not everyone is built for it so not everyone is expected to fight (as long as you didn’t egregiously violate an unwritten rule), but the guys who can often will. If you aren’t a top scorer or top defenseman, you have to bring something extra to the table, and toughness and willingness to sacrifice yourself for the team are HIGHLY respected. You can get knocked out cold and not land a punch, you’ll still get stick taps and pats on the back from your teammates for even showing up. It’s just showing that you’re willing to do whatever it takes to contribute👍

[love_conquers_lust]

@WhiteSteve I played organized football, baseball, and basketball. We'd get ejected for fighting.

I get the camaraderie and the teamwork, but not a fan of killing brain cells. I don't like concussions. No standard helmet prevents them. You'd have to wear helmets the size of mascot costume heads to make a difference. But even that would make necks vulnerable to high torque loads, which can be deadly.

I'd have also wanted to wear a face shield, wouldn't have cared if it looked goofy. Not worth having my face rearranged by a stick, puck, or fist. Plus, opponents could break their knuckles on helmets/face shields if they wanted to trade blows.

[WhiteSteve]

@love_conquers_lust haha, yeah, that’s all valid, man. You’re one of the smart ones😝

[sawno]

Extremely, i have been put trough a hellish corporate process before over my own health where if they could blame it on conflict i'd have never gotten welfare for the damage they caused to my body and my life would be ruined.

In those talks I had my emotions completely in line, and if it was tactical or helpful to be emotional and cry i'd let it happen and mentally amplified the chance of me crying organically. While if it was needed that I was calm and collected I would be calm and collected.

I won that game against all odds.

[TiaNour]

Damn

[IslaTheWitch]

It depends.

If in official setup I'm a professional. Sometimes leaving for a moment to the bathroom, to calm myself down.

Between friends and family, I'm myself. Mostly smiling and laughing. But I can be serious if needed. Fortunately, it is not so often required :D

[mooky06]

Depends where and whom i’m with. I feel like i’m an emotional ball of wreck with my closest friends and family and then i’ve got a heart made out of steel when it comes to work related things

[TiaNour]

Relatable ngl

[Massageman]

Great , up to a point. Then watch out.

[TenderFantasy]

I feel like people have feelings/emotions for a reason. It's your body telling you when you've been discriminated against (by racist bigots, or some other form of discrimination based on how you look, your age, your race, your health, your financial ability, your gender, etc.) so I just cater to them because if you don't care, then the other person will not either. And things that people sweep under the rug so to speak, generally don't get addressed! If Martin Luther King Jr. didn't make his speak, or if Rosa Parks, didn't stand up for herself, things like black/colored segregation would still be happening! If Abraham Lincoln didn't abolish slavery, it would STILL be occuring to this day. It's all because of emotions (negative ones and ones where you feel like you've been bullied or treated UNFAIRLY, therefore it makes you angry and you want to stand up to that injustice!) that produce great results! Positive results in the long-run hopefully. I am not talking about being pro-war all the time, but sometimes, things need to happen, last straws need to occur to inspire change or revolt into something way better than people have imagined!

The only problem is getting the courage to do it sometimes. Martin Luther King Jr. for example, lost his life, because of his courage, but without him, like I said, millions of minorities and especially blacks, would still need to use separate drinking fountains, bathrooms, schools, voting areas, etc.

And because he "Had A Dream" lots of positive changes took place! Changes for the better of America and it's citizens!

[dynamicyandere]

I’m quite good at it.


I didn’t start this way though.


Back in high school and middle school, I’ve gotten into school fights.


Later, my peers have described me as calm, cool, and collected.


I’m able to remain calm under tremendous stress, pressure, and emotional tension.


It has taken practice, but like learning how to hold your breath under water for longer and longer durations, I’ve been able to get better at connecting to my inner calm, no matter what’s happening in my external environment.

[TiaNour]

Character development lmfao

[dynamicyandere]

Lol, for real though. Character development. 🙂

[Sonorous]

Someone very close to me has said that they often can't tell how bad I'm feeling because I don't show many negative emotions on my face. So I'm definitely good at controlling how I express them. Even when I'm angry, I won't do anything that I'll regret after the anger subsides. But maybe I'm not the best at controlling them in terms of emotional de-escalation.

[TiaNour]

Oh so just got a stone face

[Sonorous]

Well that and smiles tbh. Like I could wanna legit die due to depression but be able to smile around people & pretend that everything is fine.

[TiaNour]

Yeah I’ve been there with the depression. But trust me you get past that phase, and then you’ll thank yourself for not ending it

[Sonorous]

Oh nah I got like the kind that just shows up randomly

[Wallythewalrus2]

Not at all. Just this morning, I had to end a friendship with a girl on GAG, because she said she was in love with me. I mean, I definitely can’t blame her for falling in love with me, most women do but it would make things to complicated in my life. This all happened just before I went to the airport. Once I got there and was waiting for my flight, I sat in the corner of the terminal and wept for over an hour! People were watching me and laughing! It was horrible.

[TiaNour]

I mean you can’t blame her lol

[hahahmm]

I'm a man so yes. Most men have their emotion under control. Otherwise we would not have a stable society. Of course the fact that society is destabilizing... is a hint of changing times.

[TiaNour]

Real men show their emotions

[hahahmm]

Men are not women so, no. Feminists want men to be more like women in an effort to reduce the power that men have since she is unable to match real masculine energy. Next.

[TiaNour]

Bruh what 💀

[hahahmm]

A lot of women believe being stronger means acting like dudes... yet they tell actual men to show more emotions (be more like women). It's not rocket science. Sure, some dumb simps listen to feminists tho.

[rosemilk]

no i'm awful at controlling my emotions. i show my emotions way too easily. it's a flaw in my opinion

[rosemilk]

a flaw FOR ME* :)

[TiaNour]

Ooof

[BlissfullyCurSed]

I can smell the scent of testosterone coming through the comments section. Why are there almost no female answers lolololol🤣🤣🤣?

[TiaNour]

😭😭😭

[BlissfullyCurSed]

https://youtu.be/gMr-P97THys?feature=shared
I'll just drop this link right here and hope that it works.

[love_conquers_lust]

Good? Perhaps adept. Whether it's healthy is another matter. Stoicism is useful, but suppressing emotions can cross over into repression. Then it might become a problem.

[TiaNour]

Big brain

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea, instinctually reacting emotionally before reacting with reason can be quite harmful to thyself or others

[TiaNour]

Bruh what

[ChicoFromThe305]

Forget it bruh 💀

[TiaNour]

Genuinely what you said doesn’t make sense in my brain

[ChicoFromThe305]

Your brain only consumes what sounds goos to it and reject everything else, your brain is picky lol

[TiaNour]

Insulting my brain is crazyyy

[ChicoFromThe305]

Okay I take it back 🤐

[TiaNour]

Good boy

[ChicoFromThe305]

Okay now I don't take it back

[TiaNour]

Tf I do

[ChicoFromThe305]

Don't good boy me 😂

[TiaNour]

Awwww ur a bad boy

[ChicoFromThe305]

Better, no backsies 😎

[TiaNour]

Imagine not being a good boy, couldn’t be me

[ChicoFromThe305]

I'll pay along mightymouse, sure couldn't ☻

[ChicoFromThe305]

Play*

[TiaNour]

Aight bad boy

[exitseven]

Yes, I can use my poker face when I have to.

[TiaNour]

I’m gonna start doing poker face now 💀

[Staximus]

I usually shoot my mouth off and let it fly, but that depends on the situation. The more serious the situation, the less emotional I am.

[TiaNour]

Oooo

[hopegirly]

No, but i wished to
I am too sensitive and I can't hide my emotions, it upsets me sometimes but it is part of me

[7Phoenix7]

Yea with people I'm comfortable with I show all my emotions. And anyone else I'm on guard and just observing everything.

[Sparkie460]

To some extent I'm good at controlling my emotions. There are the rare occasions that I can't

[TiaNour]

Same ngl

[Sparkie460]

Are you ok

[TiaNour]

For now yes

[DizzyDesii]

As of 2022, i’ve grown. But before then, i’d cut a mf with my tongue

[Squatting_Slav]

Generally yeah, again depnds on who it is. Some random stranger says something to me I'll laugh it off. a friend or someone I know well then i'll sort it out

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes unless you mean something to me that not so much

[TiaNour]

Oooo

[Bklynbadboy12]

The more emotionally invested I am the harder it is to control my feelings

[loveslongnails]

I'm finding it depends a little on the subject, but mostly it's about my own head space at the time.

[Bricealan]

No, I am not. I get bent out of shape by things that I should not get upset over