Girls, Does anyone know about vaginismus?

[Crazyboyy_q]

My girlfriend and I had sex last night. We had a long foreplay. We kissed for a while. Then I gave her oral. I moved my penis back and forth between her vagina lips. It was very slippery and wet. But when I tried to put it inside, it didn't go in. We did some research and learned that it was vaginismus. How is it treated?

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[_Maya_]

I do know what it is. I don't suffer from it. Just do a google search. You will see lots of advice on exercises she can do to help with that. Even tho you seemingly spent enough time to get her properly aroused and relaxed it is still up to her to be relaxed. If her mind is racing because she knows that she has this issue then guess what... she is tense and what happens when your body tenses? Your muscles do too. So it is a case of her not only doing what she can physically but also mentally. That is something only she can do. She can also use smaller toys to help prior to intercourse. She may want to look into something that she views as a comfortable size. That along with the loads of information on how to do some basic exercises should help.

[Crazyboyy_q]

Yes, there are exercises. Finger exercises. We tried beer but it didn't work.

[_Maya_]

Why would you think beer would work?

[Crazyboyy_q]

I wrote it wrong. Not beer, but a little bit.

[_Maya_]

My best advice is have her find an interal toy that she feels comfortable with and use it during foreplay. Let her do it first to herself. That helps with the mental part of it. Once she starts to feel comfortable she will relax more.

[Crazyboyy_q]

Ok thank you 🙏

[_Maya_]

Yep no prob.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

She probably a psychological issue resulting to some sort of actual physical rejection.

1. Was she a virgin for a long time?

2. Was she not excited about having sex?

3. Did she previously experience any sexual trauma in her past?

Best person to get answers from is her Gynecologist, not just web research.

[Crazyboyy_q]

20 years old and virgin. Yes, she was excited to have sex. She had not experienced any trauma before.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Then consult a Doctor.

[Crazyboyy_q]

Thanks 🙏

[HelpfulWoman]

So it happening once doesn't mean its vaginismus

[Crazyboyy_q]

We tried multiple times in the same night.

[katiesmuff]

I'm quite certain if you did a simple Google search you found out what it is, what causes it and the methods of correcting the problem!