Why do I get jealous of people with flat/toned bellies?

[Anonymous]

I’ve always been chubby and plus sized. My weight loss journey has been up and down. I always fail. I’m a pear shape and have a flabby belly. I lost 30 pounds but I end up gaining the weight back. My family doesn’t think I need to lose and the willed that I haven’t lost anymore weight and said I don’t need to because I’m tall and I need to weigh more than short women. They said I would look good if I lost anymore and I should just focus on toning up. Even my dad said I should just focused on toning, not weight loss.
I’m 5’10, a size 16W/18W, 217lbs, pear shaped with a belly. I was 245lbs and I got down to 178lbs but I gained some weight back. My stomach is a little toned but it won’t flatten up. I have NEVER had a flat belly. NEVER in my life. My legs and belly won’t tone up and their still HUGE. I get jealous of women with toned and flat bellies. If they complain about having that, I get pissed off! I KILL to have a flat belly…. well at least toned. Every time I see a woman with a toned and flat belly, even on Instagram, I always feel awful about myself. My petite friends said they’re jealous of height and my thick, curvy body. They tell me don’t lose any weight and not everyone looks good thin.
My best friend said she would mind being chubby and a pear shape and pear shaped women aren’t built to be slender.

How do I stop being so jealous of women with toned/flat bellies?

how do you ladies have a toned/flat belly? Fucking how?

[Sonorous]

Anytime we feel jealous, it's a sign that we feel a betrayal has taken place. We feel deserving of something that we're not getting. We usually stop those feelings through either acquiring what we want or by coping with not having it. What you do to help those feelings will be highly dependent on a method & type of implementation that personally helps you.

I'm not a lady, but the only reason why I have a flat stomach & abs is because I'm at a body-fat percentage that doesn't allow me to hold on to fat there. And I workout.

Everyone stores fat differently, so someone else might have to get leaner than I currently am in order to have a flat stomach while another person wouldn't need to be this lean. Nonetheless, it's still possible for all who have the motivation to start & the discipline to keep at the goal, & not too many obstacles in the way making it harder, less worth it, or simply not worth it at all.

So if you want a toned stomach, you've gotta first work on the weight-loss, then you can focus on not gaining weight while you workout to make the muscles bigger/more visible. I say focus on weight-loss first because I've been working out all this year but I only look toned when I'm at a body-fat percentage where you can actually see my muscle.

[Anonymous]

Because you're obsessed. Probably with something unattainable. I say probably. Because it might be obtainable if you're willing to completely wreck your health and shorten your life to achieve it. And you can do that. But let me tell you. Even if you do that, nobody's going to care. And believe it or not you'll probably still be unhappy.

[Alex-Snow]

Good for you in loosing some weight. It is not a sprint to loose weight but rather a life long commitment. We all come in different shapes and sizes and it is the person inside the body that counts.

[jahaims]

You are insecure. Discipline is a learned trait. Train your brain then your body.