How do I cope when I feel like I fail at everything and hate myself?

[MissPiggy2025]

Everytime I try to do something i fuck it up. I try and try and try and im never good enough something always has to go wrong.

I've been helping my in laws out in the garden whilst they're on holiday and last night i accidently turned the hosepipe the wrong way instead of turning it off and nearly flooded the porch. My husband cleaned it up and didn't say anything to my in laws as they already think im stupid enough as it is.

Then today I couldn't get the hosepipe to work at all but my husband grandad showed me how to fix it in the end. My mother in law loves to make a big drama out of this kind of stuff and laugh at me over these things. I told her it was fixed over the phone but she had to call up 2 times just to "double check".

Then tonight I came back up to close the green houses and the spray from the hosepipe fell off and got me soaked.

Then I went home to make a pecan pie for tomorrow as im having a bbq with my husbands family. I have no clue why but all the filling went to the bottom and the shortcrust went all puffy at the top. I followed the recipe to a t but of course it had to fuck up for me.

This is just average day for me everything I do is wrong. Im always getting myself lost when travelling and everything.

Im dyslexic so I already lack a lot of confidence and I just want to cry. I wish I didn't have my brain sometimes.

I dont mean to pitty myself im more angry at myself all the time literally nothing can go my way.

Im 6 months pregnant and I worry ill be complete failure at that too. If I can't even make a pecan pie how am I gonna be able to raise a baby.

Im 28 and only just past my test in January after trying for nearly 10 years on amd off probably and I still dont trust myself as everything I do is a massive fuck up

[bobalife]

Aww.. hey giry.. I wish I can give you a hug.. I think what you’re going through is a combination of things not working out at the moment, which can be overwhelming while being pregnant with a lot of hormones changing.. but just know this is all temporary. I actually realized 1.5 year ago I’m dyslexia as well. It doesn’t make you any less of a person. I think it’s easy to be hard on ourselves when things don’t always go our way, but everything will be okay and you’re gonna be a great mama 🤗


Maybe do something that brings you joy such as a warm bath and candles, listening to music, or talking about things with your partner to release some of those stress you’re carrying :)

[egan3141]

Sounds like you are doing too much for what you are capable of. Everyone has differently capabilities that are greatly influenced by a childhood you had very little control over. Acknowledge what you are capable of and decide what you most want to improve. Then tackle that list a little at a time. Since you have a baby on the way, what should be most important is basic home care and researching how to take care of a kid. Not gardening, not baking pies, but laundry, cleaning, what normal household items need to be put elsewhere so kids can't get into them, how to properly "clean" your baby while you change their diaper. For the first few years, you won't be cooking food for the baby anyway. You can learn that later. The internet is a treasure trove of information. Start asking what you need to know to take care of a baby, and start learning what you don't know a little at a time

[Anpu23]

https://manmademen.bandcamp.com/track/endeavor

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/565131453259241223/

Failure is the path to success No one is born knowing, we all start sucking, it's sticking to it is where success lives.

[Agape93]

You sound like one of my offline buddies. He thinks he's a jinx

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Venting is a first step, I'd say, which you've done here. When things get tough like that, it's customary to pay a visit to your gen practitioner, please consider it. It's likely they'll suggest some mild tranquilizers.

Wishing you well 🍀

[bowenw]

You are human like everyone else. These kind of things happen to everyone. They do not mean you are a failure, just human. If you feel bad about yourself, I suggest you talk to your doctor about it.

[exitseven]

I always thought you were okay. Let yourself off the hook a little.

[Iron_Man]

That reminds me of an episode of the Andy Griffin show. Maybe you’re too nervous. You need to relax.

[AngryCarl3]

Get therapy now. Because when you have a baby you won't have time.

[fish5505_87]

You need professional help. We all do at some point in our lives. Please, seek it!

[In_Trance]

Seems like you're already coping

[eagle1951]

you only fail if you stop trying

[jahaims]

You are just stupid

[MissPiggy2025]

Not as stupid as your mama