Any advice for a scared but excited first-time mum-to-be at 30 weeks?

[MissPiggy2025]

Im currently 30 weeks pregnant and its only just hit me recently how close I am now. A girl i went to school with posted on fb but she'd given birth, she was 36 weeks so thats only 6 weeks in front of me which is quite terrifying to think about.

One part of me is really excited to meet my snuggly little baby and finally getting hold them, the other part of me just wants it out and to stop kicking me in the ribs 😅 and the other part of me is terrified about pushing a baby out and then having to be responsible for it.

I've heard all the horror stories from my family and friends. My mum told me to "be greatful for the holes i have whilst I still have them".

I know i have my husband and family to support me but im worried they'll be over baring and ill lose my temper with them.

I've got most things ready but still have no birth plan or seen the ward ill be on. Im thinking about a water birth as a lot of people have recommended it to me but I dont know how to bring it up to my midwife.

Im a low risk pregnancy and have been told my baby is really healthy. Its a good hospital too but all brits know NHS isn't prefect especially all the stuff in the news atm about all the failures maturity wards are making and the lucy letby shit atm too gives me so much fear.

[whocares1972]

First of all congratulations on your pregnancy. Yes, the families will be over bearing, but that's in love, nothing else. Hold your boundaries with YOUR child, they will understand, except grammas. They don't listen. Good luck with the gramma's. Doula's are very good, I highly recommend hiring one. Eat healthy, go for walks, carry on as normal, and be grateful you are blessed to have a baby. It's YOUR journey, don't listen to anyone for advice, follow your intuition and you will be fine. Blessings to you and your new beautiful baby ♥️🙏

[MissPiggy2025]

Thank you 😊

[MissPiggy2025]

I worry about my mother in law she's very sweet but extremely over the top. She keeps referring to thr baby as "are baby" and she's very flappy, excitable and loud.

She loves to be in charge and is highly opinionated on how I should be raising "our child"

[MissPiggy2025]

Its her first and only grandchild as my stister in laws partner can't have children. She thinks its gonna be the next Messiah or something

[whocares1972]

Well, from her perspective, this baby is a gift from God, and you know that, too. However, this is where you tell her to become the best gramma. She's not the mother, YOU are. In all honesty, they behaved the same way with THEIR babies.. so they understand. I'm a grama now. My daughter tried for 10 years to get pregnant. Yes, I spoil my grandson. Yes, he sleeps over so the " kids" can have a weekend off. Yes, I help whenever I can. But I'm not his mom, I'm one of the best gramma's. ♥️🥰

[Kelly6]

@misspiggy2025 I totally understand how you are feeling.

i just gave birth a week ago, and i was also feeling same

[MissPiggy2025]

Congratulations ❤️

[Kelly6]

@misspiggy2025
Thanks

[exitseven]

We do not know each other well but I have noticed you. You seem to be very nice and will make a great mother. It is a lot of responsibility, a lot of work and a big adjustment to make. Still, having a little baby around is one of the best things that ever happened to me.
Just take one day at a time and make sure you and your husband work together to raise this baby/

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[NathanDavis]

get your advice from an experienced professional... is the best advice I can offer you... lol

[MissPiggy2025]

Yeah but they dont know the emotional fear of it all. They just treat you as a piece of meat

[NathanDavis]

then, the best advice I can give you is... find a better doctor

[MissPiggy2025]

Its the uk you get what your given. I haven't even spoken to a doctor

[NathanDavis]

is private practice banned in the UK?

[MissPiggy2025]

No but its also not adviced during pregnancies in the uk as they aren't prepped for emergencies and im also not a millionaire who can afford private health care

[NathanDavis]

is there a husband?

[MissPiggy2025]

Yes omg let me guess you gonna say my husband should be earning six figures and should get himself in debt to pay for it?

[NathanDavis]

well, let me guess... whatever I say

you're just going to complain about the UK

and then blame it on...

[MissPiggy2025]

Ill just move to America to have my baby surly that will stop me from being nervous. Everyone knows American women dont get scared about giving birth because they pay for there health care

[NathanDavis]

actually... the USA is the only "first world nation" in the top seven nations with the abnormally high-rates of infant and mother mortality because of preventable-pregnancy-birth-related issues, so...

maybe try Canada perhaps, or anywhere else in Europe since you're already there

[FunkyMonkee]

Just 12 more weeks and it'll all be over! Your life, that is.

[Abbycado]

Be grateful of her holes? Wtf

[MissPiggy2025]

Think she was trying to make light of the tearing situation that commonly happens during child birth

[Abbycado]

Holes would imply there are more than one that facilitates this.

[MissPiggy2025]

Oh honey 🙈 your in for a shock

[MissPiggy2025]

Women have 3 holes down there. One for baby's, one for peeing and one for 💩

[MissPiggy2025]

There all pretty close to each other so think what's gonna happen if you try and push a 7 pound baby out the baby hole it ain't just gonna magically spring back into place

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Breathe! Breathe! Heee heee hooo.

[Anonymous]

Believe in yourself.