How long can grief-related spiraling last after losing a parent?

[Anonymous]

After my mom passed away my older sister has been spiraling. She has not gotten sleep and she has been saying some hurtful things and scaring her husband, her daughter and myself her younger sister. She is now in therapy and will be there for 5 days but I would like to know if anyone has gone through this? Has anyone in your family spiraled and how long did it last? Or nothing changed or got worse.. anything will help. This is the first time we lose someone in our family and we lost our queen

[Anonymous]

Understood. If your mom is really the queen you say she is then i would tell you sister. Your mom still loves her and STILL wants the best for her death CANNOT stop that! And that your mom would be angry if she just quit! Because this is ABSOLUTELY true!. My mother died just over a year ago. And what keeps me pushing some days when i just want to pull the covers over my head and cry, is all the sacrfices my mother made to get me to where i'm at. My mother lived each day. And tried to make the world a better place. Now that she's not in this mortal realm anymore. She would be disappointed if i didn't not pick up where she left off. So each day i remind myself i cannot let her down.

My sister took my fathers death pretty hard. It's hard to say when someone fully gets over that. Because i'd say you don't. You just learn to deal with it better.

I'm not mad at your sister per se because i understand the pain. But if she's got a daughter like you said then he daughter needs HER mom.

Does your sister have a church? Because i'd recommend some spiritual help for her.

[Asker]

I’m so sorry for your loss. The death of a parent is the toughest thing I have had to endure too. Thank you also for replying. My sister is now in a therapy group and will be there for 5 days. This is helping her a lot and I can hear she’s doing better each day.

[exitseven]

My father died when I was unemployed and traing for a new career, I did not have to option to spiral.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Anonymous]

Some people are off for years. It can depend on their experience level with death and how dependent on those people they were.

[Nikki1989]

That would depend on your level of inner strength.

[Anonymous]

Some people live in their parents basement. So it doesn’t matter.

[jahaims]

Depends on how emotionally healthy you are