Is it shallow that I want to be beautiful?

[Anonymous]

Being a girl, I feel like an ugly duckling all my life until I got my nose job. I sounds shallow but people treat you by how you look. I know this first hand.

[Myth024]

First you have to be able to define beauty. During the Victorian era the fatter a woman was, the more attractive and beautiful she was considered to be. Now we have magazines, clothing and makeup manufacturers defining what beauty is. So when people look at themselves they only see deficiencies instead of an inherent beauty that is always there. It's not shallow to want to be beautiful but you also have to decide what beauty means to you. Once you can look at yourself and believe your beautiful because you think you are instead of because the opinions and ideas of the world around you, then you will no longer need to worry about how others view you. I once saw a woman that had one side of her face horribly scarred but there was still something about her that I found incredibly attractive. It wasn't until years later that I understood that it was because she thought she was beautiful and that type of inner beauty truly did show through.

[martyfellow]

You mean 'first nose', don't you? Do people really treat you better, or do guys in the dating scene just play up to you more?

Usually people don't relate to each other by their looks, but by whether they have good character, or not, and looks don't help in that evaluation. Judging by looks is only in clubs and pick-up bars and the like.

[shivvy]

The question here really is that , who do you want to please ? do you want a image in front of EVERYONE , is there someone special or do you want someone to love you for yourself ? I do believe that any sort of artifical "improvement" creates a different image of a person and if you do too much , it can actually influence how you want people to perceive you as a person and could possible cover up a beautiful personality

[RedSmartie]

There's nothing wrong with doing whatever you want to make yourself look the way you want. If it makes you feel attractive, that's what should count, right?

I honestly don't understand nose jobs. I personally do not notice noses unless they are absolutely terrible.

[Asker]

It for practical reason to me beside looks. I couldn't wear my glasses correctly because my bridge was too low.

[RedSmartie]

Wouldn't it have been cheaper to get contacts?

[Asker]

I guess it is but my contact kept tearing. Contact would have been cheaper but it would cost me the same a nose job in 25 years. But a nose job last a lifetime.

[RedSmartie]

I guess that makes sense.

[tadpole25]

no. its understandable.

whoever says they don't care about their looks or other peoples looks is a total liar.

in fact, I bet after that surgery, more men opened doors for you.

[Asker]

That is True. More doors were open more me...

[zagor]

No, most of us seem to have something we're self-conscious about. I had a couple moles on my back I always hated, so I always envied people with really nice skin.

[LonelyandInTheDark]

nah, I think a lot of girls nowadays want to be beautiful...

[UnluckyContender]

Do you think you would stop with a nose job?

[Asker]

I like my nose now so I don't think I will need another one. I do want to get wisdom teeth out because it is starting to hurt.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Well its true, do what makes you happy.