At what point should we be worried about our weight/appearance?

[Anonymous]

I am not fat. I have a good 5-10 lbs that I could do without (I don't quite have a flat stomach and a little extra on my hips), but I do have a small waist and am not overweight. I cannot say that I am very confident about my body, however, due to some rude comments from an ex (there is a reason he is an ex). This past summer, I killed myself to lose the weight and it literally drove me insane--with absolutely no weight gone. I spent 4 months in Italy recently and have gained about 5 of the extra 10 I now have. My question is this: guys, is it worth girls (in general) counting every calorie, feeling regret after every indulgence, and spending way too much time concerned about our bodies? Do you really care if girls have a little "padding"? At what point is it a turn off/deal breaker? I know there have got to be lots of people that are forgiving if their partner isn't picture perfect. This question can go both ways, so ladies, same questions but about men! I am looking for honest answers, but that doesn't mean you can be a douche bag about it. Thanks!

[martyfellow]

Don't worry too much watt other people think. Mature people aren't going to condemn you to celibacy because you have a few extra pounds, for crying out loud.

But you will be a lot more attractive with that 5-10 pounds gone, no question about that. Maybe more importantly, you'll feel a sense of accomplishment and self-satisfaction for accomplishing your goal.

if you want to get into shape just for general health reasons, you usually need help, such as that provided by Weight Watchers or other organization that has researched the best and least painful ways to lose those extra pounds They'll give you a plan and some tasty low-cal desserts to keep you from feeling like you are starving while you get to your target weight..

Like you, most people don't get there on their own..

[kheserthorpe]

Being 5-10 lbs overweight is generally not a deal breaker.

Gaining 2 -3 lbs/year is going to send you to deal breaker status in a few years.

[Samcha]

I like my men with muscles - biceps, 6 pack. Having said that if you're in a serious relationship you're not as focused so much on the physical. I can't quantify how much fat gain is too much but as long as they don't look significantly different from when you first started dating then I think it's OK.

I don't like counting calories I try to eat well and exercise most days.

I would tell you to eat clean ie cut down on the junk food but don't go cold turkey. And find some form of exercise that you like. It's a great stress reliever and helps rid the body of toxins and it makes you feel great!

[kylescs]

don't worry what other people say you don't have to be anorexic to be beautiful

[KingsOfleon88]

Cute face over body imo. Body can be improved.

[Anonymous]

during marrying