If he REALLY wants me back, he'll contact me right?

[Anonymous]

We mutually broke up (but it was more of him than me). I took it well and remained civil. I then went home, cried, unfriend him on fb and watched movies all night with my girls.

I'm not contacting him for sure and applied to other job position to move out of state.

In one week I lost some weight, brought new cloths and look much better.

I'm never mean to him. If he REALLY wants me back, he'll contact me right? He has my numbers, email and can still fb message me.

Yes if he really wants to talk/reconnect/see me, he'd contact me

No, even if he really want to talk/reconnect/see me, he prob won't contact me

See answer/other

Updates

+1 y

Sorry, forgot to say. I FB message him 2 days ago (2weeks after break) and just said how are you and stuff. Just 2 sentences, no dates nothing.


No reply from him.

Updates

+1 y

He called and said he wants me back. I'm not sure about this since I don't feel OK about someone breaking up with me.

Updates

+1 y

My whole point of asking is just I want to know if a guy really wants something, would he take the initiative?


I guess not all men would.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

If you want him back, you gotta be active. If you're not active, all you're going to do is let things stagnate and die. He could be stubbornly stupid himself about something and not get over his own pride or whatever to be with you again.

But no, just cause he might want you back he might not contact you about it. But, to be honest, I've got a feeling he doesn't want you back if he hasn't responded by now.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Ah, cause of update, well hmm. That's complicated. Well, maybe. What caused the break up in the first place? Anything that can be worked over?

[Yellowsmurf]

I'm just curious about what leads you to believe you really wants to contact you.

Mostly it was him breaking up and immediately after you decided to try and delete all he's ever been to you by changing yourself and moving out of state. That'd be a very large "this is over" sign for me.

I think hypothetically yes, he would call you if he wanted to, but I also think he doesn't want to.

[Anonymous]

Please don't do this to yourself. just forget him and find someone else who is more worthy

[Asker]

True. However, hypothetically he'd contact me right if he wants to see me?

[Anonymous]

I would think so yes, if he really wants to get a hold of you, he will find the way.

[temptationfalls]

Considering you left, unfriended him, and haven't contacted him he probably thinks you don't want to go back to the relationship.

If you want him back then how about you talk to him about it?

[Asker]

True but when we first dated, he's really bold, masculine, etc.

I'm just sayin, if he really wants me he'd contact me right?

[temptationfalls]

If you really wanted him back you'd contact him right? Why is it his job to come back to you? Why does he have to be the bold one?

[Asker]

Because I contact him once already and he didn't reply. I FB messaged him 2 days ago

[temptationfalls]

If he didn't reply then he doesn't want to talk to you. Leave it alone then.

[Asker]

Yea but I'm speaking hypothetically if he wants to talk to me, naturally he'd contact me right?

[temptationfalls]

If he wanted to talk to you then he would have responded to you when you messaged him. Since he didn't respond, HE DOESN'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU

[Asker]

Be nice :-) I'm just talking hypothetically. His best friend just called me.

[temptationfalls]

By being nice do you mean give you the answer you want to hear?

[Asker]

No, no, no. I mean you typing in caps looks like you're yelling at me. I want a manly guy so I was wondering if "hypothetically" men actually go after something they want or are they too cowardly to do that. I'm beautiful but my ex is medium looking. I liked him because he's nice but he's not manly sometimes so if he doesn't change, I don't want him anyways.

I'm just asking, hypothetically, if You wanted an ex back, would you go get her?

[temptationfalls]

My exes stay exes. No matter what.

[goldgunsgirls]

Other. Don't bank on him contacting you, and even if he does, you guys broke up for a reason. You just didn't work. Don't get back with him.

[goldgunsgirls]

@Updates: I still think you shouldn't get back with him. Again, you guys broke up for a reason. Getting back together is only asking for trouble. It's not gonna work. Just say no.