I'm very sorry to hear this. Sometimes, infidelity happens, sometimes intentional, sometimes less so. Is forgiveness in your heart? I know it's difficult, but if he has remorse, then it's likely that half of him didn't want to get with that girl, and half of him wanted to get with that girl, and his desire for her gained the upper hand.
I know you feel mad, unconfident, and scared (you're not being selfish), but time will heal you. If you really love him, then can you give him unconditional love? If you do find it in yourself to forgive him, then let him know that you're giving him one chance, and that if he ever breaks your trust again, you will break up with him.
It seems that he still cares about you, which is why he said "I know you don't care about me like you used to." That means that he really wishes he didn't make that mistake, and that he still cares whether or not you care about him. He still desires the good times you spent together.
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interesting I actually posted a question about this exact topic link
You should try and remember that although the child is not yours the child could still see you as a motherly figure and your boyfriend can still have just as intimate relationship with you despite having another "baby mama". It does seem difficult for many to raise a child who is nto their own flesh and blood but if you can overcome your feelings towards it you could do a wonderful thing for this child by giving it a great positive female role model. It's really a difficult quandry to be in and really you just have to try and see how loving this child is just an extension of your love for the father
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