My boyfriend is unable to pick me up. and its the only thing I am unhappy about. Suggestions?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend picked me up and held me in his arms the other day. It was the most amazing feeling in the world.

However, we were in the water. It was the only time he has before, and he is only able to pick me up when we are in the water.

Partly because he is asthmatic and kinda weak, but also I am not incredibly light...

When he said that he wanted to pick me up more often, I said or I should lose weight and he said "well yeah. But I could also weight train or something"

So...should I lose weight? Or just be happy that we are happy?

Because other than him not being able to hold me, I am very happy.

I have 36G or 34F boobs, and I have a little bit of a stomach. I'm 180lbs.

Any ways to quickly lose weight? I literally tried to puke the little bit of food I have been eating, and I'm hardly eating anything lately.

[Onyx277]

I would definitely not suggest you starving yourself just because he can't pick you up as that is really unhealthy...

I'm 5'7, 160 lbs, with 34B boobs and my ex couldn't really pick me up either but never made a fuss about it. He always tried to, and always laughed it off when he couldn't do it though.

Losing weight is completely up to you, but don't do only because of your boyfriend not being able to pick you up. There are so many other ways to express physical affection in a relationship other than the guy picking the girl up.

If you do insist on losing weight however, I would suggest start by changing your eating habits and try to get in at least 30 minutes of exercise a day at least 3-4 times a week. Eat a lot of fiber, a fair amount of protein, and limit your fat and sugar intake greatly. Do not make yourself throw up whatever you do since that can make your insides rupture and your teeth rot due to the acid that they're constantly being bathed in.

Starving yourself usually does the opposite from my experience, it turns off your metabolism so your body saves every ounce of food it has left and stops you from losing weight. It can also make your body start eating its own muscles and trust me, you don't want that...

[SarahP]

If you're happy in every other aspect, why worry.

Lose weight because you want to be healthier but don't look for the quick fix. Choose healthier food options. Make a life style change and that is more likely to help you lose the weight and keep the weight off.

Obviously your large boobs add to your overall also. I'm a G cup also, so I know how that goes. :)

[Anonymous]

You can't quickly lose weight. It is a slow and steady process. But yeah, losing weight is the only thing I could recommend here.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Eat less, exercise more, and find something else to worry about.

[pickledxtofu]

I think by adding the puking part, you're wanting people to tell you that you're at an OK weight and that it's his fault

To lose weight, you should eat healthy and exercise. There's no other way or short cuts.

Do I think you should be unhappy about this? No. Who cares if he can't pick you up. It's more than likely not his fault because unless you're 6'0, 180 is heavy.

Do I think you should lose weight? Yes, for your health. But not for this.

[Asker]

I never said it was his fault. Just that I was sad he was unable to. I have tried to lose weight, but thanks to medication I am on, I am unable to

[pickledxtofu]

I'm not saying you're saying it's his fault. I'm saying that even if he lifted weights it still wouldn't help. And it wouldn't be quick either. Weights take time...just as losing weight does

[britannny]

It's really, really REALLY stupid to make a big deal out of the fact that your boyfriend can't pick you up. Just get over it, lol. It would be stupid for him to weight train solely for the purpose of making himself able to support your body weight. And you should probably lose a little weight, for your health, but puking yourself is not the way to do that.

There are more important things in life to worry about.

[Janson]

+1 to brit

[Anonymous]

That doesn't matter. I'm not fat, and my boyfriend can barely pick me up for longer than 30 seconds lol. Don't worry about it, seriously. If your weight bothers you, change it. But don't change it for other people.

[Anonymous]

Smoke crack. lol

[Opinion Owner]

Just messing with you. Just exercise and eat less.