How do you feel more confident when dancing in front of people?

[Sunrise_in_Sydney]

I used to dance a lot when I was young audience or not, but as I got older, it began to make me feel self-conscious, and I just eventually stopped dancing altogether. I'll dance in my seat in the car or at home, but I just never feel confident enough to just stand up and do it. Even when I'm alone, I just feel silly.

[OhLongJohnsoning]

Just remember, most of the people you're dancing in front of, either don't dance themselves, or, like you, probably won't even get up, even if they do

I took salsa lessons for the first time, for around 6-9 months, or so, and the only real reasons i stopped was that my partner moved, and covid starting.

I wanted to learn something after watching DWTS for the first time, when nikki bella did it. I'm a huge pro wrestling fan. She even married her own partner and has kids with him

So, she inspired me to learn some sort of dance and i wound up taking salsa

[DryGermanGuy]

You could listen to some appropriate self-help tapes: 🙃

https://youtu.be/KamFVvK5bKQ?feature=shared

[rachel776]

i thought i was a good dancer and then we started traveling with these professional dancers and the things they showed me that made me way better were unbelievable and it didn't take much time

[CieloAzul]

Just dance and don’t think about anything else, after a few minutes it’ll be ok.

[DannyUk2017]

I feel pretty confident and the floor can be all mine after about 8 beers,4 doubles of jd & coke, and couple of Jeggarbombs... then Nothing can stop me! Don't care who laughs or points fingets at me... The floor is mine... like to be a happy drunk...😅🤣

[Elliegirl]

Dancing is about having fun. Don’t worry what people think and just enjoy the music, yourself, and have fun!

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Close your eyes and feel the music. When I am in front of people, I have this trick: I just look at their foreheads. That relaxes me.. 😌

[DishLady]

Can you pinpoint the moment that you became self-conscious? That might help you figure out why you're not dancing.

[Sunrise_in_Sydney]

When I really think about it, I think I stopped when I was 14, but I can't think of any kind of event that would have caused it. I used to take dance lessons as a kid and enjoyed it a lot. It's one of the reasons I strive to try and enjoy dance again. My husband and I are going on a cruise for our honeymoon, and I know he's going to want to dance at one of the party's or at some event and I want to be confident enough to actually do it.

[DishLady]

Ok, so I'll tell you what I told a young lady near me who has anxiety issues. You're not alone, you're with your husband, who loves you... Lean on him. That's what marriage is for anyhow.

As for ridding yourself of the anxiety, There's a type of musical therapy that's become very popular and might be something for you to consider. Music and movement, letting your thoughts drift meditatively in and out of your mind. Just enjoy.

Try to separate your love of the music and its value (which are positive) from your performance anxiety. Then gradually try to shift that anxiety to a "solo stage" setting rather than a dance floor setting, remembering that you're with your man on the dance floor and everything WILL be ok.

(Deep breaths during the meditation... IN, hold five full seconds... OUT, hold five full seconds)

Try this for a 10-15min spurt every day and see how you feel after a couple of weeks. If you have a proper Music Therapy clinic near you that's best so your progress can be monitored and honed a bit more. Ok?

[Sunrise_in_Sydney]

This is really helpful, thank you! I'll definitely try it out

[jahaims]

By getting your self worth from who you are as a person instead of from what others think. Insecure people care about what others think

[Anonymous]

Never had this problem. Because I know 95% of people can't dance and only think they can. So I just assume I look goofy when dancing and embrace it.

[war_daddy]

drinking helps. but really just start to move and it will feel normal eventually

[FarmBoy13]

Alcohol