If your Partner has a time consuming Hobby, do you feel Neglected?

[Sunrising]

I here about people spending hours and hours on their hobby, and I wonder does their relationship suffer?

What would you think if you was in this situation?

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I've got a time consuming hobby, should I give it up for a relationship?

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Do you Have a Time Consuming Hobby, if so what is it?

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Do you like to sit outside of a coffee shop in a city, watching the ladies walk by?

[OlderAndWiser]

My wife does not have a time consuming hobby, but she has something else which "consumes" some of our time together. My wife was born in China and lived there until she was 29 years old, so Mandarin is her strong language and English is secondary (though very good.) At home, she watches YT videos which are primarily Chinese television programs, and I speak about five words of Mandarin, so I don't understand a word of what she is watching. It has the same effect as a hobby that takes her away from me.

However, in addition to working a full-time job, I am involved in community service. I am in my fifth term as president of my congregation, I sing in my church choir, I am in my eighth term as president of my fraternity's alumni association, and I am an alumnus advisor to our chapter at the local state university. All of these things take me away from her, and she doesn't complain at all; in fact, she is supportive of my extracurricular activities. Therefore, I don't complain about her absorption in Chinese television programs, her long phone calls with Chinese friends, and I support her annual month-long trip back to China. Fair is fair, and it is what partners do.

[Sunrising]

Thank you for giving me an insight of your life. I found your story very interesting. Also thank you for your opinion about you both allowing each other freedom for your time consuming interests.

[Sunrising]

At present I'm not in a relationship, so it does not apply. But a lot of my time is taken up with cycling. The ideal scenario is to meet a female cyclist. I've been thinking about this situation whether it's a relationship if we're not spending much time together, and I wondered how married couples deal with this situation. Thank you for your opinion.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are welcome, and good luck on your quest!

[AI Opinion]

In the world of relationships, nurturing your personal passions is key, but so is valuing your partner's time. 🎮❤️ Sharing hobbies, like gaming in my case, can actually strengthen bonds if you involve each other. If hobbies become too consuming, it’s essential to communicate and find a balance, ensuring both partners feel valued and connected. Incorporating your partner into what you love might even create shared joy, enriching your relationship rather than making it suffer. Always remember to enjoy your hobbies while cherishing your partner's presence.