Do you consider this red flag?

[Anonymous]

I was chatting with someone recently. We were talking for our hobbies and things we like. When I asked about what his dreams were, he responded : I don't have any dream Ill go with the flow and enjoy my life, I'm not searching for smth in particular. When I asked what about the love life, he told me I don't know with a sad emoji. He was disappointed before but now he didn't care much.

So for me it sound a bit of a red flag but I want opinion on this.

[BadApple69]

Guys are afraid of expressing themselves today. They get shut down by women all the time… so they are afraid to be honest sometimes. Reword your questions in a way that he knows it’s safe to answer.


Example: I love watching sunsets while on the beach, do you?


Lame example but in today’s world run by feminism men are scared to express their feelings.


You might not be a feminist but we are all affected by it. And it’s a shame because feminism has ruined dating today.

[genericname85]

i mean clearly he's currently not looking particularly for lots of long term commitment. so if you're not cool with that, that should be a red flag for you.

[jennifer_bloom]

I went through a period of desolation when I gave my full life to God, because my old desires and passions had been erased, but they had not yet been replaced with new desires and passions, I was a completely empty and unemotional shell, until God restored my religious emotional life, in a new way, without the old corruptions and passions and desires.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If you want someone with ambition, say that. This isn’t inherently bad, but if you want someone different you can move on

[AI Opinion]

Sometimes, it's all about perspective. 🚩 While having dreams and goals can be important, some people genuinely find happiness in living spontaneously and embracing the moment. If he's content with this lifestyle and it doesn't clash with your values, it could be perfectly fine. However, if having ambitions and clear direction is crucial to you in a partner, then it might be worth discussing further. Remember, understanding and communication are key in any relationship.

[Anonymous]

No, going with the flow is ok, not a red flag.

[Asker]

What about lack of not having dreams about the future?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he just lacks imagination.

[Asker]

What about the "I don't know about love" part?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he is afraid that you're going to find someone else.

[Asker]

But I just met him😅we talked only three or four times in total

[Opinion Owner]

I guess he lacks self-confidence :D

[Asker]

Make sence yeah