Should I be sad that im single and no kids for Christmas at 23?

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And lets face it after 25 no guy on this planet will want me. I wish i can have a family and someone who loves me. I work a full time job and have lots of goals&ambitions and i feel like i will die alone. Almost everyone at my job has either kids or married or both.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Quote: I've heard guys dont want girls after 25 tho or especially not 30 because they go for younger ones mostly, i cry and dread that reality a lot.

A good start would probably to understand this concept properly; the idea is that your value on the dating market declines with age. This does not mean that it drops off a fucking cliff at 25, so try to get some perspective.

Stop comparing yourself to other people, you aren't them, you are you and life is not fair, its not a level playing field and crying that other people have an advantage over you is pointless, all you achieve is to make your situation worse because it is still whatever it is but you are also crying.

I dont know if you have bothered to notice or not but divorce and otherwise broken homes are common place, what does this mean? It means that a lot of people are getting married who shouldn't be, so perhaps you should frame your situation more positively; you have not yet fucked your life dream by marrying or getting knocked up by, the wrong person.

Now Im not going to tell you that you have all the time in the world because you dont but you do still have time to make something happen, so stop fucking crying, figure out what qualities your life partner MUST have and proceed on that basis, filtering for your fish.

Pro tip: Dont sell yourself short and dont have unrealistic expectations.

You are not a perfect person (There aren't any)

Drumlin2001 · Accepted Answer

I met my partner when I was 36 and she was 39, we now have 2 amazing kids. 23 is nothing. Stop stressing and live your life

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

why do you think after 25 life is over? it's not. you are acting so ridiculous... life is a lot harder than you know. i have a partner, but i too want a family and to be married so bad. but life is hard... mental health, money, the housing crisis... things are just not easily given to you. plus we're in a pandemic. you need to give yourself a break or you'll end up hurting your mentality. you'll be fine. not a lot of people follow the timeline they give themselves. and if they do, they may regret rushing.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Lol this is a joke right? No way you really believe that. That's like me believing I will never drink water again because I ran out of water bottles yesterday. Lol. Do you really believe that though? I can help you change your belief. That belief is the only enemy you have.

bowenw · Answer

It may feel that way now, but you have lots of time left to find your soulmate. I found mine at 30. Some find theirs sooner, some later.

Heartache0405 · Answer

Absolutely not, no. Enjoy being single while it lasts because the next thing you know you’ll wish you were still single

Guardian45 · Answer

WHO told you your life is over after 25? WDAF? Tell them to FO!!! I know a woman who had a child when was she was 40 and married a different guy when she was 83 and had a good 10 years before her husband died!

HighValue · Answer

You have at least 7 more years to find a good mate.

Koda1 · Answer

If you weren't anon I'm sure plenty of guys would talk to you lol.

VikingWarLord · Answer

Just get in a decent shape, don't be over--weight and you'll find a husband soon

Twalli · Answer

I met my girlfriend at 31 and we started dating when she was 32. We bad sex when she was 33 and she's now 35. So I would be happy with a girl over 25.

Katie102 · Answer

You're only 23 , there's nothing to be sad about. You have your whole life ahead of you.

Wise4myage · Answer

Of course not, you're 23, not 43, lol.

Swordnen · Answer

I am 23 SIngle NO kids, and coding rn than going out.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Totally. If that's really your mindset, then most likely no one will break you out of it..

Tstrbrainer · Answer

You have career goals, right? Focus on them.  Kids and family would be a drag on it

hsshannah96 · Answer

I’m 25 and this is true for me hahahahah

Anonymous · Answer

you are out of your mind , you are ONLY 23 I wish I was that young , you are just trolling what you are saying is not possible

blueazure · Answer

You shouldn't. Because you will not be single one day. And you will be a mom.

nirvana55 · Answer

No, you should not be sad about that. You still have many years ahead of you.

Anonymous · Answer

I'll be 32 next year and I never even held a hand of a girl. Lol you have 10 years.

noohair · Answer

Your life is not over at 23. It has just begun.

jahaims · Answer

Why let other people decide how you feel

ready113 · Answer

YOU TELL ME... IT DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU WANT

Papabubbles · Answer

Tell me you're not serious.

fireforeffect · Answer

Not at all. You will meet the right person.

Anonymous · Answer

How long have you been single now

LegendaryIcon · Answer

very

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