Have you ever dated someone "just for the holidays" so you wouldn't have to show up alone to events?

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DaveJord · Accepted Answer

No, I have not... but I feel like women have done this to me before. I have been online dating for three years. I have noticed a lot of the same women in my area, routinely become more active on the dates during the winter months. The hardest times to connect with someone is during the summer months. People are outside and more active during the summer, that's a fact.

I have dated two women for more than 3 months from online. I connect with each of them in November, and the relationships ended by April. Hell, I went all summer struggling to find a good woman, and three of them all connected with me in November almost in the same week.

Something about the holidays, make women feel lonely and horny.

smne35 · Accepted Answer

No that's using someone to save face, and you would not wear to be treated that way, if you are not involved with anyone so what is no body's business your attending their gathering alone, and if it's a must you be with someone not come alone then that's an affair I will hear about when we next see each other, I can only speak for myself in saying I'm not here to exist to conform to anyone's expectation but my own and if anyone can't accept that or me for my choices or how and who I am oh well you don't change who you are or your perception to please anyone and you don't use anyone to satisfy others in their view of what is acceptable to them just saying

Sugar100 · Accepted Answer

Yes I wanted to do that this Christmas as I’ll be 26 and never in life have spent Christmas with a boyfriend. However I barley am talking with my crush as he returned to the job just 2 wks ago. So even tho he won’t be my boyfriend In time for Christmas , things are looking good and maybe he’ll be my boyfriend very soon. 🙂

MissStrawberry912 · Accepted Answer

No, I only bring guys who I’m in relationships with and ready to introduce. It be weird to bring a random person just because you feel lonely lol. I also am a social butterfly, so it’s not a big deal to me.

Screenwriter · Answer

I've heard of this. But no. I was never on a holiday parties list where I had to show up with someone. Everyone was glad to have ME show up. No brag. Just fact!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No. I have had a first date on Valentine's Day, but continued dating for several months afterwards. I started dating Helen on December 15, 2020, but we are now living together and engaged.

exitseven · Answer

I have heard of guys that dump their girlfriends on Thanksgiving so they don't have to buy them Christmas presents. I never heard of this.

Avicenna · Answer

No way. You can just ask a friend to do that.

Likes2drive · Answer

Never had anyone I could just take spur of the moment like that and I wouldn’t do that if I had the intention of breaking up afterwards

rosemilk · Answer

no, but my friend has always done this

AviatorTom · Answer

Sounds like the plot of a Hallmark movie...

hahahmm · Answer

Pro tip.. the fact you bring a new man around family every holiday doesn't make people think the guy is taking you seriously. It makes people think you can't keep a man and you have a new man every 6-12 months. Anyhow, I don't think guys are desperate to have their family think that a woman is taking them seriously. Some may want people to know they have a woman but that is an any time of year thing in that case.

Anonymous · Answer

Once dated a guy I wasn't in to just have someone for a Halloween party then it processed for Thanksgiving then Christmas the valentines and finally broke up with him after my birthday and a big family wedding I needed a date for. I had a ton of sex with him all the way through that I didn't really want just to keep him happy, he made good money but was only 5ft10 and wasn't in shape.

Anonymous · Answer

Hell no. I think the ones who are more concerned w things like that are women. Men usually don’t give a shit about going to things alone. I go to concerts, dinners, sporting events, etc, alone. Yes I am w someone, have been for 15 years but she doesn’t always want to go.

rachel776 · Answer

that's not the kind of person i'd want to be bringing home, especially at the holidays

lily_of_the_valley · Answer

Sadly yes. I dated this one guy so I wouldn't feel lonely on Valentine's Day. What's ironic is that he broke up with me the night before Valentine's Day, and then he got back with me like a day or so after it.

blackburn21 · Answer

I have never done that, but would definitely do it if I really had to get out of uncomfortable conversations. However, I have always been in relationships, so fix plans

Benjiman19 · Answer

I wish I had. Was always to shy to ask out someone. Yet, I didn't go to too many holiday events that wasn't just my family. So, I guess it wasn't that bad

trellbrown84 · Answer

I've never dated. I've been told I'm not worthy I'm too ugly I'm too black I'm too short I'm not Thug enough I'm not black enough I'm not white enough everything is not enough for me to be desired.

So I gave up and now I just sit at home alone in my home and go to work.

Phoenix98 · Answer

No and to be honest kind of seems like a waste of my time and her time. And lets say you do that then you meet someone you like and they like you, kind hard to make a move when your date is right there.

rigmarole · Answer

More like dump people for the holidays so you don't have to introduce them to family when they aren't serious long term material, but they think they are...

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Nope. I spent most of my life single, I don’t need to be in a relationship or be seeing a girl to be happy. I prioritize myself. The sooner people realize this the better off they are, a relationship should be an addition to life. Not a necessity

mentallybroken0420 · Answer

No I would not do that because I feel like that's playing someone feelings if I do if I'm alone in the holidays then so be it I'm fine by that

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Kinda - I had a close female friend and we would be each others holiday dates when neither of us had one.

JC_jester · Answer

It happened that my college friend and I pretended to be a couple in front of our families. It wasn't a real date, but to keep up appearances, we held hands and I kissed her on the cheek a few times.

RasmusAiken · Answer

I would hire an escort before resorting to insincerely using a friend.

Dargil · Answer

Just how cold can you be during the holidays? I can sort of understand a vacation fling, like on a cruise, but this seems heartless to me.

molonski2 · Answer

Yes , I've done that , it was just for the holidays.

strateguy632 · Answer

i like that idea, i never found one unfortunately.

RageBabe · Answer

Oh my gosh, that's probably the shallowest thing someone can do, and for what?

DextroShade · Answer

It's called "cuffing season" when women get temporary upstanding boyfriends to show off their families only to ditch these guys after the holidays and go back to the cock carousel.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Nope. I am fine going as a couple, with a group, or alone to pretty much anything. I've gone to concerts alone, eaten at restaurants alone, gone to parties alone.

Iron_Man · Answer

No I don’t use people to date for occasions besides the next Christmas party you have to answer for where is she lat

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Nah. I can handle attending events by myself

Wood3nWhal3 · Answer

Nope, but I will say that each year I do always find myself under a new mistletoe 😏 I am a romantic nomad after all...

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, that is just too weird.

LoverOfBooty23 · Answer

They made a movie about this called holidate. It’s actually pretty good

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds good on paper but it's more of a gold digger

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I DON'T HAVE THAT LUXURY

Account · Answer

Never.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

That sounds pathetic.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

„Riddikulus!!!“  - Harry Potter

sawno · Answer

I only date for the long term.

boggboss · Answer

Nope im not that shallow

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

No, if you don't want to go, you just say no.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, thats stupid.

annabananna · Answer

No I didn’t mind showing up single when I was.

PetiteMisSmooth546 · Answer

Just for 2 weeks at the beach yes

Ruenella_ · Answer

No, I have not. That seems like a lot of work.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

This is a really shitty thing to do.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

yea thats called an escort

msc545 · Answer

Sadly I have and it has never ended well.

boobliker · Answer

O yes! and it was great too

iFarted · Answer

No, that's a dick move...

OddBeMe · Answer

Nah that’s just sad.

Anonymous · Answer

No. That'd be truly pathetic.

krin_m · Answer

No I have not.

FenixG45 · Answer

No, but I guess some people do!

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

that's gross

elizamichale1 · Answer

Yup once

love_conquers_lust · Answer

No..

curious_gul · Answer

Nope

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Ew no

DreamLife7 · Answer

No not desperate

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