At what point is it okay to be upset at a gift someone got you?

[JustinTheGreat]

I’m not asking this for myself, I love all my gifts this year and I’m grateful for what everyone got me.

I just watched a video of a teenager opening up 4 different things of body wash sets from family on Christmas. And honestly I could tell he was hurt… the comment section seemed to agree. The top comments being “There’s no love for him in this room” and “This is what being in a room full of people and still being alone looks like”

people always say “it’s the thought that counts” but that’s the thing. Sometimes there’s no thought. Like yeah getting body wash is useful but it gets to the point where you ask “does my family know anything about me and my interests? Why didn’t they care to ask?”

there are young family members that I only see a couple times a year and I’ll admit that I don’t know all of their interests by heart. Especially with kids, they go through phases and like something different every few months.

So what I did was contacted their parents and asked…it took 2 seconds. If you’re gonna be lazy with your gift giving, then just give them money at that point lol.

Or I remember seeing a post from a long time ago where this woman was upset that her boyfriend got her a silver bracelet. Because she doesn’t wear silver, she’s never worn silver, she doesn’t like silver, she only wears gold. People were calling her ungrateful but I think the bigger picture here is that she felt that her boyfriend doesn’t pay attention to her enough to notice her style and her likes/dislikes.

to be loved is to be seen

[19magic]

I don't get upset, I get disappointed and hurt, cause it's like I lived with you for years, then for the next 10 years I saw you 2-4 times a week totalling 6-8 hours then for an entire two years once a fortnight spend 4-6 hours completely one on one together and yet when I ask her what do I like, all I get is I don't know. I could give my nan a list of likes and dislikes of hers. I ask her what music I like, oh you like that heavy rock stuff your dad likes yet in the last few years we've been to see grease, mums Mia 1/2, rocky horror show, hairspray, dream girls together most of which in the hippodrome. I painted her house and played a mixture of Tina turner, meatloaf, Cher for hours and hours and I knew more words to these songs than she did, but she don't remember

[IslaTheWitch]

you have the right to feel whatever you need to feel... just don't show negative emotions carelessly...

[Finchie40]

Never , you should never be upset about a gift that someone gives you , whether it’s something you wanted or didn’t want , it’s the thought that counts , when I give gifts , I honestly don’t expect anything in return , just giving a gift to someone i care about ir love is all that matters to me , People that complain about gifts are spoiled rotten selfish people that do not know how to give, they just want to receive. That boy probably got body wash because he doesn’t know how to give and just expects everything to be handed to him.

[ohsheeT]

It's really not okay I mean think about it this is just a moment in time

Somebody thought that they were giving you something that you would appreciate or that you needed

And it is what it is it's not like it's going to change your world so just accept it enjoy it like it and go out and buy whatever it was that you wanted or needed that's why you have a job this was something completely different

This came from a person's heart to you because they feel the way they do about you so just accept it let it go

[NathanDavis]

this is why my happiness comes from the gifts I will both give, and make...

when it comes to gifts, I am a giver... the rest, I don't really care much like that

[NathanDavis]

I very much appreciate them though, the gifts coming my way.. I should make that clear, lmao

[WindAtMyBack]

There is never an excuse to be upset over receiving a gift. Never. Anyone who gets upset over it is an ungrateful wretch.

[JustinTheGreat]

But you don’t think it’s understandable to be upset that a loved one doesn’t take the time to learn your interests?

[WindAtMyBack]

As I said, there is never an excuse to be upset. They are under no obligation to give a gift in the first place.

[19magic]

Okay extreme case here: you're allergic to peanuts, your dad buys you peanut chocolate, is there still no excuse to be upset over a gift

[WindAtMyBack]

@19magic

Same answer.

[JustinTheGreat]

I mean nahhh not knowing your own child’s allergies and giving them something that could potentially kill them is pretty bad lol

[Daniela1982]

When someone sends you this.

[Finchie40]

LMFAO

[Ariesman81]

Maybe the guy stinks and they were all trying to tell him something

[JustinTheGreat]

Maybe lol

[Godihateyou]

At no point. The gift is the gift. If you are upset that's a you problem and you are a cunt

[Shelly2002]

Unless they give you obvious, old and used textiles and they could've given you someone cheap but better and new. Or they give you someone were going to throw in the garbage. So by giving you old things you don't want nor need that's not a gift.
Or if a woman is proposed with the same ring he got declined by a past ex girlfriend years ago. Even the most humble woman that would be ok with any cheap ring (even a plastic ring), would be upset over it.

[Anonymous]

What kind of a gift are you looking for? That’s gonna make you happy

[Orlah]

You can feel how you want to