OlderAndWiser

When I was 28 years old, I returned to school “to make something of my life.” (Translation: I was tired of working a Monday-Friday 9-5 job that was going nowhere, I was single, and I thought going to school would be more fun than continuing to work for a corporate conglomerate.) Getting a...

Short answer: Never. Long answer: Conflict is inevitable in a relationship. Anybody who says they never have a conflict with their current partner is either telling a fib or one of them is biting their tongue, never expressing themselves for the purpose of avoiding conflict. If you really...

Not everyone should get married. There are many reasons why someone might choose to not get married. Please don’t respond to tell me this obvious fact; I haven’t overlooked it. This myTake is intended just for those who believe that they want marriage to be a part of their future. If you have...

My girlfriend has a son and 2 stepsons from her long term marriage which ended 7 years ago. Her son is in school about an hour away from us and he lives independently of his mother. He is a good son. My girlfriend is an instrumental force in the lives of her stepsons and she is very closely...

Unless you are in your first relationship, or you are waiting for your first relationship, you have some history. There are people in your past. Some of them may be relatively obscure memories and some of them may be quite fresh. Maybe it is one or two people. At my age, I could probably name 15...

Valentine's Day is reported to be the second busiest day of the year for restaurants. Wait times of one hour or more are the norm and some restaurants offer a limited menu to ease the burden on the kitchen staff. Prices may be inflated. If you are a practical person, you probably believe that is...

The ingredients of a successful LTR are: L = Love T =Trust R = Respect Chapter 1 was about love. Writing about love is like having fresh pastries for breakfast: sweet, light, delectable, wonderful! That was an easy topic to cover. Chapter 2 was about trust. That was not so easy. Trust is...

Most users on this site are hoping to eventually find themselves in a successful long term relationship. A minority of users don't want that and it's okay; not everyone is suited for long term monogamy. Some users will deny that they want an LTR but they are not being honest with themselves;...

I commented on a post recently. It was one of those how-do-I-look things and I responded as I usually do. Some of those things are annoying, of course, like the guys wearing sunglasses in every photo 'cause they're obviously cooler that a polar bear's ass. But some of those posts are girls who...

I read questions, usually from younger users, asking penetrating questions like: "Who's better? Men or women?" or "Who has stronger orgasms? Men or women?" or "Who cheats more? Men or women?" There are a few little problems with these questions. 1. Who could know? If you are a man, you know...

Occasionally, I see a post from someone who comments that something in our cuture is entirely stupid and if anyone else had a lick of sense, we would change the way we do things. For example, today, a young person asked why there is a prohibition on college faculty engaging in sexual...

So . . . 99% of the time, the couple above is not you and Miss Perfect (or you and Mr. Right.) You've been living together for more than a year and you're happy. You're as happy as pigs in a mud puddle. You're so happy you must sit on your hands to keep from clapping. You both graduated from the...

You have been dating for four months. In the beginning, you thought that he was Mr. Wonderful. You thought she was Ms. Right. You felt excited, alive, electric, and you were on top of the world. You went to really cool places for dates and it was everything that you always thought romance...

He broke up with you.  You knew it was going to happen.  He wasn’t being unfaithful to you and you weren't being faithful to him.  The sex was still good but that wasn’t enough to keep the relationship together.  You just didn’t seem to be on the same page and you knew he was unhappy.  You kept...

Recently, my girlfriend has been needy.  She is not a dependent or helpless female and she is not usually needy, but recently, circumstances have made her needy. She bought a house recently and moved in about 2 1/2 months ago.  I have been helping her to get settled in (we do not live together)...

Let’s establish one thing right away:  I’m biased.  I don’t think that cheaters deserve a second chance.  I have had a spouse cheat on me.  I have never cheated on a spouse and I have never cheated on a girlfriend to whom I had promised exclusivity.  I think it is inexcusable. Cheaters don’t...

Some breakups occur suddenly.  You make a surprise visit to his apartment and find him in bed with the girl who you thought was your best friend.  You scream and tell him, "Return to Hell, demon!"  You use every four-letter word you know to tell him about his character and then you turn and...

I recently saw a myTake in which a younger user (actually, 99% of you are younger users) said "I don't know what love is."  I was sad to hear that comment and I fear that too many young people today are disillusioned about romance, love, and marriage.  Hollywood issues movies about people...

My friend, Icyfire101, asked me for some advice about how to get over a girl.  I promised him that I would think about it.  Icyfire101, my good man, here are my thoughts and suggestions for you and everyone else who ever felt their heart break. You break up with someobody you dated two or three...

One of my younger friends, Icyfire101, requested some advice on flirting and I promised to respond.  A man should always keep his promises, so here are my thoughts on that subject. When I was a younger man, I was a big loser with women.  I was a shy, high IQ nerd who was overweight,...