I believe that people should get married whenever they are sure that they are with the right person. Some young people that get married don't always know what they are doing. I think that if you are mature and responsible enough then it shouldn't be a problem.
Age is nothing but a number. It's all about maturity. Emotionally, mentally and spiritually. According to the law,18 is considered legal to do what you want...21 just to drink. I know of some 40 year olds who aren't mature enough to marry yet... like i said, age isn't but a number.
Yeah I wonder how she would explain how the generation that married in the 1950's were married right after high school, yet, had the lowest divorce rate of all time. Yet, we're living in one of the top eras for divorce AND people constantly marry 25 and older (more than they ever have.)
Hufingtonpost is a joke of a source anyway. Everyone knows that by now.
Exactly. I detected some bitterness in her MyTake... smh. There was no need to take it out on people 24 and younger who are considering marriage just because she had a bad experience. That wasn't any of our faults, you know?
I was more irritated on the fact she didn't explain her reasons: At all! She posted links to two "sources", which may or may not be reliable. Not to mention brain development barely has anything to do with a marriage anyway. If you're not compatible, it doesn't matter if your brain is developed or not.
I don't want to get married until my 30's and I still disagree with this myTake. I think it depends on the INDIVIDUAL.
"Yeah I wonder how she would explain how the generation that married in the 1950's were married right after high school, yet, had the lowest divorce rate of all time. Yet, we're living in one of the top eras for divorce AND people constantly marry 25 and older (more than they ever have.)" I would say because we're more liberal overall with our views these days. So divorce isn't as big of a taboo.
"Hufingtonpost is a joke of a source anyway. Everyone knows that by now." So is Fox. I was only using them because those were just the articles I was talking about. I wasn't trying to say either source was credible.
"I detected some bitterness in her MyTake... smh. There was no need to take it out on people 24 and younger who are considering marriage just because she had a bad experience. That wasn't any of our faults, you know?" I was angry at the Crowder guy. He just pissed me off. I'm not angry at young people for getting married lmao.
"Not to mention brain development barely has anything to do with a marriage anyway. If you're not compatible, it doesn't matter if your brain is developed or not." Decision making skills are the last thing to fully develop. Marriage is a HUGE decision to make!! So I think it is VERY important to have all of your brain there before making that decision. "I don't want to get married until my 30's and I still disagree with this myTake. I think it depends on the INDIVIDUAL." It does depend on the individual, sure. But even if you are technically ready to marry the person your with, it doesn't hurt to wait a few years to know for sure. I know it's not everyone's thing, but waiting and being sure before making such an important life-changing decision is not a bad thing.
@CincinnatiRedsfan I would bet the wives were dependent on the husbands for money. And I think the highest divorce rates are actually for people who get married before age 20.
my parents got married at 19 and 23 and my sister married her husband at 21 and 23 both of these couples are still together but i get your point i dont want to get married unless i really, really loved him but i definitely won't have kids too early because i want to travel and get an education and having kids will weigh me down
They didn't get married actually. I don't know how old I will be. I think I'm with the person I'm going to marry right now, but it's too early to tell. I think 23-24 is the earliest I would do it.
I probably will wait a few years still but my parents were 19 and 18 when they married and they are rather successful and now at age 49 and 50 they still love each other and still go on frequent dates throughout the week :) I would say do what works for you but it certainly can work to marry young for some people.
I don't agree with banning; we are talking about a freedom, the freedom of choice. And no, getting married under 25 is not stupid, as neither is not undersdanding why people marry young. You can believe what you want, but cannot force others to believe the same.
"shouldn't" is too big a word... but your take expresses your own opinion in a very fair and clean way, so nothing to object. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
I don't believe it's about age, but maturity and responsibility. But it worked out for my parents, they both got married at 22 years old, had me a year later and they are still happily married for 18 years right now so far. So I guess it just depends on the couple.
I know it depends on the couple, definitely. It depends on a lot of things. That's why I think waiting until the two are older to make the decision is just more responsible.
I completely agree our minds are changing as we grow older as well as our interests. And thats true ! I go out and im still responsible i do what i need to do first.. Also Moving in with my boyfriend is what i wanted to do before getting married and to see how they are like and how they change or to see whether or not its still what he wants too.. Its less likely to become divorced that way and a great way to get closer
Funny, you are actually more likely to get divorced if you live together before marriage, but not for why you would think (or how many argue it).
Fundamentally, the people who choose to wait to move in until marriage are far less likely to even consider divorce an option as those who do live together before marriage. Basically all I mean is that if you wait, you likely won't even consider divorce, regardless of how unhappy you are. But in the end, if you live together before marriage you are almost third more likely to divorce statistically speaking. Just don't let anyone trip you up with that one. :)
I can see where your coming from too .. Well see how it goes i mean weve been together for 4 years and now were getting ready to move in.. I wonder what the reason is behind somone becoming more likely to get a divorce if they move in together before marriage? Or for what they believe The reason is..
You don't really know your true self until you hit your 30's , was 30 when I got married & that is on it's last legs , I'm the one seeking separation & divorce. You have to choose your future spouse very wisely , especially if you are a man , men are often taken to the cleaners post divorce.
This should be changed to "People who don't know what they want shouldn't get married". Face it, after what I have been reading, full grown adults act up more of a fool than young folks.
My great grandparents married at age 17 and stayed married until my great grandfather died at age 80. It's not the institution of marriage's fault that you can't hold a long term relationship and neither can your parents.
No need to be super fucking rude. My parents didn't try and didn't want to get married or stay together. I haven't attempted yet, so you can't say that I am unable. And just because there have been successful marriages that started at a young age does not mean they're a good idea. I really wish I could update this Take because I now have a lot to add.
I don't understand young marriage. I admire the commitment in it, but I don't understand it. I couldn't imagine giving up all other girls at my age. Guys are born to get a lot of pussy. That's not politically correct, but it's true. Having only one girl takes a level of sacrifice that I'm not willing to contemplate.
That said, if you meet the right person, I guess it could work. Age doesn't always imply wisdom. Sometimes all people do as they age is get older and acquire more baggage.
It's funny I've met a lot of guys like you that have a change of heart when they meet a girl that they really like. Usually the guys that say that have a bad past with women that have hurt them badly. Biology dictates nothing, because monogamy has been practiced for hundreds of years, and continues to be practiced to this day. Biology also dictates that it takes both parents to raise the child.
@Coffinspire LOL no, I don't hate women, nor do I have some awful past experiences with them, I'm just a really sexual person. I love girls! But that's the thing, I don't want to be strictly with one girl right now. I want to experience the thrill and enjoyment of meeting new girls. There's nothing like the feeling of penetrating a girl for the first time. That's called sex drive, and that's biology. Yes, some people mate for life when they're 21, but there are other guys like me who want the variety of different girls.
People shouldn't get married, period. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Divorce is expensive, messy, stressful, and now a corporate business run by lawyers wanting to make a quick buck with no regard to you or your family's well being. If you are going to get married, you need to look at it as a business contract or arrangement and defend yourself accordingly. Marriage is not for love, it is for financial expansion and gain. Gain always comes at a cost to someone. Don't be that someone.
Fully agree. People shouldn't get married early. They need to live and experience first. I'm in shit because I settled to early. It's a fuckin abortion.
@Thats - "At least" 27, could be more. Next year, I'll complete my graduation and then it'll take me three years to complete my law degree. And then I'll take two years to get settled properly and finding a worthy girl :)
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I believe that people should get married whenever they are sure that they are with the right person. Some young people that get married don't always know what they are doing. I think that if you are mature and responsible enough then it shouldn't be a problem.
Where's the down vote button for this MyTake?
Age is nothing but a number. It's all about maturity. Emotionally, mentally and spiritually. According to the law,18 is considered legal to do what you want...21 just to drink. I know of some 40 year olds who aren't mature enough to marry yet... like i said, age isn't but a number.
Yeah I wonder how she would explain how the generation that married in the 1950's were married right after high school, yet, had the lowest divorce rate of all time. Yet, we're living in one of the top eras for divorce AND people constantly marry 25 and older (more than they ever have.)
Hufingtonpost is a joke of a source anyway. Everyone knows that by now.
Exactly.
I detected some bitterness in her MyTake... smh. There was no need to take it out on people 24 and younger who are considering marriage just because she had a bad experience. That wasn't any of our faults, you know?
Well she did keep in open mind.
I was more irritated on the fact she didn't explain her reasons: At all! She posted links to two "sources", which may or may not be reliable. Not to mention brain development barely has anything to do with a marriage anyway. If you're not compatible, it doesn't matter if your brain is developed or not.
I don't want to get married until my 30's and I still disagree with this myTake. I think it depends on the INDIVIDUAL.
"Yeah I wonder how she would explain how the generation that married in the 1950's were married right after high school, yet, had the lowest divorce rate of all time. Yet, we're living in one of the top eras for divorce AND people constantly marry 25 and older (more than they ever have.)" I would say because we're more liberal overall with our views these days. So divorce isn't as big of a taboo.
"Hufingtonpost is a joke of a source anyway. Everyone knows that by now." So is Fox. I was only using them because those were just the articles I was talking about. I wasn't trying to say either source was credible.
"I detected some bitterness in her MyTake... smh. There was no need to take it out on people 24 and younger who are considering marriage just because she had a bad experience. That wasn't any of our faults, you know?" I was angry at the Crowder guy. He just pissed me off. I'm not angry at young people for getting married lmao.
"Not to mention brain development barely has anything to do with a marriage anyway. If you're not compatible, it doesn't matter if your brain is developed or not." Decision making skills are the last thing to fully develop. Marriage is a HUGE decision to make!! So I think it is VERY important to have all of your brain there before making that decision.
"I don't want to get married until my 30's and I still disagree with this myTake. I think it depends on the INDIVIDUAL." It does depend on the individual, sure. But even if you are technically ready to marry the person your with, it doesn't hurt to wait a few years to know for sure. I know it's not everyone's thing, but waiting and being sure before making such an important life-changing decision is not a bad thing.
@CincinnatiRedsfan I would bet the wives were dependent on the husbands for money. And I think the highest divorce rates are actually for people who get married before age 20.
I wrote a less angry, more personal version if you want to read it. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11058-young-marriage-divorce-kids
Thank u @Take Owner and no harsh feelings. To each their own
my parents got married at 19 and 23 and my sister married her husband at 21 and 23 both of these couples are still together but i get your point i dont want to get married unless i really, really loved him but i definitely won't have kids too early because i want to travel and get an education and having kids will weigh me down
I wrote a less angry, more personal, more explain-y version if you want to read it. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11058-young-marriage-divorce-kids
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i am very sorry for the life you had as a result of your parents early marriage how old do you think you will be when you get married?
They didn't get married actually. I don't know how old I will be. I think I'm with the person I'm going to marry right now, but it's too early to tell. I think 23-24 is the earliest I would do it.
I probably will wait a few years still but my parents were 19 and 18 when they married and they are rather successful and now at age 49 and 50 they still love each other and still go on frequent dates throughout the week :) I would say do what works for you but it certainly can work to marry young for some people.
I know it can work. It's just definitely not a bad idea to wait and be sure because it's a huge decision to make.
I wrote a less angry, more personal version if you want to read it. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11058-young-marriage-divorce-kids
Alrighty thanks for the civility :) I will give it a read.
I don't agree with banning; we are talking about a freedom, the freedom of choice. And no, getting married under 25 is not stupid, as neither is not undersdanding why people marry young.
You can believe what you want, but cannot force others to believe the same.
If you read the last couple lines, you would know that I also don't think it should be banned. This is just my personal opinion.
I wrote a less angry, more personal version if you want to read it. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11058-young-marriage-divorce-kids
"shouldn't" is too big a word... but your take expresses your own opinion in a very fair and clean way, so nothing to object. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
I don't believe it's about age, but maturity and responsibility. But it worked out for my parents, they both got married at 22 years old, had me a year later and they are still happily married for 18 years right now so far. So I guess it just depends on the couple.
I know it depends on the couple, definitely. It depends on a lot of things. That's why I think waiting until the two are older to make the decision is just more responsible.
I wrote a less angry, more personal version if you want to read it. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11058-young-marriage-divorce-kids
I completely agree our minds are changing as we grow older as well as our interests. And thats true ! I go out and im still responsible i do what i need to do first.. Also Moving in with my boyfriend is what i wanted to do before getting married and to see how they are like and how they change or to see whether or not its still what he wants too.. Its less likely to become divorced that way and a great way to get closer
Funny, you are actually more likely to get divorced if you live together before marriage, but not for why you would think (or how many argue it).
Fundamentally, the people who choose to wait to move in until marriage are far less likely to even consider divorce an option as those who do live together before marriage. Basically all I mean is that if you wait, you likely won't even consider divorce, regardless of how unhappy you are. But in the end, if you live together before marriage you are almost third more likely to divorce statistically speaking. Just don't let anyone trip you up with that one. :)
I can see where your coming from too .. Well see how it goes i mean weve been together for 4 years and now were getting ready to move in.. I wonder what the reason is behind somone becoming more likely to get a divorce if they move in together before marriage? Or for what they believe The reason is..
@ccp16
You don't really know your true self until you hit your 30's , was 30 when I got married & that is on it's last legs , I'm the one seeking separation & divorce. You have to choose your future spouse very wisely , especially if you are a man , men are often taken to the cleaners post divorce.
This should be changed to "People who don't know what they want shouldn't get married". Face it, after what I have been reading, full grown adults act up more of a fool than young folks.
I wrote a less angry, more personal, more explain-y version if you want to read it. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11058-young-marriage-divorce-kids
link didn't work woops www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11058-young-marriage-divorce-kids **
My great grandparents married at age 17 and stayed married until my great grandfather died at age 80. It's not the institution of marriage's fault that you can't hold a long term relationship and neither can your parents.
No need to be super fucking rude. My parents didn't try and didn't want to get married or stay together. I haven't attempted yet, so you can't say that I am unable. And just because there have been successful marriages that started at a young age does not mean they're a good idea. I really wish I could update this Take because I now have a lot to add.
I don't understand young marriage. I admire the commitment in it, but I don't understand it. I couldn't imagine giving up all other girls at my age. Guys are born to get a lot of pussy. That's not politically correct, but it's true. Having only one girl takes a level of sacrifice that I'm not willing to contemplate.
That said, if you meet the right person, I guess it could work. Age doesn't always imply wisdom. Sometimes all people do as they age is get older and acquire more baggage.
That's not really what all men are born to do, lmao.
Biology dictates otherwise.
Well there are gay men, so.
It's funny I've met a lot of guys like you that have a change of heart when they meet a girl that they really like. Usually the guys that say that have a bad past with women that have hurt them badly. Biology dictates nothing, because monogamy has been practiced for hundreds of years, and continues to be practiced to this day. Biology also dictates that it takes both parents to raise the child.
@Coffinspire LOL no, I don't hate women, nor do I have some awful past experiences with them, I'm just a really sexual person. I love girls! But that's the thing, I don't want to be strictly with one girl right now. I want to experience the thrill and enjoyment of meeting new girls. There's nothing like the feeling of penetrating a girl for the first time. That's called sex drive, and that's biology. Yes, some people mate for life when they're 21, but there are other guys like me who want the variety of different girls.
People shouldn't get married, period. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Divorce is expensive, messy, stressful, and now a corporate business run by lawyers wanting to make a quick buck with no regard to you or your family's well being. If you are going to get married, you need to look at it as a business contract or arrangement and defend yourself accordingly. Marriage is not for love, it is for financial expansion and gain. Gain always comes at a cost to someone. Don't be that someone.
Fully agree. People shouldn't get married early. They need to live and experience first. I'm in shit because I settled to early. It's a fuckin abortion.
Err, I don't know why anything the says actually mattered to you, considering that according the wiki page this guy used to be a Fox News contributor.
That's pretty self explanatory and requires no further action.
People should not live their lives reading bullshit statistics etc. Stop being a sheep and do what your heart tells you.
people on this site really need to learn what TLDR is
I wrote a less angry, more personal version if you want to read it. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11058-young-marriage-divorce-kids there's a TLDR
I got married at 19. We are still married 5 years later happily sooooooo i disagree.
I wrote a less angry, more personal version if you want to read it. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11058-young-marriage-divorce-kids
Gonna marry at 27. :)
If I found someone until then :/
For me its 28... Why for you its exactly 27 ?
@Thats - "At least" 27, could be more. Next year, I'll complete my graduation and then it'll take me three years to complete my law degree. And then I'll take two years to get settled properly and finding a worthy girl :)
Ooh. You'll probably find the worthy girl soon. Will you stay virgin till mariage?
@Thats - I think I'm not a virgin :(
Oh😞 why are sad? You wanted to be one?
And why do you say you think? Its like you aren't sure or something like that...
@Thats - virginity is a complicated concept. I'm not a virgin but I certainly feel like a virgin.
What do you mean..
When my mum and dad got married together they were both under 25, age is just a number