Does it seem like dating is hard and marriage would be the ultimate goal. Do u ever wish u could skip the "titles" hang out alot, no fancy shmancy, and just say I do?
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Yes, many guys would.
But they would be going headlong into something with no foundation, no knowledge of their mate- which is a massive mistake.
The reason for dating is to get to know one another, to build a lengthy repertoire with one another. Sex paralyzes that. (Because it's the desert, the reward, why work for something [getting to know you on a deep emotional level] when you have already been rewarded?)
When you have your first fight, all sorts of emotions will come flooding in. Will you be swept away by them because you have no foundation with your mate? Year (s) of dating him, feeling loved as he does sweet things for you, as he explores your heart, and cherishes it. Year (s) of conversing, of hanging out, of doing things together, getting to know each other.
Nothing replaces that, not even good sex. Once you have that established (Again. In Abstinence. Ideally you both should be virgins.) THEN you can begin to build on a lifelong relationship that will last, as you both better understand and know each other, from the former relationship.6