Some people think children are gross (me), and wouldn't mind. However, some people love children and couldn't imagine life without one (also me). Which are you? Comment why or why not!
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Could you marry a person who could not have children?
I have never really wanted children, so I would be totally fine dating, and being with one that couldn't get pregnant. I wouldn't think anything less of her, but I understand that many that cannot have children, have some issues with that. If I was liking her, and we were dating, and she told me that she couldn't have children, I think my first thought would be about her, and how she feels about that, as it is so important to most! I wouldn't care that she couldn't have kids, and it wouldn't make me think that there was something 'wrong' with her, but I would be VERY concerned about how she FELT about that, and her self-image, her feelings about herself, and the social stigmas, and judgements that some impose!!
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I married for the first time at age 31 and remained married for 17 years to a woman who could not have children. One pretty good year and 16 years of hell. By the time I was divorced, I was too old to start a family. This is the biggest regret of my life.
@GiRly212 Less than a year after we were married, she was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. Her symptoms were relatively mild but she was granted Social Security disability. She quit her job and used her diagnosis as an excuse to become an invalid. She became addicted to prescription medications. She had no energy to any work around our home but always had energy to go shopping. Everything in our marriage had to be arranged for her convenience. When we came into some money, she took everything and abandoned me until she blew through the money, then she came crawling back when she was destitute. She began having psychotic episodes but refused treatment until she was committed. She was violent towards me and I got a restraining order against her. That is when she filed for divorce.
I didn't leave her because of her illness. Even after 16 years of hell, I was standing by her to the best of my ability. Her violence precipitated the end of our marriage.
Well then the reason for ur divorce is not her inability to have kids... but her mental health... which is fair enough. Obviously no one should be subjected to a life with that much baggage and being the sole care takker of everything... thats not what marriages are for
Well, I don't like kids at all and I have even less love for babies. And the thought of being pregnant actually makes me feel scared and sick to my stomach. So a sterile dude would be Mr. Right in my eyes (if I weren't already married, that is).
And then there's the bit about human overpopulation likely ravaging the planet into a lifeless, unsustainable husk. I'll be one of those people contributing to the fortunate decline of reproduction rates.
Literally why I resent people who have more than 2-3 children. I get that you may love kids or it just happens sometimes but after baby number four you need to get your shit together. They're overpopulating the damn planet.
Yep, I don't really like children... and if I ever had any it'd be through adoption, so if he couldn't I'd probably be quite happy. However if he really wanted them and couldn't it'd be a different situation because that can really badly affect someone's mental state 😕 In that situation I'd suggest counselling.
Yes because I'm not 100% sure I want kids and if I do, I'm not above adoption or going to a sperm bank if he didn't care.
I just want someone that loves me and who is going to treat me right. If their one fatal flaw is that they can't have kids then boo hoo, we won't have kids.
ever since i have been bluntly honest about not wanting kids it is much harder to find a date... blah. at least when i do they are honest too and we know that won't be an issue. some of them get excited when they find out I've already had a vastectomy and we can go all natural lol.
I can't imagine myself with children, especially considering how my parents fucked up with me and my brother. It might just be because I'm going, I dont know, but I can't see myself being able to put someone else first, which is something you have to do if you want to be a parent, you know?
I could definitely marry someone who couldn't have kids. However I wouldn't marry someone who doesn't want kids.
Raising children has always been a long term dream of mine and I'm unfortunately not willing to give it up. I'm completely open to adoption of being foster parents but either way I want to be the best husband and father I can be.
I don't want children for the first 2-3 years anyway.
So if we get married :) I won't mind not having kids forever. I am marrying her not just for kids , I marry her to be my life partner , my support , my sexy body , my partner to share my life with , the person that I don't want to continue my life without. The one I want to be there for me , and I want to be there for her.
For me, marrying someone means that I can't imagine life without them and I wanna spend the rest of my life with them. And having children (or not) is secondary to all of that. Besides, I don't like kids and don't wanna have kids, so if I have a partner that doesn't want or (in the context of this post) can't have kids, it'd work out for me. So, in answer your question, yes.
As long as we both truly love each other, I could marry them. It's tragic if they really wants kids but can't. I personally can't imagine myself and don't even want to as a mother with a lot of kids, I'm not a big fan of them either, but there's still a possibility I'll change my mind when I'm older.
yes, there is enough people in this world already. So many women are obsessed with having a child that it drives me nuts. what is really annoying is when a woman can't have a baby, so she decides to force make one (have surgery to make a baby) Fuck that. If Mother nature doesn't want you to have a child then Do Not!!
I can take or leave the idea of having kids. like i don't really want them but if i ended up with one I'd do my best to make sure they had a good upbringing.
If the person had made their peace with not being able to have kids and they were in a good place about it mentally then yeah definitely.
I can't have children myself so of course I would be happy to marry someone who also can't have children. Even though I will never have my own biological children, any guy who is interested in adoption is a plus in my books.
I have no problem with that. I wouldn't ever marry someone who didn't want to have any children because I definitely want kids, but as long as the person was open to adoption, I don't think I'd regard infertility as a big issue.
Damn I have same mindset, like kids are bad but some are so sweet :)) Anyway I do this because is easier for unwanted pregancy also I might consider adopting or other method if I feel ready for a child and also if she has the same perspective and vision as me. And moreover the decisive thing in which I would establish a mariage would be compatibility between me and her.
If he can't have children, we can always adopt or one of the other more scientific methods. But I'm curious, you think kids are "gross" but you love them? How does that work? Its like me saying think snakes are gross but I have 3 pet snakes.
Babies *are* factually gross. They leak extremely, uhhm, aromatic fluids (and solids, and semi fluids) at totally unpredictable times. ahah they're like that one girlfriend we have who always takes getting wasted to the next level. except with babies the afterparty is 24/7. 😂😂😍
No, i understand if there are a few differences and both agree on those differences, but if one wants to have kids and the other doesn't is TOO MUCH, i love kids, and if my partner would be somebody who doesn't like them > THERE IS THE DOOR !!!
I would marry someone who was infertile but wanted children. However, I don't see myself getting serious with someone who simply never wanted them. I 100% want children at some point in the next 5 years.
There's a difference between would not and could not <~< Anyways, either/or I wouldn't mind. If I fall for them, I fall for them. In my current relationship, however, we do talk about having kids quite often.
But i can have kids with other people on the side? I wouldn't mind if we could do invetro, but yes, even gay couples want genetically descendant children.
Hating kids is different than not able to have kids by the way
Not all gays want genetically related children. Most of them are fine and don't care about it. I don't think gays or lesbians can even have biological kids through IVF or a surrogate.
I say that cuz they found a way to do it, i read an article that talked about, at least 2 men, not sure about women, both donating a sample and combining it with an egg and how they most said they didn't want to do a dna test to see which one was the father. But they were def excited they were able to do this now.
Or maybe its just cuz many gays can't adopt bc of conservative or religious oriented adoption centers or state laws. Tho to be fair to them, liberals would say abort it rather than have the child and give it up for adoption (in a case of say, not being able situationally or willing to raise the child)
Okay, you have to treat the article as an opinion. It's an article that is created but could have also been altrered or made up entirely. There's just not many ways to prove things like this and even so, the possibility of gays and lesbians being able to have biological kids would have to go through a lot of debates about reproduction as most people think that it is quite alien for a kid to have two biological fathers/mothers.
I would be saddened by it a little bit. But my answer would still be yes. If you love the man or girl that you are dating. Then marriage is a nobrainer.
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Well there's always the option of adoption... But if you don't want kids or are physically unable to have kids, then okay, that's fine with me. Maybe it's not the right time, maybe we need the money for ourselves first. Maybe we just know we're not gonna be good parents. Who knows.
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