1 - big part of why guys avoid the topic of marriage. is because modern marriage is no longer a guarantee. that either person will remain loyal and committed to their partner. over half of first time marriages fail within 5 years of the couple saying "I do's" and roughly 70% of the time it is the woman that files for divorces.
2 - recent studies show that typically. the woman is the one to get bored of her partner sexually first. even more so if she has been with many partners over the years.
3 - so once the man stops being able to get any from his spouse. he starts to think about out sourcing for his needs. also likely she will start out sourcing for her needs over time. as she becomes board with their sex life.
4 - if you get divorced the guy is likely to lose roughly half or more. of his money and resources to her in court and legal fees. more if they end up having children together. because 75% or more of the time. the woman gets full custody with child support or 50/50 custody with child support.
5 - only ways a guy can get more then 50% custody. is if he can claims she is an unfit parent. while having the prove to back up his claims in court. or she passes away for whatever reason.
I mean... It is just a shiny rock with no practical purpose. I see where he's coming from. That's a lot of money to spend on a rock that doesn't do anything. But... Y'know. That's the custom. If you're going to take part in this weird magic coupling ritual, you may as well go all the way with it.
My fiancé spent $1,000 and I was so surprised because we didn’t have hardly any money back then. I was actually mad at him for it. I’ve had friend get those big expensive rings (they are kind of ugly to me but whatever). They show it off on social media as some kind of prize. It’s a status thing for them but your relationship isn’t measured by the amount your man spends on you.
they say your ring is a symbol but I can say that by grandparents who were married for nearly 60 years soon took off their rings due to their arthritis and Parkinson’s. I can say my parents who have been married 36 years no longer wear theirs because my moms hand got too swollen while she was pregnant and it had to be cut off and my dad works with machines that could sever a finger if he wore one.
neither couple gives a shit about a piece of metal sitting in their drawers.
You care more about a ring than having a guy that loves you and wants to spend his life with you?
I agree with your boyfriend. An expensive ring is a waste of money! Why spend thousands on a ring, when that money can go towards: a new house, vehicle, trip or vacation together, a nice honeymoon...
A ring is supposed to symbolize your love, not a status symbol on how much money he spent.
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Why... is the cost of a stupid piece of metal so important? It's the thought, the reason behind it that has the value for it!
My wife's soooooo afraid she'd lose the diamond, because she tends to bang her hands on all sorts of things, that she told me not to get her an engagement ring. I did... but it was a decorated silver band. Cost me a whopping $40 worth of pure silver. That ring is worth more to her than the $400 tanzanite earrings I got her 10 years later.
If he can’t afford it and you expect him to buy it for you you’re wrong but if you’re willing to pitch in and cover what he can’t pay then it’s fine.
The cost shouldn’t matter as much as the meaning and thought behind the ring.
Wouldn't you rather put that money towards something else? If not and you're concerned about the size of your ring then you're probably with the wrong guy.
FORUM WARNING
Golddigger on the lose.
Yes, you're wrong. And your mindset is emblematic of the entitlement culture a lot of women seem to be a part of.
he sounds stingy af , here is what you need to do , dump him and see if he would change his mind , if he is not , then it obvious that he doesn't deserve you , get a new guy
Am expensive ring in this economy? Bitch that man should throw your high maintenance ass the fuck out. Fuck that shit woman are already not worth a marriage already and you demand this bullshit? Piss off and die alone with your cats.
Are you buying him something for that price as well?
you're materialistic, that's for sure.
Good, i'm glad he wouldn't
Just be glad someone wants to be with you lollll
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