My wife went through something similar. I’m so sorry that this joyful moment is full of pain like this. Also and more importantly my congratulations. You may have to choose the lesser of 2 evils.
1. It’s your day. You’ve dreamed of it as a child
2. How will your mom feel? I’d ask her. Who will walk you down the aisle? Or others as applicable.
my wife went through all this. She finally decided not to invite him but let him know through the family what was happening. He never put any effort in to know her or our children.
life will be fine. Make the best decision that will not harm those who have been faithfully in your life. I really hoped we could build a bridge to him, but he just doesn’t care about anybody but himself. Our wedding was wonderful and relatively drama free.
if he gets upset, I’d try to figure out if his pride was hurt or if he wanted to be there for you.
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I think you just out weighed the pros with all the cons you mentioned, ask yourself this. You've mentioned all the negative things he'd bring if invited, what positives would he bring if he was invited? If you have a hard time coming up with an answer or you feel like you're either coming up with excuses to invite him the your answer should be a No!
If you can easily name positives that he'd bring other than he's your dad and he can give you away then maybe you should invite him but take your time coming to the answer.
Don't bother. He maybe your father by blood but he was not a real father and that's what matters most.
This wedding is supposed to be your/your partner's day.
Why even entertain the potential for a problem? You have a potential conflict situation just by the fact you haven't seen him for years and I'll assume neither has your mother or siblings.
Don’t invite him - he might try to embarrass your mom or you or your groom
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It's tough to say.
I don't know him
Will you have regrets? Could you at least invite him to the ceremony but nothing else?
Has he changed?
Do you want him to walk you down the aisle?
Fast forward 20 years... how will you feel
Have you talked to him and let him know how you feelI would say no, he's proven himself to be an embarrasment in the past, don't let him spoil you big day,,,
Your wedding is about you and your future spouse. Don't feel obligated to have anyone there that will spoil the day
No. But it's quite possible he's heard about the wedding from someone and will show up uninvited so be prepared for having to toss him out.
Babe honestly if you're father is a toxic person and if you think it will be awkward to have him on your wedding then do not invite him. Your happiness always comes first.
Its been a tradition for so many year or say decades - I dont know whats wrong with this women this days - seems to be like they have a problem with many things - parents of the guys - his job - his salary - his behavior - should have his own house - should avoid his friends - LOL and many more shitsss
FYI - Dont take me in a wrong way its not directed to you its just how most of the women I have seen off latelyI say no. People who don't know how to behave shouldn't be rewarded.
No, a wedding is about you, your spouse, and the people you love/love you. He has already proven that you aren't important to him, so why should he be important to you?
Yes do it because if not it’ll just get a lot worse down the road. The wedding can help you re-night again
If you don’t feel comfortable inviting him then don’t, he might mess up your wedding
Yes. Practice forgiveness. Invite your Dad to your weeding. I doubt your father will try to steal the show.
If he hasn't done to abandon you as long as he has done his best to raise you right
Do not invite him. Your wedding will have enough stress without him already.
I would say no leave him home my dad abused my mom also
if that's the case, I think I would not Invite him. He would take all your gory.
To be honest no and din't look back, sometimes parents can be really shitty we have on obligation towards them
If I were you I wouldn't invite him.
U still in touch with him?
I see no advantage to doing so
I wouldn't
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