Afraid is the correct word for me, perhaps each mans opinion is different.
I'm afraid, fear, divorce.
Marriage is like a man buying stock. Divorce is like the stock crash. Lose everything and you have no control over it. You lost it the day you chose to buy the wrong stock.
Don't think it's only the men... I'm shit scared of it as well. You hear so much crap about how married people ruin each other's lives in different ways. How tired they become of each other, starts stressing and more.
I think it comes down to ethics and morals. If someone sees the signs before marriage of someone who is controlling, physically or verbally abusive, a push over, a guy who acts like mamma’s boy, etc. Those are all signs the marriage will fall apart. No marriage is perfect and there will be disagreements. Just like we argue with friends or family members.
As a guy, I don’t want the spotlight on me. So if everyone says my wife is beautiful or pretty. If my wife has more friends then I do, that won’t bother me. I cook, clean and work hard and communicate. I’m the type of guy if she’s having a rough day I’ll cheer her up by making her laugh. I’m not down with adultery or cheating. Biggest or one of the biggest is money. If it really concerns both individuals, then maybe do a prenup?
Just treat people how you want to be treated and I promise you you'll be fine. No matter how people treat you, be virtuous. Don't do it for them but for you because depending on how you treat people you will get it right back. Honestly, study characteristics and personality traits. Those are the secrets to good relationships. Also vision. Where are you going. That's why it is important to have a written out joint, agreed upon vision for the relationship. Not growing is boring. Everyone needs a mountain.
Someone can treat you horrible but if you treat them nice they will stop or leave eventually. If they are mentally ill that is different.
@pass_the_celery98@Little_Bumblebee 100% if you look at what he commented, it goes back to what I was saying... The secret is characteristics and personality traits. You have to have the right ones that allow for sustained harmony but also you need a joint vision so growth can happen and your life doesn't get boring. We all need an aim. I'm telling y'all. This stuff is straight out of the business world going back over 100 years. Obviously there is more to it like discipline and going the extra mile etc etc.
What benefits gives marriage to men? It's just a simple calculation if a boy thinks about marriage, he can lose a lot and gain nothing. I guess with these pseudo equality developments in western societies amount of men who are "afraid" of marriage will increase in next decades.
Not all are, the issue is the guys you are going after don't need to get married to get what they want out of a relationship. There are many men who still want that long term commitment but can't even get a date, let alone a long term partner.
Why won't guys get married? Women today have horrible attitudes - tho particularly if woke.
Many women are disloyal, shallow, easily offended, unable to compromise, entitled, hypocritical, painfully woke, easily brainwashed or peer pressured, and many falsely believe matriarchy is a good idea. This plus they have severe family law advantages.
Accually i've prenupted the high justice system in our land for that very reason. And through incorporating myself with a copyright to my social security # and my name.
Why do women over generalize everything, and not put an explanation for ridiculous statements they make? If anything, I think men are much more eager for relationships and marriage then women are.
Men aren’t afraid of marriage per se, they’re afraid of any kind of commitment (speaking of men in the west). They also don’t like to buy a used car, that may divorce them and take half their assets.
Because they have no right of passage to tell them they’re men. As boys, unproven to society and themselves, they fear the weight responsibility would entail, as they believe themselves not up to task.
this has nothin to do with men bein afraid of marriage and if ya actually think past yourself and wantin the financial security that legalized marriage provides then you'll actually see between child support alimony and the inccentive that legalized marriage provides most women to act up you'll see there's no real benefits for men to get legally married
I don't think men are more so scared, but just unsure. There may be things about you that he seen and he simply thinks you are not ready. It could spring down to how you talk to one another to feeling underappreciated the list goes on. So communicate don't rush and compromise and everything should work
Because women make it impossible... So many requirements, especially money! which is hard to harvest. They want a lot from a man to be a husband. plain truth
Are they? Women end marriages 5x more than the men do. So are women afraid of marriage? Or do they just get bored with it after their fantasies were fulfilled, or unfulfilled?
I wouldn’t marry anyone in this climate due to the fact they don’t value marriage and is too modern. Hook up culture and modern dating definitely soured the dating world.
Because half of marriages end in divorce, women file the majority of divorces and men tend to get screwed in divorce court and child custody disputes. Pretty simple, really.
I believe only some are and ultimately they are the ones that think they will have several different women in their lifetime instead of wanting to just settle down with one my opinion from that male perspective...
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Afraid is the correct word for me, perhaps each mans opinion is different.
I'm afraid, fear, divorce.
Marriage is like a man buying stock. Divorce is like the stock crash. Lose everything and you have no control over it. You lost it the day you chose to buy the wrong stock.
Don't think it's only the men... I'm shit scared of it as well.
You hear so much crap about how married people ruin each other's lives in different ways. How tired they become of each other, starts stressing and more.
Nope. I'm terrified.
I think it comes down to ethics and morals. If someone sees the signs before marriage of someone who is controlling, physically or verbally abusive, a push over, a guy who acts like mamma’s boy, etc. Those are all signs the marriage will fall apart. No marriage is perfect and there will be disagreements. Just like we argue with friends or family members.
As a guy, I don’t want the spotlight on me. So if everyone says my wife is beautiful or pretty. If my wife has more friends then I do, that won’t bother me. I cook, clean and work hard and communicate. I’m the type of guy if she’s having a rough day I’ll cheer her up by making her laugh. I’m not down with adultery or cheating. Biggest or one of the biggest is money. If it really concerns both individuals, then maybe do a prenup?
Just treat people how you want to be treated and I promise you you'll be fine. No matter how people treat you, be virtuous. Don't do it for them but for you because depending on how you treat people you will get it right back. Honestly, study characteristics and personality traits. Those are the secrets to good relationships. Also vision. Where are you going. That's why it is important to have a written out joint, agreed upon vision for the relationship. Not growing is boring. Everyone needs a mountain.
Someone can treat you horrible but if you treat them nice they will stop or leave eventually. If they are mentally ill that is different.
@pass_the_celery98 @Little_Bumblebee 100% if you look at what he commented, it goes back to what I was saying... The secret is characteristics and personality traits. You have to have the right ones that allow for sustained harmony but also you need a joint vision so growth can happen and your life doesn't get boring. We all need an aim. I'm telling y'all. This stuff is straight out of the business world going back over 100 years. Obviously there is more to it like discipline and going the extra mile etc etc.
Marriage typically offers very little benefits to men, while greatly increasing responsibility and liabiltiy.
Marriage also typically offers much benefits to women, while greatly increasing benefits if she voids the agreement and divorces the man.
It’s fear of losing your stuff if it doesn’t work out.
If you’re honest what purpose does marriage serve? What does that piece of paper add to the relationship?
It only serves a purpose for the religious and to raise a family in a traditional manor.
What benefits gives marriage to men?
It's just a simple calculation if a boy thinks about marriage, he can lose a lot and gain nothing. I guess with these pseudo equality developments in western societies amount of men who are "afraid" of marriage will increase in next decades.
Not all are, the issue is the guys you are going after don't need to get married to get what they want out of a relationship. There are many men who still want that long term commitment but can't even get a date, let alone a long term partner.
Why won't guys get married? Women today have horrible attitudes - tho particularly if woke.
Many women are disloyal, shallow, easily offended, unable to compromise, entitled, hypocritical, painfully woke, easily brainwashed or peer pressured, and many falsely believe matriarchy is a good idea. This plus they have severe family law advantages.
The courts help women steal from men during divorce. they take the house, car, savings, etc. that the man had earned.
If a woman won't agree to a prenuptial agreement before marriage, she is a thief. It's as simple s that.
Accually i've prenupted the high justice system in our land for that very reason. And through incorporating myself with a copyright to my social security # and my name.
Why do women over generalize everything, and not put an explanation for ridiculous statements they make?
If anything, I think men are much more eager for relationships and marriage then women are.
Men aren’t afraid of marriage per se, they’re afraid of any kind of commitment (speaking of men in the west). They also don’t like to buy a used car, that may divorce them and take half their assets.
Why are they afraid of commitment in your opinion?
Because they have no right of passage to tell them they’re men. As boys, unproven to society and themselves, they fear the weight responsibility would entail, as they believe themselves not up to task.
this has nothin to do with men bein afraid of marriage and if ya actually think past yourself and wantin the financial security that legalized marriage provides then you'll actually see between child support alimony and the inccentive that legalized marriage provides most women to act up you'll see there's no real benefits for men to get legally married
I don't think men are more so scared, but just unsure. There may be things about you that he seen and he simply thinks you are not ready. It could spring down to how you talk to one another to feeling underappreciated the list goes on. So communicate don't rush and compromise and everything should work
One word: Divorce.
Divorce laws are unjust and sexist against men. Fix the divorce laws and men will come back to the table for discussion on marriage.
Because women make it impossible...
So many requirements, especially money! which is hard to harvest. They want a lot from a man to be a husband. plain truth
A document that legally binds them and their life gains to another person - who may or may not be the right one - until their last breath.
This is the answer. That's why.
Are they? Women end marriages 5x more than the men do. So are women afraid of marriage? Or do they just get bored with it after their fantasies were fulfilled, or unfulfilled?
I wouldn’t marry anyone in this climate due to the fact they don’t value marriage and is too modern. Hook up culture and modern dating definitely soured the dating world.
Some value it. I value it. Many do not though.
Yes I’m done with it
Done with the dating world
I stay to myself nowadays
Because half of marriages end in divorce, women file the majority of divorces and men tend to get screwed in divorce court and child custody disputes. Pretty simple, really.
Because it´s harder in modern times to find the "right" partner. In a divorce guys have more to loose so we aren´t keen to be married.
I believe only some are and ultimately they are the ones that think they will have several different women in their lifetime instead of wanting to just settle down with one my opinion from that male perspective...