Has anyone signed a financial prenup with their partner?

[Anonymous]

I'm currently in the process of doing one.

For your house and financial assets, how are you guys going about keeping them separate?

If I die, should it be fair that my partner gets the house? If I put most the money in?

[Squaresquirrel]

In my country, there is something like "right to continue to live in a house" A lot of times, children inherit the house, and the mother can continue to live there till she dies. Of course, she needs to pay the bills.
I think sitting down with your partner is the best way to discuss this. I mean I would definitely agree as I am not a gold-digger, but for example I could not afford to pay half of the bills for a huge mansion and I would feel it's unjust to expect that. So you definitely need a serious discussion about the details.
I am personally looking for someone on my financial level, so we can build something together.

[janerobinson]

Personally I think it depends on the circumstance. I’m assuming that the person you’re marrying is your closest friend otherwise you probably wouldn’t be getting married. If you pass away I think that yeah for sure they should get the house because who else would you want to have the house (they’re your closest relationship). However if you get a divorce, that’s different.

[Anonymous]

I would if I was in a relationship and looking at marriage (both very unlikely events in my life but moving on)

Other option is what my accountant said, buy your house in a trust so you pay lower taxes and can't lose it in court via divorce or anything else

[Needadvice1202]

This is the reason I turned down a rich guy, I prefer to date someone with the same type of pay so we don't have these issues, it feels more equal like that for me

[Flower_Power]

Why should it matter? It can be kind of offensive if you are making them sign prenup because it implies that you think your relationship will and and that you don't trust them. I think you should leave the house to them if you die. Who else would it go to?

[Asker]

Are u serious with your first statement?

[Flower_Power]

Yeah, I'm pretty serious. Do they want one?

[Asker]

So basically I have 200,000 and the other person has 20,000, and u think I should just give my money for no reason?

[WhitneySnow]

Do you have kids? They should get the house if you die.

[KatherineJ]

You are under the assumption that women don’t have assets that they bring into marriage.

[Asker]

You're under the assumption it's usually 50/50

[KatherineJ]

Actually, when I got married, it was more like 90/10. I had a house, and a lot more assets than he did. And no, I don’t think it’s a good idea to start a marriage thinking that it’s going to end.

[Apple1996]

Anyone who gets a prenup shouldn't be getting married in the first place. Getting married means your gonna have to share your money and share everything else in your life

[Asker]

How about the money u bring in before marriage

[Apple1996]

Then y'all should be willing to share it

[Asker]

Why if we go our separate ways?

[Apple1996]

If your already planning on that then don't get married 😂

[Asker]

Marriage overrides it.

[Asker]

I mean prenup overrides it

[Apple1996]

Your so stupid to plan your divorce before even getting married

[Asker]

Where did I say I was planning to?

[Squaresquirrel]

Apple, I would say if they stay together in marriage for 30-40 years, than yeah, she could get the house if he does, or more the kids. But staying together for 5 years and get half of everything, how's that fair?
Also, nowadays a lot of marriage ends in divorce, so in a way you have to plan for that. Hardly anyone has that happily ever after.

[Asker]

@Squaresquirrel thanks , You're a smart logical thinker.

[Squaresquirrel]

Thanks. I would say, if she doesn't want to sit down and discuss the financial details of the marriage, she might not be the one. In general.

[bamesjond0069]

@Apple1996 we usually agree on a lot but i think if you dont sign a prenup you are already planning to get divorced. Signing a marriage license is no different than a prenup. Why even bother signing onto one set of rules at all? There is some kind of irrational obsession with "the standard paperwork". isn't each marriage special and unique and deserving of its own attention from each party?

[Apple1996]

@bamesjond0069 this mf getting married for social media likes (I seen in a different comment). That ain't special or a good reason to get married. Either way about the prenup signed or not. He's getting married for greed and not love.

[Asker]

Lmao, that social media likes comment was a joke. And bloody hell, I'm not getting married for greed, if I were to get married for money I would marry someone who had money. I'm a lot more financially better off than my partner, so explain how that's being greedy please apple?

[bamesjond0069]

I don't know he's anon and im only talking in general anyways. Short of two people being penniless a prenup is absolutely necessary. Personally im of the opinion marriage as it currently exists in america is contributing to the divorce/breakup rates. I would commit to a woman but id not ever give a woman power she's not supposed to have in a traditional sense.

[Asker]

@bamesjond0069 it's completely essential. I've met countless males who've lost a lot more than they gain from relationships.

[Apple1996]

It doesn't matter who makes more money right now. Things could easily change if you plan on being married long term. It's greedy to not share everything in your life if you are married

[Apple1996]

@bamesjond0069 its not necessary if a women actually devotes her life to him then she deserve money if they split.

[Asker]

Apple, it's money you bought in before marriage, why should anyone else be entitled to it if you split?

[bamesjond0069]

"then she deserve money if they split." But then why did they split? Over 70% of the time the woman is the one leaving. I agree in some circumstances it can make sense however its the minority of circumstances. Lets wear our seatbelt to plan for a car accident and not not wear one to plan for a car fire. Clearly one is more likely and thats what a sane prudent person should plan for.

[bamesjond0069]

Also if they have kids its adequately provided support for kids. So... its not like she has nothing.

[Anonymous]

No. I wouldn't have married if my husband wanted one.

[StrawberryShake]

Why? Lmao you a golddigger?

[Anonymous]

It's a good idea to get one but a better idea to not get married at all.

[England4eva]

A prenup is a wise decision.

[In_Trance]

What are you getting married for?

[Asker]

Social media likes.

[TrueConfection]

Nope