In my country the bride's family pays for the food and the groom's family pays for the alcohol... I don't know who pays more, probably the family that can spare more but we try to share it and make it fair. In which case fair isn't 50/50 if one family is way richer than the other. In the past it was more common for the families to pay for it in full but nowadays (especially because people get married later in life when they already have jobs) the bride and groom pay most of it and their families contribute.
Regardless, if you marry then you share your finances so it seems like a silly thing to argue about. In my case, when I marry we'll set up a budget and both pay for it from our savings that will become shared after the wedding anyways.
Traditionally the brides parent's are supposed to pay for it..
However I paid for 95% percent of mine. My in-laws were gracious enough to pay for the grooms men's suit rental, and my parent's paid for the cleaning deposit. The only thing my husband paid for was my ring I think.
The parents usually pay the bulk of the costs. Weddings are super expensive, and most people get married while they're still relatively young - still starting their careers and saving for other things, like buying a house and having children - so realistically, that's often the only option.
Back in the day, it used to be the parents of the bride who would pay - like a dowry - but now I think it's more like 50:50 or whatever each can afford.
Honestly, when come to the conventional social etiquette of who should pay, it is supposed to be the parents of the bride. So if you are not abiding by this traditional social convention then every thing is up in the air on who should pay for what... so the bottom line is that its not on the man and nor should it be.
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Just have a cheap wedding because it's just the party before the real stuff.
Really getting married is really cheap, just the cost of a license and getting someone to marry you... everything else is not needed.
I'm going to elope, decided that... then I'll let the families, if they so choose pay for their own reception/wedding parties for us at their own cost. After all those are for the guests really, not so much for the couple getting married.
By tradition, the bride's family pays for the wedding, while groom's family hosts (and pays for) the rehearsal dinner and for the honeymoon.
Ultimately, the total cost for the wedding and its associated events is shared between bride's and groom's families.
at the point where i'm about to marry a woman, i do not consider money "we" have as "mine" or "hers". i consider it to be "our" money. the wedding is gonna be paid 100% from "our" money. whoever happens to contribute more to the pool of money that we have doesn't matter to me.
They should share the costs, although if a woman wants something lavish, fly to a Greek island to get married, or whatever, then she should cover that.
Traditionally it was the brides family that pays for the wedding.
not sure that’s something that’s followed anymore with people getting married a little later in life these days
Getting married is a civil and/or religious matter. It's really rather inexpensive. If, in addition people want to throw a party for themselves (be it the bride, parents or groom) they shouldn't expect someone else to pay.
Why do questions like this still exist? It's all down to the individual couple, and every answer will vary. For me it's 50/50, unless the man wants to pay more, go ahead.
Traditionally it was the brides family that paid for the wedding in Canada. in my opinion today the bride & groom should split the cost of a wedding.
Not really. You can marry for free (minus registration costs) in a court house.
The actual "wedding" is just a spectacle. Thus the costs should be more by those who want it more.
It's usually the Bride's family that funds the reception if there is one. All the other costs should at least be split.
It’s the brides parents that cover the costs.
These days it tends to be split around with most coming from the bride and groom
Costs shall be shared. Of course, as long as it's not so much, that life will be a hell after the ceremony.
I wouldn't be marrying a woman that's not willing to share expenses. Unless she's broke and I'm rich or vice-versa, a relationship should be equal.
u In America we have a tradition that its the the womans parents responsibility to take care of everything as far as the wedding goes. Her parents have to pay for it
The question in itself is indicative of how marriage serves only the interests of women. The man becomes legally the woman's slave in the plantation. He has nothing to gain from it.
Traditionally in the West the wedding costs would have been born by the brides father, but it is becoming more common that the bride and groom share the costs equally,
It’s a decision two people who are about to commit the rest of their lives to each other should make based on their ability. Adults discuss such things and make mature decisions. If you can’t do that you shouldn’t be getting married.
Probably depends on the culture but I def would not date a girl who didn’t think we had equal financial obligation. Unless one of us makes a lot more than the other or something.
In my country it's the parents of the wife who pay for the wedding traditionally.
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