Guys and Girls who have wedded before, who sponsored the wedding cost? Just you or you and your fiance?

[Gloree]

Wedding Costs

I grew up expecting the man to pay for everything. But I want to know how others handled it, so I can be informed and better prepared.

[DaveJord]

Okay, well honestly the truth is that in a traditionally situation the brides parents are supposed to pay for the wedding. For me I had to pay for mine myself and I only paid for the court house ceremony. Because my family disapproved of my bride, and ultimately they were right.

But if you want a big blow out of a wedding then I would say you should be preparing to pay for it yourself with your parents. Sure you can find a guy that will pay for everything that greats, but dating someone with the intent of marriage is not supposed to be about the wedding but the life long commitment your about to make with that person. So using all that money to pay for a wedding is wasteful when if could be used to really build a finical foundation for the you of both to progress in life together as one.

So if you parents are not putting out for at least 50% of the cost of the wedding then you should not expect him to either unless you got your own money.

For me I paid for my daughters wedding and she wanted this big blow out in Chicago on boat out in Lake Michigan and I told her no way will I pay for that... because her family was all in California and she wanted it in Chicago for his family. She said his family had less money then our family so it would be cheaper for his family to do it in Chicago. I told her it would be in California or I would not pay for anything.

She ended up having on the beach wedding in San Diageo and I as the brides father paid for it and all of our family was there.

[Gloree]

That's do cool.

[Gloree]

So cool

[Emiliamazing]

My parents gave us $3000 and my husband’s parents gave us the same amount. We’ve been married almost 20 years now so costs have certainly changed. We spent about $4000 of our own money. So I guess the parents paid for a little more than half when you combine their monetary gifts to us. All of that money covered my wedding dress, my husband’s tuxedo, the venue we got married in as well as the reception. Also the rehearsal dinner.

[Gloree]

Wow. That's lovely

[Emiliamazing]

We have friends that got married 5 to 6 years after us and maxed out their credit cards on their wedding. I wouldn’t recommend doing that :-)

[Gloree]

Okay. Thank you.

[jennifer_bloom]

I would not even want a wedding, just a legal ceremony and some cake.

[Apple1996]

Didn't have a real wedding since those are just a waste of money

[ChrisMaster69]

It’s the brides parents

[Anonymous]

Your parents