I am most likely to have an arranged marriage. But I am really afraid of marriage.
What if?
The girl files a defamation case on my whole family? File for domestic violence? Gets a restraining order so as to get extra money in the divorce?
I always look at the worst case scenario for any objective. That way, I know the estimated risk level of that activity. But when I look at marriage, all I can see is risk and risk only.
I have always wanted a sister with me. My mom also preferred to have a second child, but somehow it did not work out between my parents at that time.
And I know the value of a partner or a girlfriend or even a wife, so there is no question of me treating her badly. In fact, she would be treated like a queen. Both by me and my family. My parents have already declared that.
But...
Suddenly bringing in a complete stranger in the family, without knowing her enough is a little too risky I think. I don't know what to do here to be honest.
I have always not trusted people at first and then eventually opened up to them. Still do not. That is my nature which has always safeguarded me in situation too, where instead of professional behavior, I was getting inclined towards a bit personal behaviour.
I would just not be able to trust her at first. Eventually I would, I know. But how to begin with it? How do I establish a connection with a girl who is going to become a really important part of my life?
I am able to talk and establish connection with literally all the girls in our division or even the department of EnTC. But only because they are completely professional with me and I with them.
That would not be the case with my wife right? So how should I work it out?
What if?
The girl files a defamation case on my whole family? File for domestic violence? Gets a restraining order so as to get extra money in the divorce?
I always look at the worst case scenario for any objective. That way, I know the estimated risk level of that activity. But when I look at marriage, all I can see is risk and risk only.
I have always wanted a sister with me. My mom also preferred to have a second child, but somehow it did not work out between my parents at that time.
And I know the value of a partner or a girlfriend or even a wife, so there is no question of me treating her badly. In fact, she would be treated like a queen. Both by me and my family. My parents have already declared that.
But...
Suddenly bringing in a complete stranger in the family, without knowing her enough is a little too risky I think. I don't know what to do here to be honest.
I have always not trusted people at first and then eventually opened up to them. Still do not. That is my nature which has always safeguarded me in situation too, where instead of professional behavior, I was getting inclined towards a bit personal behaviour.
I would just not be able to trust her at first. Eventually I would, I know. But how to begin with it? How do I establish a connection with a girl who is going to become a really important part of my life?
I am able to talk and establish connection with literally all the girls in our division or even the department of EnTC. But only because they are completely professional with me and I with them.
That would not be the case with my wife right? So how should I work it out?
