1. Definitely DO NOT have children with him. If you already have, you are stuck.
2. "I've given up on cooking honestly and making him lunch for work" - and have you told him exactly WHY? You should make it clear to him that you are overwhelmed, and he needs to pitch in a bit more.
3. And on a follow up to #2, it is time to sit down and hash this out with him. DO NOT "hint hint" or be passive aggressive about it; men like things blunt and straightforward. And DO NOT "nag" about everything wrong, just pick specific well defined examples.
(a) His car tinkering is just not affordable, time to get a newer economy car that is reliable.
(b) He needs a stable job, side hustles are just that, side hustles done while "moonlighting" or "weekending" after work.
(c) You need a bit more help around the house.
Don't complain about vague dissatisfaction, make your examples of what is not working concrete and well defined.
He might counteroffer; if he does that, this is actually GOOD, it means he is taking your complaints seriously, as opposed to him just agreeing ("yeah, sure...") just to end the argument for now but nothing really changing.
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Proof of the importance of discussing in-depth the 4 Pillars of Marriage: Money, Kids, In-Laws and Sex.
Each of these pillars keep a marriage going or bring it to it's knees.
How much of this stuff was discussed before getting married? Like where the money comes from, who pays for what, and who does what chores? You don't really sound like a married couple honestly, you sound like roommates with benefits at best.
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girl get a divorce...
just like me, you made a poor choice. We're fucked
Lol this funny. Divorce him and stop complaining
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