Will you be asking for her father's permission to propose?

[Anonymous]

Or is it an ancient practice?

[OlderAndWiser]

My ex-wife's parents were deceased, so I asked for her son's blessings before I proposed to his mother.

I am considering the possibility of proposing to my current girlfriend. Her father is 91 years, lives in China, doesn't speak English, and I will probably never meet him. But I will be meeting her son - for the first time - the week between Christmas and New Years. Stay tuned!

[Drumlin2001]

I didn't. But then her dad died 10 years ago.
One of our first phones calls fter i had proposed was to her eldest brother, I did ask him if he minded. He cried. I think he was OK with it.

[Asker]

My brother's wife's father also passed away prior to the engagement, he asked her mother I believe, but I can't be sure. Her eldest brother walked her down the aisle.

[Drumlin2001]

Her mother has passed too. She has a complicated relationship with her brother, and he lives in US, we're in UK, so i've only ever talked to him over Skype

[Asker]

Sounds tough

[supermadpro]

I will ask for permission but not an actual permission. The decision will be taken regardless by my SO. But out of respect to her family and overall just to know what they think of me based on their reaction, it must be done. Because I would also love to know the man proposing to my daughter in the future.

[Anonymous]

Of course! No it's NOT JUST an ancient practice. Any man that won't do that is NOT a man if you ask me. A father is a woman's protector until she meets her husband. Then that becomes her husband's charge. And meeting the father is just a rite. The father has to sign off on that he accepts the man is up to the task. If not? It's the man's duty to prove he is WORTHY.

[BCA6010]

*Blessing, not permission.

Coincidentally, neither of the women I've dated who I believed at one time to be marriage material had living fathers.

[Phoenix98]

If my partners father is in the picture then yes. If not then I’ll ask her mother instead.

And it’s not just an ancient practice we do it out of respect to her father/family.

[BCRanger10]

I did. It is not an ancient practice. It's a show of respect to the first man who loved her.

[itsmegrave]

No, because she's already 18 years old and not in the right state of mind to ask for that kind of thing. So I'll just say "I love you" and hope for the best.

[joeldalton]

And if it was my daughter I'd do everything in my power to have you two break up.

[itsmegrave]

@joeldalton What if I am the richest? Would you still make the same decision?

[joeldalton]

yes. Because you are showing me you don't respect me. If you don't respect me, you won't respect my daughter.

[itsmegrave]

@joeldalton You deserve to be a real father. I like your words that quality is bigger than money. I will marry your daughter only if you agree. But shouldn't you respect her love? If she has a crush on me, do you object?

[joeldalton]

I am a real father. And as the person who has raised her to be the woman she is, you owe me the respect of asking for my blessing before you propose marriage.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would ask a girls parents if I could have their Blessings to marry their Daughter 👼🙏

[Anonymous]

I seem to remember telling him at one point she was mine now rather then asking so I guess I'm not a traditionalist in that way. But he and I had known one another for a long time.

[exitseven]

I did not do this. Everyone knew we were going to get married anyway.

[ElementoP]

Her father is in prison for murder. So ya of course I will

[SiberFox]

Assuming she has one present in her life, yes I will ask for his blessing.

[JustADudePlayinADude]

I plan to just ask her parents for their blessing, but not their permission.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm not sure about asking permission to marry. However, I have asked a girl's mom before asking her out before.

[Juxtapose]

What makes you think I want anything to do with marriage?

[Asker]

Blessing and permission is sort of the same word in my language

[Juxtapose]

Oh I see it's an entirely different culture from mine. Well I can tell you personally I would view it as strange to have to ask permission when the only person I need to please is the woman I am staying together with for life.

[CopperKing]

I fully intend to get his permission to take her on a fist date let alone her hand in marriage

[Staximus]

I don't date women who let their parents run their life like they are still kids

[Anonymous]

Marriage is an ancient practice. Not for modern women.

[Anonymous]

Nope! I don't date underage little girl that I need asked his father's permission, I only adult women. So need not to ask her father's permission but I'd definitely ask her personally.

[Anonymous]

I would but hell when my 1st girlfriend's father pulled a gun on me (deactivated but still)

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't ask for permission but he would be the first person I'd call to let him know I'll be proposing to his daughter.

[Hardworkingguy]

If I had a girlfriend I would