Why do people open their relationships / marriages?

[Anonymous]

[Iron_Man]

Bad morality

[Iron_Man]

Thanks for most helpful Award

[In_Trance]

boredom

[rudedevon]

There are many different reasons. Some people are able to separate sex from emotions and just want more varied sexual experiences than monogamy allows for.

For some people their partner having other sexual partners is a big turn on; cuckolding /hotwife is a kink.

Sex with one person for many years can get stale. Opening a relationship can give it a serious injection of new passion and actually bring couples closer. Talking about boundaries and trust can translate to other areas of the relationship. Instead of both hiding desires and fantasies from each other, a couple can be more honest with their SO.

It could be as simple as not seeing your partner as a possession and being happy for them to experience pleasure. You wouldn't expect your SO to eat the same meal every day of their life. If they came home from a restaurant and told you they've enjoyed a good dinner, you'd be happy for them... and see sex in the same way.

Showing your SO that you trust them and the relationship enough that you can accept them having sex with others can be a huge gesture of love.

Of course their are lots of sex acts that can't be performed alone. Women are biologically programmed to seek multiple partners for the strongest sperm and men are biologically programmed to compete with one another.

I sometimes wish I could get over my feelings of jealousy and insecurity when I'm in a relationship. Men are societally trained to think poorly of women who are sexually confident, yet we want a partner who is sexually adventurous with us.

The few times I've actually had group sex with a partner they had made me feel totally secure in our relationship, so I was able to put my fear and jealousy aside. The sex was amazing. I've met up with lots of couples for sex and they all had different dynamics and reasons for what they chose to do and it was an honour to join them.

[RiseofArtemis]

Because they are retarded have no idea what a real relationship is, are selfish narcissists who want to fuck other people and think they somehow are entitled to it.

over 95% of open relationships/marriages fail so what makes you think yours could work? Its going to fail at the point to were one of the two finds someone better and ditches the other.

Open relationships are nothing more then one leeching of the benefit of being in a relationship or marriage benefit while still fucking around. People who propose that have either no morals or don't care about the other. Women who do this are whores who should get their vagina mutilated and men who do this are whores who should get their dicks cut off, simple as that.

Marriage is monogamy only and relationships are too, anything else is just waiting to cause problems.

[TransAm85]

If my husband wasn't so religious, I'd have an open marriage! I used to be a hooker/stripper in my early 20's anyway, so I've already sinned - hopefully will be forgiven bc I have my reasons for doing that. But my husband has turned into a functional alcoholic, I love him, but I'm not getting the sex I need, so I'm just gna end up continuing to cheat w/my ex. I could nvr be in a relationship w/my ex again, but the sex is still amazing!

[GlassTop]

It’s hard for people to want an open relationship unless they’ve had a lot of partners. The mindset changes and sex is just like getting a massage instead of a super intimate thing.

[TransAm85]

@GlassTop Well now that I've gotten older, sex has felt a lot better. The 20's is nothing. But men pass 40 and go bland and even worse if they drink. It's not a priority for them anymore so to say. Yes unfortunately I had many partners so I have emotional issues, so it makes sense wut ur saying, and maybe that's another reason my husband isn't always eager to have sex? He's a drinker, but also a very romantic person. I am not. I just wna fuck! Thanks for the input.. that helped!

[GlassTop]

Alcohol ruins everything. I’d see if he could quit his performance should go up. But it’s an addiction and I’ve already given up on most people who drink like that. Your situation makes sense so no judgement.

[RobT312]

Seems like it’s for sexual freedom most of the time. My girlfriend and I opened our bed to another guy, just to try a threesome. The outcome is we all fell in love. So I wonder if there’s an in between here where things are more open than a traditional couple but still closed and your relationship is just bigger than 2 people

[BlueScorpio]

Lack of commitment, selfishness, wanting more options then being happy with the person they are with. And then their some people who are into swinging.

[RiseofArtemis]

open relationships rarely work

[JamesDiaz11]

They think by discarding rules they can save a dying marriage, but if you have the intent to have sex with people outside of your marriage it's already dead- there's no saving it.

[justEric]

The ones I know is because they thought their marriage was boring and predictable and wanted to spice things up

[Oldschool1981]

My relationship kinda opened on its own. We both started sneaking around but neither of us wanted to break up, so we more or less just kept everything an open secret.

[MountAverage]

Ideally because they trust each other emotionally enough to not feel threatened by having sex with other people. It requires a lot of communication, emotional maturity, and obviously trust.

[GlassTop]

Trust 😂

[MountAverage]

@GlassTop Not familiar with it? Well that's sad.

[GlassTop]

Nah it’s not trust it’s called being a cuck. You can trust that whoever is screw-in your wife is gonna fuck them like they own them 😂 probably better sex than you ever had with them. That stuff she won’t let you do, she let him.

[MountAverage]

@GlassTop You and I are not talking about the same thing. Whatever you're talking about, it has nothing to do with what I'm talking about. So maybe talk to someone else about it?

[MountAverage]

I'm not even married, so who are you even referring to here? You seem very confused.

[GlassTop]

You are talking about open relationships and not even married?

[MountAverage]

@GlassTop Okay, you are VERY confused. Let's walk you through this:

1. Newsflash: Not everyone who's in a relationship is married. Therefore - obviously - you don't need to be married to be in an open relationship (otherwise it's called an open marriage, but it's the same thing in principle).
2. I'm not married, I'm not even in a relationship currently. So? I'm also not a politician or a political activist, and guess what, I still talk about politics and have opinions on it. But even that aside, I've been in relationships before. You're not making any sense.
3. What you described in your second response to me, is some specific wacky scenario that has nothing to do with what I said. The question here was what motivates people to open their relationships or marriages. I gave an answer to that by saying what I think the motivation is IDEALLY. There's also less ideal and even bad motivations. Point is, there's many different motivations, scenarios etc. how an open relationship/marriage can go. But you're too narrow-minded and too much of an incel to understand that, you stick to that one wacky scenario in your head that you read from your incel buddies on reddit or whatever and that's it. You're an idiot.

Now that I've exposed your idiocy, we're done here.

[MaxRobespierre]

If you check the porn statistics most the cuckold fetish or whatever it's called is growing trend. And also you can read the polyamory subreddit for some hilarious stories.

[maximumpower]

Combats boredom and introduces "spice" or variety.

Its not for everyone. Many cannot emotionally handle it.

[WeeeISee]

Because they are stupid and want to screw around.

[Anonymous]

Main reason is they don’t want to commit and start a whole new relationship. they get comfortable living together in a failed relationship and seek sex from multiple partners to fill in the gabs. It’s extremely toxic.

[RiseofArtemis]

The only thing I'd tell someone who wants an open relationship is "Take a bullet."

[msc545]

The woman wants to have sex but doesn't want to cheat. In open relationships, the women get lots of sex and the men get almost none.

[Smashingdoozy]

Because they want to.

[JessJJ]

It saves having to sneak around.

[RiseofArtemis]

Then people who cheat should just put a bullet in their head instead of asking for an open relationship/marriage. It says a lot about a persons character when they want an open relationship and can't be faithful. Means damaged goods and has to be avoided.

[Anonymous]

It's called freedom.

[RiseofArtemis]

Seems like to be a different word to "having no morals and being a whore" Doesn't mater the gender.

[Ogopogo]

@RiseofArtemis You would need to be very puritanical indeed to call someone amoral and a whore for having two or three partners. Most people don't mind if you have lots of partners over the course of their lives while single, yet it's somehow horrible to have two or three at the same time, with permission, while married. Being in an open marriage doesn't mean you have to sleep around or let your spouse sleep around. That's certainly an option, but for a lot of us it means one side piece, or it just means if you unexpectedly wind up in bed with someone else your life isn't ruined.

Yes, it's virtuous to not have sex with very many people. But given x number of partners, it is infinitely more virtuous to have sex with those people while married (with your spouse's blessing) than as a by-product of starting life late, failing at relationships, or not being suited for them.

[Googlemyahoo]

Um because they want other dicks/vaginas?

[Anonymous]

bored i guess? divorce is too much money?

[hostboy__fastestlaps]

polygamy and adultery should be felonies

[RiseofArtemis]

Agree like it used to be done in the middle ages. Only the rich somehow always got a pass when they did it because they bribed the right people.