What should I do in a case of an unintended pregnancy?

[Anonymous]

I'm 25 and have been in a relationship for over 6 years. My boyfriend and I lives separately. Due to our workload we get very little time to spend together in person. A couple of weeks back we had sex which led to us being pregnant, we are really precautious bit this had to happen. My boyfriend is kinda old school and wants to get married ASAP. I don't think I'm mentally ready for that yet. I'm not sure how to handle this situation, even about the baby. Need your honest opinion on what should I do next.

[BigOleMatt]

If he wants to be married to you after 6 years of dating and be the father of your child then be very thankful that you are with the right one.

[Asker]

I just got admission in Masters. My plan was not to get married at least till I'm 27 or 28. And since I told him about this pregnancy the first thing he asked was to get married and to hold ny studies which I can do later like after 2 3 years.

[BigOleMatt]

It's up to you honestly but I wouldn't push him off when he's wanting to be there for you and baby and committed more than many that would just run away.

[Asker]

I totally understand your point that he is there for me. But recently we broke up this year for 4 months in June got back together in September and just right after that this pregnancy. I'm not feeling good about this and which is why I'm so damn confused

[BigOleMatt]

However it works out... best of luck. If you need anything don't be shy and add a friend. I'm sure many of us men would help you out.

[Guy13]

Have the baby and put up for adoption. Heart and body forms before you even know you are pregnant in two weeks.

[Asker]

I've been enrolled in a Masters program. Going through all that just for adoption, will it be a lot hassle?

[Guy13]

I am assuming that you disagreement emoji? I do not care about your hassles as murdering a life that is to be protected by you is an unrighteous kill... this puts you in Putin category. The baby can not choose and at conception Life is.-You can see Harvard, Duke University Medical, John Hopkins etc if you disagree with that. I can explain that to you if you care to hear a short version.

[Asker]

I didn't disagree, I am just asking as I am not sure what will happen

[Guy13]

Those phantom ANON disagree...
You do know that in each fluid is a genetic code therefore Identity. And at conception they conjoin into body and form life. Identity in the genes...

[Avicenna]

Well, you have three options- have the child, have it and put it up for adoption and get an abortion. I'd say take everything into consideration and think about what you and your boyfriend can handle emotionally and financially.

[Asker]

I don't think I'm my normal self rn. I've been doing jobs since I was 18 and I have been with him a year before that. Financially he is very strong but I have had my own share of struggles which is making me think twice as I just got admission in my desired Masters.

[PositiveFlight]

It’s rare that he wants to commit. Most men now days run. Don’t let him go! You may never find a man that good again. I would embrace him and take comfort in the idea that he wants to be a father and your husband, to take care of you and be in this with you. No one is ever fully ready to be a spouse or a parent. You grow and learn by actually experiencing it. Marriage and being a parent is not always easy or fun, but worth more than anything else this world has to offer. Learn to love each other as husband and wife. Learn to love your child. You will find that you value nothing else more than than those two in your life. Life isn’t over for you. It’s just beginning. It can be wonderful.

[Cubus]

If your boyfriend knows you for a few years and wants to get married, than it's a good sign. He seems a good choice - like someone who would not leave you in trouble, especially after you told him you are pregnant.

Also: how did he react after you told him about the baby? More excited or scared?

[_Just_A_girl_]

Talk to fam
Read stats on pregnancy and marriage
Check out youthvillages.org/.../
Look up Roe v Wade

[TheSpaceGnome]

Never put school or jobs before an SO. Otherwise you won't keep anyone.

He's right, you can finish your studies in a few years, its not going anywhere.

[Asker]

So should I just leave my studies and job to have this baby with him?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Not leave, pause, after the baby is like 5, restart them, or simply take the courses online from home while caring for your baby.

Why pick one option when you can have it all in a short time frame?

[Anonymous]

well can you even afford a baby? you two don't live together so i'm assuming that's because of an affordability issue. something needs to change. why now all of a sudden he's in a rush? JUST because you're pregnant...

[slatyb]

You should talk it out with someone who cares about you, then make a decision. Maybe talk to more than one person.

[boggboss]

It honestly down to what u think u can handle and nit and going from there

[gag6474]

i agree with @BigOleMatt