If you have a potential to really love your partner in arrange marriage, I'm not strictly against but if someone only marry to someone else because his/her parents/family want, I'm against that
I will only marry a man after I fall in love with him.
I'm okay with arranged marriages as long as both of us have power to say, nope if we don't think it will work out.
Not forced into it against our wills. After all maybe others who know us can realize that we would make a good match.
Obviously this means it wouldn't work if its all planned and arranged when we are kids, but sure it can be an option that we can say naww... if we don't want to and no big deal.
If you're looking directly for marriage and can't find anyone like-minded, and you trust the person who arranges the marriage/know they understand the kind of thing that attracts you but also have your best interests at heart, I don't think it's a bad idea. If you want it.
But I watched a few episodes of Indian Matchmaking on Netflix, and yikes. For a lot of them whose parents are forcing them to get married, it's just weird and looks so stressful, and not at all a recipe for a happy life.
I don't like the idea for me, anyway. Meeting people with the intention of finding the love of your life seems like a lot of pressure, trying to decide if you have feelings or not. I think organic meetings are so much better.
i'm against forced marriage and in some contexts the women definitely have less power over choosing and there's been a lot of change in the past few decades, my mum and all her sisters were all arranged and all but one was happy, and i've got another aunt who had an arranged marriage a few years ago and they're pretty happy - i think it just has a bad reputation but in more lenient South Asian cultures, arranged marriages are more of a 'hey this person is looking to get married, take a look at their picture, say no if you don't like them but if you do like them then we can arrange a date and you can talk it out and see if you're suited'
s I believe marriage should be for love, not status. Otherwise it’ll be a miserable marriage.
I'm not for or against anything, unless its forced or family pressures to marry someone that isn't fair...
I live in Turkey and there is a kurdish populated area at east of my country, In that area arranged marriages are Super common and i've never Heard of someone being happy about that.
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