Men, if a woman wanted to get married, would that be a red flag to you?

[Anonymous]

I know how y’all feel about marriage, but if a woman wants marriage, is that a sign she only wants you for your money? Are men dating just to find a forever girlfriend and not a wife?

[SteveSmith1985]

hahaha, not for me! That's... exactly what I'm looking for. So you could call that a "green-flag" from my perspective.

I think this is going to depend a lot on whether the guy is also looking for marriage, or if the idea of marriage is something that's not-at-all appealing to him. Depends on the guy. 🙂

[Guy13]

Yes, the divorced man or insecure, immature, and low self-esteem man are looking for SO Partner, or girlfriend for life.-They are all the same as there is no real commitment with these.

[Adaeva]

I believe that is most men want but they also want the marriage to last. However, because of the laws and family courts, women file 80 percent and divorces and divorce rape their husbands. Therefore, many men do a cost analysis and determine the benefits do not justify the risk of getting married.

[MrCommodore]

I think long-term its preferable to get married and have kids, so not a red flag unless it's all the girl talks about during initial dates.

[bamesjond0069]

Unless she's a virgin then no marriage and it's a red flag. Clearly marriage doesn't mean much if she couldn't even wait for it. Smh. Common sense.

[Asker]

Aren’t you worried about sexual compatibility?

[Asker]

Also, that means you wouldn’t want her to be in an another relationship either.

[bamesjond0069]

No. Why would I be worried about sexual compatability? Virgins love sex. It's new and exciting and they are usually the best to have sex with and very into having lots of it.

She can be in a relationship. In fact that's the most she would be qualified for. Marriage is for virgin girls.

[Asker]

Virgins are terrible in bed. They can’t satisfy you like non virgins Besides, if you marry a virgin, you’ll want a divorce right then and there. Find you a non virgin who knows what she’s doing and what she wants. All men want that type of woman.

[bamesjond0069]

@sasha0426 that's not my experience. Virgins have always been very eager and ready to learn and try things. Almost too ready where if i had been a bad person I could have taken advantage of them. And more experienced women sometimes were good but many times were bad. They often had baggage like "I don't do that" because they had tried it with another man and he did it badly where I never even had the chance. I don't call that good in bed at all.

[gorydetails]

No. Being a wife and raising children is what women should aspire for.

[Asker]

What if we don’t want children?

[gorydetails]

Then you're out. Enjoy your cats and wine.

[Asker]

Yikes, my dude. I didn’t know not wanting kids wasn’t a choice. So women should be forced to have kids?

[gorydetails]

IT's not a choice when I'm picking a spouse.

[Asker]

You gonna rape your wife?

[gorydetails]

I'm not marrying someone who doesn't want kids. Why is this a hard concept for you to grasp?

[Asker]

Which is fine, but do you have to be nasty to those who don’t? Like, why you gotta be like that?

[gorydetails]

Me standing up for what I want is not being nasty. You're the one who has accused me of wanting to rape someone.

[Asker]

You said women who don’t want kids should enjoy their wine and cats.

[Asker]

Meaning, you were saying that as an insult.

[gorydetails]

That's what usually happens for childless women. Plus a good dose of antidepressants.

[Asker]

I rather choose death over giving birth.

[gorydetails]

You'll get your death eventually I assume. Not sure who will be by your side.

[Asker]

I got family and friends.

[LiamJHayden]

No, I would assume she probably has some sense of traditionalism.

[alearningboy]

If the woman wants to marry then it is because she doesn't want to lose you. If she wants to marry let her be my white prinses forever😊