Can arranged marriages ever work?

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EricSummer · Accepted Answer

Yes, sure. We must distinguish them from forced marriages, though. The two people must have the right to say no.

It can be a good idea for relatives to be involved in arranging the marriage. The young people will be from similar backgrounds and religious beliefs which is a huge plus. The relatives know the couple and are not deluded by fleeting emotions.

There is also some support and social control as the matchmakers continue to feel responsible for their choice.

On balance it is likely preferable to matches made based on chance, following the Western ideal.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They did for thousands of years, so obviously yes they work great.

The problem with modern marriages is among most westerner they really doesn't exist. Modern westerns have been sold the idea that marriage is about mutual pleasure rather than security.

If you have that idea bout marriage you need not the institution, if you have the original idea, whom you marry is far less important.

Nelaary · Accepted Answer

Hopefully they do because not knowing someone can be very difficult you don't know what you will end up with a princess charming or the beast because people don't always show their true nature the time will show it off so its a 50/50 chance a guess

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

If you date somebody with a good reputation and you know a lot about them through interviews and a careful study of their personality then it could work.

coachTanthony · Answer

They have and will continue to work for a small amount of people.

OracleCassandra · Answer

Of course they can! People like to imagine that relationship have been historically miserable, but most marriages were actually rather pleasant and long lasting.

You see, Western society has assumed that affection is the most important thing in a marriage, and the most important thing in love - really, love (of the genuine sort) is constructed from loyalty, followed by companionship, in pursuit of a similar goal.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Although people see it as the safe option to find a quality partner... It's like gambling... you never know what the person is really like until you're stuck with them, and you also don't know if you'll ever gonna have that special bond with them or it'll be just superficial and everyone is committed just for the benefits... All the couples I know who are in an arranged marriage... None of them is happy lol.. Especially the women, they're broken 😆...

htmndg183 · Answer

Yes they do. Many people give it a bad name by associating it with forced marriage. Arranged marriage is completely different from forced marriage. Its just matchmaking in which the two take their time and make a decision whether they want to get married to each other or not.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I detest them. Many women are forcibly married to men they don't like/who treat them poorly.

FreyaRed · Answer

I don't think so. There are biological and psychological reasons couples are attracted to each other. Arranged marriage exclude this partner selection mechanic.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Yeah they can work out great. People in those relationships are usually forced into putting in the effort to make things work out and because they both put in the effort they are both happy.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on where you live. I am from India , the epicenter of arrange marriges. Here they work due to pressure from society and seeing divorce as a huge taboo. Not all arrange marriges are happy. Only very few of them are , most of them are not based on love but security and for raising families.

Gent207-2 · Answer

If we change our definition of "working" to fit the cultural paradigm of whatever nation in which this takes place.

desidoll · Answer

Small percentage, yes. Most of the time the couples end up being in a miserable marriage and sadly, it impacts women more.

Mimi_758 · Answer

Yes they sure can work out i know a lot of couples that did arranged marriages and are living happily!

SaRang21 · Answer

Only if they have spent enough time getting to know each other before marrying.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

It used to work well like 30 years ago. Somehow parents can find a good match for their children. But now day, when there are so many website dating and hook ups, match making ran out of business.

qwert1234 · Answer

Yes they do. Otherwise half or more than half of India alone will fail.

Iron_Man · Answer

That only to make the parents happy but how do we know if they really work I don’t live in India

LiamJHayden · Answer

They have historically low divorce rates, so by that measure yes. But how happy are they? Can't answer that.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

For millions of people yes

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Arranged marriages are very successful in Asian countries especially Muslim countries

MementoMori777 · Answer

I don't have high hopes on it working tbh

Adam1978 · Answer

Yes if both are willing to make it work.

poetic_pisces · Answer

I don't think so

moviedude714 · Answer

I like to believe it's possible

EaterPeter · Answer

They sure give the feel of working to most

slatyb · Answer

Some do.

Spade_01 · Answer

Of course they can.

In_Trance · Answer

Clearly they do

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