Parents find families with similar family/religious values, they then arrange a date to see if they like each other and click. So they still have the choice.
I think it’s a great idea. I used to be anti it, but looking at how messed up dating is nowadays maybe this is my only hope. There’s no good women left, just women with a bad history.
They are also much more likely to last.
I don't think they're a horrible idea. My wife's parents were arranged in marriage, for example, and they've been married peacefully for decades now and seem quite content.
That said, arranged marriage of their sort historically in Japan was still consensual. The families arranged it but it wasn't like they were forced into marriage. There were multiple candidates from which they both chose each other among possible husbands and wives.
It's admittedly a bit extreme for my taste. I do value marriage as a union of families and communities in that traditional sense, and something I valued deeply when I married my wife (we didn't just marry each other, we united our two families into one).
Still, I don't think it's the worst idea and I still think it beats this modern Vegas-style wedding between two lovebirds who care little about uniting their two families or becoming members of a larger community. So many of those marriages seem to quickly end in divorce without the reinforcement of deep family and communal structures.
I would have agreed with you but almost every single women I've worked with that has had an arranged marriage has either hit on me, offered me their phone number at some point, dressed up to get my attention, showed attraction to me in some way, pursued me in some way or at the very least been unfaithful emotionally. If all of this has happened to me alone, who knows how often it happens overall.
In any case it has not left me with a very high opinion of arranged marriages. In every single case the women involved just pretend nothing happened and act as if what they did was not bad. In one case I was offered a phone number 3 or 4 times on different occasions. All of this happened at different jobs I've worked at.
Outdated system of marriage. Besides, marriage itself is outdated. All part of religious dogma.
Let girls find their own partners. Let them date who they want until they finfpd the right guy for them.
m very outdated
mostly ends up very badly
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No it’s really not a great idea. We get enough news about everything from honour killings to abuse within arranged marriages
Nope, cause marrying with anything but love is building it with the wrong materials
I will get married with that method lol in 1 year or 2 from now
No not at all
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