Me and Tommy (fake name) started to see each other in November 2020. We made things official and started dating December 2020 - then found out a few days after Christmas we were pregnant. We mutually ended our dating relationship in February. We seemed to butt heads all the time but we wanted to coparent for our child. Recently we’ve been able to reconnect more emotionally and get along better - part has to be hormones on my end and the other part was Tommy overworking himself. Tommy has also accepted his father roll more and giving his opinion as the father he wants to be - in a good way. (Before he said everything was up to me and he’d financially support us because his career pathway was too time consuming).
Important details for this next part: he is not from the US and is here on a student visa. His parents had an arranged marriage. After we spent time together the other weekend he asked if we could get a green card marriage. He told me it’s ok if I don’t want to, but it would make finding work easier and pay a lot better. Tommy is determined to financially support me and our child. He shared I don’t need to change my last name and doesn’t want to pressure me into it but to think about it.
Overall he’s a good guy and has good morals. Our life styles are very different but he’s OK with us making it work long distance/visiting frequently once baby is here. I’ve also said frequently as a person I’d like a guy to leave for a while and work — then be home for a little bit — like a truck driver (not his job). His current job pathway does and will require him to travel frequently for a week or more each time. ** I have no worries about him cheating or being unfaithful. **
So should I marry and see where things go? What’s possible downfalls? What are the possible wins in this situation?
Important details for this next part: he is not from the US and is here on a student visa. His parents had an arranged marriage. After we spent time together the other weekend he asked if we could get a green card marriage. He told me it’s ok if I don’t want to, but it would make finding work easier and pay a lot better. Tommy is determined to financially support me and our child. He shared I don’t need to change my last name and doesn’t want to pressure me into it but to think about it.
Overall he’s a good guy and has good morals. Our life styles are very different but he’s OK with us making it work long distance/visiting frequently once baby is here. I’ve also said frequently as a person I’d like a guy to leave for a while and work — then be home for a little bit — like a truck driver (not his job). His current job pathway does and will require him to travel frequently for a week or more each time. ** I have no worries about him cheating or being unfaithful. **
So should I marry and see where things go? What’s possible downfalls? What are the possible wins in this situation?
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