Do guys prefer working/career woman for marriage or a girl who prefers to be a Housewife?

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nitsuj86 · Accepted Answer

Most guys don't care I would say. We don't want to have to pay all the bills, but we will.

We just want a woman we are attracted to that makes our lives not a living hell and maybe even a bit easier. A good mother to our children, and someone fun to be around.

When I ask a man what he is looking for, a woman's job or career almost never enters into the equation. It's a nice bonus if she makes good money, but that could also come with it's own issues.

I have always been of the thought, that I expect the same out of women, that I do out of men, are anyone really. Sure I'll pay the bills because I'm "supposed to" but I still think it's dumb. I would expect my wife to have a job if there are no kids to be taken care of, or they are in school.

We can both clean, cook, and take care of the kids. If she is just laying around the house "taking care of the home" well I would say you can go make some money.

IF she doesn't make that much, and we have a child on the way. Well then it would make more sense for her to stay home and not have to pay child care people who don't give a shit about your kid.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

We need to distinguish between housewives and stay-at-home mothers. For most men, marriage means a family, which means kids, and kids need a real mother.

There's nothing wrong with a married women working, but if she has young kids she should be home with them giving them the childhood they deserves, not pursuing her career ambitions.

The best arrangement for me is an educated woman who wants to contribute financially, but who prioritizes her family over her personal ambitions. When kids come into the picture she quits her job and stays home caring for her children. When the kids are in junior high or high schools she goes back into the workforce. When the kids are grown she can focus on her career again.

Family is the most important thing in life. Women who don't realize that and don't want to do their part in that equation are not suitable brides for quality men.

NavyblueTacos · Accepted Answer

I am not a guy, so I dont know, but I dont like the idea of being a "housewife", and the men that i've met who seek a relationship like that, I tend to not like either.

Its not that I dont like caring for a home, but I would never want to put myself in a situation where im financially dependent on a partner, for safety reasons and also because it in my opinion creates a more equal relationship when both people in the relationship contribute.

Brittanyroseee · Accepted Answer

Depends on the guy. Men who want kids will want a traditional housewife. Men who could care less about kids, would want a woman who works and has goals. Im more of a working independent woman. I also don’t like kids and don’t want them. So im not the best choice for men who do want kids and that is fine!!!

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer a housewife/mother. Am I saying she had to do everything I tell her? No. I want a girl who wants to have that type of life. Most men don’t want career oriented women. Most men could care less about a her career or how much money she makes, that’s not something men usually think of whereas women do. No man wants a “boss bitch,” a Ms. Independent type of girl. No it’s not cause we can’t handle her either like some women say to make theirselves feel better about being single. Who the hell wants to come home from work to having to handle someone? What is she a dog? We choose not to handle them. Men don’t want a masculine female. When you’re out in the world dealing w other males, their egos, etc, you don’t want to come home to that as well. I’d prefer a stay at home wife/mother, someone who wants to be there, who doesn’t feel like she’s a slave. I want to come home to a nice, comfy house, to the sound of my dogs, the kids, a wife so gorgeous that all bs you dealt w all day just vanishes the minute you lay eyes on her. To come home to where I can be me, be myself, not have to have my guard up. To something nice to eat. Am I going to neglect helping around the house? Of course not.

Anonymous · Answer

Preferences regarding a partner's career choice can vary significantly among individuals, and there is no universal answer to your question. People have diverse values, beliefs, and priorities when it comes to choosing a life partner. Some men may prefer a working/career-oriented woman as they appreciate shared professional interests, intellectual stimulation, and the potential for financial independence. Others may prefer a partner who chooses to be a housewife, valuing traditional gender roles, domestic harmony, and a focus on family life.

It's important to recognize that societal attitudes and gender roles have evolved over time, and individual preferences reflect this diversity. Many men are supportive of their partners' choices, whether they pursue a career or decide to prioritize homemaking. The key is finding compatibility and shared values within a relationship, as well as mutual respect for each other's aspirations and life choices.

Ultimately, it is crucial to approach relationships with open and honest communication, discussing individual desires, expectations, and aspirations regarding career and family life. This will enable couples to find common ground and make informed decisions about their future together.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

You assume that marriage is a goal that all of ''us'' have :)

Let me correct you in this respect, please.

I rather think that a majority of men are willing to make a romantic (and outdated) compromise in return of having a monogamous relationship with their preferred mating partner; for a while, until things become lame - or sour.

If the woman ''works'' or if she loafs around at home plays a minor role.

inhua · Answer

guys' preferences will range from not being factor to being a housewife is preferred

nothing wrong either way but there's lots of people who will be upset at the housewife preference and apply non-existent motives for having such a preference

Reorx · Answer

I think this depends on the relationship dynamics but also an awareness of our biology & what we are naturally inclined to be attracted to as a consequence. We live in an age where the social contracts been torn to shreds & now everyone's confused :/ I know I've passed up many great women because I felt like I couldn't provide for her. We live in a new age & all, except men are expected to be traditional & modern while women get to choose just modern. I'm aware stereotypes exist on both sides, still working on this myself :/ Most men prefer a housewife because women want to marry equal & up income wise, almost never down, something men on a collective level aren't guilty of.

Anonymous · Answer

If I could, I would like to marry a girl that's still virgin and make her a housewife. I suppose if I had taken her virginity during the time we were dating (which I most likely would) then I guess she could be a housewife as well.

Otherwise no.

Jhunitor · Answer

Can't I have the middle ground. A woman with a career but not obssessed with it to the point of neglecting our family?

Dinklex3 · Answer

? Obviously depends on the guy.

There are men that want their partner to work, there are men who want a house wife, and there are men who don’t really care.

My mom worked and she was an amazing mother and wife.

Raaj4you · Answer

Both career woman cum house wife. So that I can sit back and relax. I am lazy so she will take care of everything, household chores, cooking and cleaning. Women look cute when they breast feed babies, cook and clean. 😅😂🤣

mobiusforniner · Answer

Ill be honest. It sounds terrible, but for me, i want both.

A woman who is firm, independent, confident in herself- fiercely protective of her family and husband- this comes with a woman who has professional career experience.

But also, a woman who is tender hearted, patient, loving and gentle. The hallmarks of a housewife.

Apple1996 · Answer

It really depends on the man but most men that make decent money would rather have a woman that stays home and cares for the family/house. It's really only poor men that want a woman to work

Anonymous · Answer

Most guys I know honestly don't care about this either way. We're looking for hot, nice and fun in a wife. If having a career makes you more likely to be hot, nice and fun than staying at home as a housewife, we'd support that. If being a housewife mas you more likely to be hot, nice and fun, we'd support that. We're pretty simple that way.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Would you change your core just so guys prefer so? You be who you are and there will be a guy who’ll love you exactly like that.  I was the most loved when I was my raw self.

molonski2 · Answer

Personally , I prefer working career woman , and its dam tough to do it any other way these days , they simply have to plan , be super motivated and super organised , its a massive skill.

AaronKrieger · Answer

I prefer a mix of both, since I believe a mother is very important for a child's initial years on this planet. However, I would also never require that of my partner.

cosmosis181 · Answer

I prefer a woman has an attitude that reciprocates the sacrifices made for her to be happy and is good at raising kids. I'm self employed, so whether or not she has an MBA, etc... is of zero importance to me. It's not indicative of her being able to do either of the above. Mexican, Central American, Arab and SE Asian women please apply asap. This way!😍👈

Drewtate · Answer

Guys generally don't care. I guess we prefer loyalty more than anything and someone who puts the work into the relationship

nastyb · Answer

what is more important is: can be actually afford a housewife while still being able to pay for a good childhood for the kids

LazerBean · Answer

It depends on the guy, but most men are going to expect their wife to work.

Shy_Steve · Answer

The fact that you asked this Question tells me your not that smart.

asphaltrhymes · Answer

Part time work is somewhere that makes everyone... happy enough 😀

Unit1 · Answer

Career lady for me. Or investor. Or financial advisor. Money rules this planet and i want to enslave money, not be enslaved by money.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Career woman. Birds of a feather, plus I don't want kids. DINKs for life.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I guess I'd prefer the housewife, if I really had to choose between the two, but it's not a strong preference. Just do what makes you happy.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

For sure a housewife, she can work before marriage but after marriage she's going to become a housewife

nawtee_me · Answer

neither and both... To me that is not part of the criteria for marriage.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I prefer a work from home career woman.

gothbxtch · Answer

depends on the guy

KingslayerC · Answer

Housewife

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Why not both?

barn_stormer · Answer

working woman for me

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Housewife

Blueeyes81 · Answer

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