Guys: would you prefer a housewife or a professional wife? and why?

Question

So why would you prefer your wife to be a housewife or a professional woman? I know most women could do both, but realistically, that drains…so if you have to pick one, what would it be and why?

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

Personally, a career woman. But that doesn't have to be a traditional career - she can be an artist or entrepreneur, whatever it is as long as she can sustain herself and contribute to household expenses.

I prefer this because I have my own issues with the "stay at home" spouse archetype. My mother was a SAHM who used me as an excuse not to work, even when I was 16 and self-sufficient (working my own job even), drove our family into debt, and cannot hold a job now as a 60 yo.

My ex-fiancé had all these ideas of becoming a bug bounty hunter, cybersec consultant, etc - but he couldn't even handle regular employment.

So I want someone who values being productive. Who enjoys working on something and has an active income stream.

Plus, someone like that is more likely to jive with me more. I can more easily see us doing higher stress activities like martial arts, hiking, climbing, etc. And we'd have more money - which is something I really value because I've grown up fairly poor and I feel better having a significant savings rate.

Graci_e · Accepted Answer

I’m going to own my own business exporting dogs overseas for a pretty hefty price tag, so it’s going to be based out of my home with all the kennel facilities on my property.

I actually love the idea of being a housewife, but I want to be independent and make my own money. I want a lot of money, I want to have nice things and I don’t want to rely on a man for that.

So I figure I can set it up in a way, where of course I’m gonna be fairly busy (it’s a business), but I still want to be home as much as possible to do all the motherly and wifey things and take care of my family.

It sounds hard and I know a lot of people would say that it could never work, but I’m gonna make it work for me. The craziest ideas somehow turn out the best.

HighValue · Accepted Answer

She can work at first and then quit once we have our first kid, at least until the kids are all school age. It would make things easier if she worked at first before having kids. Maybe enough to get herself her own car or something like that.
I would want her to be WILLING to work though if it was ever needed, like if I somehow got injured and temporarily couldn't work or something like that.

Once the kids are school age, I wouldn't care if she works or not. If she wants more spending money than what I would give her she could work. I just want her to not work weekends or late at night so we get enough time together.

ImJustSomeGuyLol · Accepted Answer

If I had to pick one, sorry, but it has to be the housewife.
Why? We are a team and will play different roles, the housewife is a home-maker and I will bring resources back to the home. There is no point having 2 people playing the same role, which usually means the home is neglected is some way.

It also means we can spend more time on our relationship/family after when I'm off work.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

Honestly, whatever makes her happy, makes me happy. That's how partnerships work. But if I had to choose, I'd choose the professional since it makes more sense in terms of ambition and finances. If she is a professional, we will have more resources to hire someone to clean the house, and to go out to eat and just relax and have more luxuries in general.

Guys: would you prefer a housewife or a professional wife? and why?

I think a housewife can be fun, but I was a househusband for a while, and it can also get boring and if you are a person with ambition and lots of energy, it can become somewhat limiting.

HawkPerception · Answer

It's not the old days where women made a fraction of what men made. Equality has been a thing for a while and I unless you work a job that can easily provide for yourself and your partner, it's better that you both work. I believe biologically that women are attracted to a man that provides and gives a sense of security, and men a driven by their purpose. So ideally the guy should work and the girl should be the homemaker. We are built physically different as well. But nowadays it's not usually possible to do that due to financial circumstances and there are a lot of feminist women that get offended by that concept anyways.

Reaper1985 · Answer

with how the economy has been over the last few decades having a single income/provider for a relationship/family can be tricky for many couples. but if my income could cover the regular bills then rather have a partner who took care of the daily household chores over one who worked full time. that being said wouldn't mind if they had a hobby or part-time job to allow them time away from the home and/or help with expenses a bit. it seems like when both partners work full-time or multiple jobs they hardly have time to be together though. which is part of why many couples breakup and/or cheat on each other.

OpenClose · Answer

Professional. Easy. If we end up needing help around the house, we'd have the income for a house cleaner.

It also helps a lot with the issue of money balance in a relationship.

Plus I'm not sure what housewives talk about. Like I haven't been around many. But if she is tech and science savvy, that's fine by me. But if it's housewife club drama or HOA politics or something, ehhhhhh...

BCA6010 · Answer

I think if I was confident and comfortable that I could be the sole provider for starting a family, I'd prefer a housewife, but I'm adaptable enough that I could make just about any situation work. I grew up with parents who both worked full time careers so that's pretty normal to me.

zovizonn · Answer

If you're a guy that's works 8 hour days with a 2 hour commute before and after, a housewife to make sure you're eating right and taking care of the house is a must. Some of these construction workers for example have unforgiving jobs / even worse working hours, there just isn't enough time. Mentioning kids would also lean more to housewife.

Chris_7565 · Answer

I work on a farm so I'm around home a lot, and I don't want to have anymore kids at my age. I would be fine if she was a housewife. In our situation she would just be unemployed and hanging out, lol.
That's still better than not seeing her because she's never home though.

fonduegirl · Answer

A professional wife. It means more money and necessary distance to keep the relationship good as new. I'm of the opinion that everyone should work. If in a group relationship, one of us is a homemaker, that's fine. But if it's mono, I'd need two of us to earn to sustain.

EyeKnowMeNahYou · Answer

I prefer a woman that's happy with herself if she's a professional then by all means be a professional but never neglect home, if she's a housewife then be the best housewife as possible but still be business minded in a sense and creative enough in certain aspects to help out and create something along my side so that we can make something greater a legacy of sorts

dustybiker · Answer

I’m surprised how few men said along the lines of ‘whatever makes her happy’. It shows what the dating world is like currently. Less compassion for others.

Selena1987 · Answer

As a professional woman, I think if the husband be wealthy, there’s no need I work a lot
I can work only for fun and there’s no need to work overtime or even don’t work and be a housewife, go gym daily, …
But if we need my salary (I mean he isn’t wealthy), I should work for our future and also our children future

Turtlewax1994 · Answer

For me a professional women,

Just the thought of a women handling her business and is working just as hard if not harder is a huge attractive trait but to each is own

Can you please answer my most recent question?

Wsx2wsx2ws · Answer

Professional housewife.
Housewife is a profession. Underestimate its value and watch your house go to crap.
Work your ass off and shower the appreciation and watch even a tiny hut glow with golden warmth.

maximumpower · Answer

to me it doesn't matter, as long as she carries her weight.
if she's going to stay in the house, then that is her "job" in the relationship.
if otherwise, then that's her "job" and the household requirements are split between us.
problem i found is that too many declare one, then do neither.

hahahmm · Answer

I believe that the traditional ways were best but as the quality of men & women went down overall, the risks for women to trust a guy with their future went up. And so too did the risk of a guy to trust a woman to be loyal to him.

Anonymous · Answer

A professional wife. Because this isn't 1950 anymore. Modern society pretty much dictates that most families both parents need to work.
I don't want to send the wrong message. I can handle being the sole earner if that's what she wsnts. But she doesn't get much say in the level of comfort we get to live in then. That's just reality!
I'm your PARTNER, that doesn't make you my PIMP. 🤣

DS_Madking · Answer

housewife simply because i love the wholesome imagination of coming home from a hard day and getting comforted by a cute wife there's really nothing more to it i just find housewifes reeally cute (maybe cuz i love caring girls)

Khronuskeeper · Answer

Professional. It's best if she isn't dependant on me, so she doesn't ever feel trapped or guilty for spending money. Besides she or I can be both anyway.

Avicenna · Answer

I have experience dating professional women, but not housewives. If the housewife was willing to have a big family, that might alter my calculus.

Bluemax · Answer

I prefer a happy wife, one who is pursuing whatever dreams and goals she desires.

Bob92220 · Answer

I never wanted a dependant but rather a partner. So I would prefer a professional wife.

Anonymous · Answer

Housewife, it is easier for the woman to be a homemaker than a career woman. As pregnancy would interrupt her career. And I think someone should stay home with the kids. That said if I met the right person I wouldn't mind being a househusband if it suited us better for her to be a career woman.

Pinay_ako · Answer

At this time of dire need of $ when everything is going up except our wages, we all gotta go to work!

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Housewife 100%. I love feminine women doing 'homebody things' like knitting. Nothing is more important than raising your kids yourself, giving them your own good values.

AviatorTom · Answer

I'd prefer a housewife. I'm a lousy cook and I don't want to have to eat out every night after my professional wife and I leave work.

Th3ft · Answer

I guess if I had to pick I would pick business wife but I would rather pick a woman and let her decide what she wanted to be.

RavVid · Answer

Given I can afford a housewife wife... I would go with the housewife with a part time job of some sort.

NoUsernameSelected · Answer

I have a stable job, make enough money and because of life circumstances have two homes and a house at a vacation destiny. I want a housewife, part time work would be ok.

Guanfei · Answer

If possible, a housewife. That means I make enough money and she doesn't need to work. I would still want her to get some useful skills in case something happens to me so she can do fine on her own.

AADIDEV · Answer

Both are good... if i love the person and she is with me That's the great thing i can have in my life...

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Hmm... I guess I would prefer a housewife, but it's not really a strong preference one way or the other.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

A combo of the 2, a work at home professional who co-runs an at home family business with me, while we split household chores.

DWornock · Answer

I want an obedient housewife that will cook, clean, be a good mother. If I want a business partner, I'd choose a man; not a woman.

Christian65 · Answer

I prefer a girl that works and is passionate with something meaningful and not just for money or status. Like with animals, children, sick people.

Shamalien · Answer

I like a clean house and a good home cooked meal. I want to be pushed to further my career and have the other stuff taken care of so I can focus

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Definitely a housewife. I don't even see a point to date a career woman. Thats for broke men in my opinion.

EterMachin · Answer

I have nothing against professional wife, but honestly I end up being more attracted to the first option. I feel that a housewife gives me more femininity and softness. But of course, I don't mind sticking with option two if I think it's worth it.

DJB72 · Answer

A housewife. I have a professional wife. It's hell to live with.

Oldschool1981 · Answer

A professional wife. I would prefer to be the housewife.

Andres77 · Answer

Housewife until the kids are in school and then a professional.

Iron_Man · Answer

Part time Worker and part-time housewife would be good

Waldoe · Answer

I would prefer her to stay at home and take care of the home... not lay on the couch and watch "Soaps"

Intothevoid666 · Answer

Somewhere in between I guess. I don’t want a workaholic but I also don’t want a stay at home wife. Someone with a normal job and career would be best

hobeaux · Answer

My wife was a professional until our first child, she took 9 years off to have three kids and get them to school age. Now she is a professional again. You don't have to pick one or the other.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't want some lazy bum sitting on her ass all day long.

browndog · Answer

Neither, as long as she's faithful and loyal to me, she can do whatever wants to do

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Professional since my girlfriend already had a career when I met her.

Better_off_here · Answer

as long as she is my wife and she loves me, and it is a give and take relationship i am happy :)

jahaims · Answer

The only way housewife is acceptable is if we have kids. She can do whichever one she prefers.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably housewife, to be honest. They just seem more likely to maintain a light, positive, feminine energy. Also generally better for small kids.

OddBeMe · Answer

Professional. can't imagine how boring the convo’s would be with a housewife.

lazermazer · Answer

Depends upon the multiple factors. Ideally housewife.

Mejai707 · Answer

House wife. A traditional simple life seems way better than this hook up scene everyone does in my area

DevinAM · Answer

I'm not 100% sure of what that means but I would prefer a wife that also works so I'm not the only one bringing money into the household.

Anonymous · Answer

Professional. Not what I got though. No internet to teach me the signs back then. Still..

Anonymous · Answer

Whatever one would make her the happiest. It's her life, I'm just lucky enough to a part of it. Whatever choice she makes, we'll make it work.

Thecubs22 · Answer

It doesn't matter to me. As long as I know she's the right one.

ZenoZoldyck · Answer

How about hybrid wife, a half professional wife, and half housewife

Sam_25 · Answer

I prefer others wife 😂

Pete671 · Answer

Professional woman so I don't have to work,,,

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