Do you prefer a career women or a housewife?

[Anonymous]

The question is pretty straight forward. ...

[SwoopingHawk]

I'd prefer to be married to a housewife over a career woman. Why?

Well first of all, my mother was a housewife, and that worked out well. I think it played a critical role in the development of faith and morality in myself and my siblings to have a parent at home, and it's very important to have upright, devout children. Also, the house would just be empty without a mother as the center of it all, week days would be a lonesome drain and weekends would be crammed with lots of housework and upkeep and cramming a week of relaxation for everyone into half a Sunday. Being able to have a mom at home was always key in my family life, and I want that for my kids. Furthermore, a housewife is way more likely to share the traditional values that I hold so important, and to put family as a high priority. Also, I feel a responsibility to be the head of my household, and to provide for a family. That can happen with a housewife. Overall, it seems like the situation that would provide a stronger family.

Now let's look at the things that push me away from career women. Feminism. This is a big one, career women are more likely to be feminists. This rests upon the rejection of traditional values, unacceptable. Plus feminists are just no fun. Also, career women tend to put their career first. This is not conducive to child rearing; Latchkey kids will not have the sort of upbringing needed to instill proper values. The time a career woman puts into her career, along with the dedication to it, does not make for a strong family. There are many specific downsides, but at the end of the day, "career women" (not just women with jobs) are too selfish to be members of a properly functioning family. A family has to work as a unit, not be sacrificed on the altar of feminist ambition.

So, yeah, a housewife sounds good. I guess it's been nice knowing ya'all, see you in Paradise.

[lucasnabizada]

Housewife... I want to have the role to provide... And I want my future wife to be here for my child always... The day I decided this was when one of my youngest cousins was being taken care of by a maid, and she actually called her mom... Outside the old-fashion ways it's biologically important for kids to have their mother... What's the point of making a kid if you don't have the time for him and you're always at work? Father is important as well, but someone has to work and I won't accept my wife working and me not being the one providing for her so.. here ya go lol :)

[zombiebabe]

that's a good point

[snowangle]

I would love to be a housewife - especially if we have kids. I have an intensely nurturing personality, so the thought of paying someone to basically raise my child for me is not appealing. Plus I love cleaning. And that way, I can also devote myself to my passion of rescuing animals.

Sigh, I can dream ;) Of course I'll be a working mom if I need to. Few families can afford to live on one income.

[zombiebabe]

good question!!
well... i am kind of traditional... hmmm... if i had kids i would like to stay at home with them until they are old enough because i don't want my kids to call the baby sitter "mom" instead of me >:( :( that would break my heart then i'll go to work BUT... staying at home won't bring any income so its hard to say :/... but i think a part time job would be a good idea... i dunno

[edibor]

You could always consider working at home. I'm choosing not to have kids, but I do work from home (via starting my own business), so you could consider starting a business or finding a job that allows telecommuting so you could still be home.

[Asker]

Good comment!

[zombiebabe]

@edibor good idea

[zombiebabe]

thanks

[BelleGirl21]

I can't believe how many people equate housewife with lack of ambition. Sad observation of our society.

[zombiebabe]

i know right :(

[Asker]

So true...

[arashmenalagha]

RIGHT? Raising children the way you want is tough. Mainly because when you're not there for them for example when you're working. You can't be at two places at once. :(

unless you hire a real nanny and not a baby sitter or day care. Not that there is anything wrong with a baby sitter or day care at all.

[Anonymous]

I prefer career man

[Asker]

Why?

[Opinion Owner]

Because they have a money ahahahsh

[Asker]

Hahahaha I like you.!

[Opinion Owner]

I like you to :D

[Asker]

Hey 😉

[Opinion Owner]

Who are you :D

[Asker]

A man lol 😉
Who are you?

[Opinion Owner]

A secret girl :D

[Asker]

Very interesting 😉

[Opinion Owner]

Ahahah I guess :D

[Asker]

Hahaha! 🌷🌷🍨

[madhatters4]

i prefer a partner who is willing to do whatever is best for the family

[OlderAndWiser]

You omitted an important choice: a retired career woman.

[ak666]

I married a career woman and prefer it since it gives our lives some level of independence.

A woman who actually dreams of becoming a housewife is actually a turn-off to me since I want to see someone with a bit more of an ambition. I mean it's wonderful if a woman can cook and clean and has maternal instincts, but quite disappointing for me if her goals in life boil down to just that.

On the other hand, a woman who has further goals but makes the sacrifice to be a housewife is a very different ordeal. I never dealt with this type. In my case, my wife kind of offered to do that but I wanted her to continue her career.

[oddwaffle]

If I was insane or stupid then would want a housewife.

Housework don't get paid. Only a fool does the housework all day. I need a wife who can get out their and help me with the family savings. Two income sources will help me send the kids to college, pay off multiple houses and save enough for a comfortable retirement.

You need about 250k for 1 kid, 2mil for retirement and probably 300-600k for the house. I don't make enough to save 100k+ a year and still pay for everything if I want to retire early. She have to get out their and help with the money.

[Ratiocinative]

Saving, 5k a year plus returns from investments is enough to get you to 100k saved by age 30. You dont need to be rich to have money for retirement, just some disciple and money management. If you have 100k saved at age 30 you could never save another dime and still have almost 2 million by age 70 from investing it. Or you can keep investing 5k a year and retire with 2 mil at age 55 or so.

If you need a wife to help pay the bills you ain't no man.

[oddwaffle]

@Ratiocinative

Depending on the accounts and when you want to retire. In an ideal world 100k in 40 years your be 2mil if you didn't count the inflation, tax, market crashes and other mishaps.

I don't want to work in my 60s. By 70, I would be too old to care. Ideally, I want to retire in my 50s when I can still move around or in my 60s when I can still work on my hobbies.

I also want 2 houses, one for vacation and one for luxury living. I also want 80-120k a year on my retirement as well as living a fund for my kids.

I don't need to be a man. Those Neanderthals are going extinct. I just need to be successful. And that means, I going to want a wife. Not a domestic servant.

[AlphaMale1]

If she is career-driven I will encourage that. If she wants to be a housewife I will make her feel happy with her decision.

I prefer a woman who loves, trusts, respects and wants to be with me as much as I want to be with her.

[YourFutureEx]

I'll prefer a career-driven woman because :-
☻It means she's "successful"
☻She tries to DO something
☻More income
☻It would keep her busy in my absence
☻We'd have more things to share with each other
☻Our child would get motivation from her hardwork
etc. etc. etc.

But at the end of the day, I'd not mind if she decides to be a housewife :)

[Hidden_P]

I'm a traditional woman and I would prefer to be a housewife. Unfortunately, in this day and age it's not practical to live off one income.

Instead, I am setting up my own business for a range of reasons, but one of them includes that if/when we start a family, I can be there for my children without missing out on income.

[vishna]

I would only be a housewife if I was recovering from giving birth/spending time with my new baby :)
Other than that, I will focus on my career, which currently is college.
If I made enough to take care of most of it, he could stay at home and do the housework and take care of the kids. However, he would need to pull his weight and half of what the kid's need because he is an adult, and those are half his creations.

[Laura_Marx]

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career feminism was a mistake

[BelleGirl21]

I completely agree

[cinderelli]

I'd be a career woman for sure.. I didn't study so much all my life to only change diapers and do dirty laundry at the end (keyword "only") .. husband and wife are a team.. I'd like to marry someone with goals just like I do myself.. we'll both work... we'll both raise our family.. we'll both help each other meet our goals..

[LeaOotori]

I'm not good with kids or chores, and I'm spending so much time and money on my education. My mother was a housewife, and she didn't want me to end up like her, because she said that sometimes she goes insane raising us all alone with my dad at work. So I prefer career woman.

[howzit2015]

Never thought about it. When I finish med school, and complete my residency I will most likely want to have kids. So I don't care what she does. I will have a job where I make 300-400K/yr, and only have to work 30-40hrs a week so I can raise my children. If she wants to stay home and clean, okay. If she wants to work, okay. As long as she helps me raise our children, and takes care of me like I plan to care for her who cares. I just don't want someone who is lazy, or works excessively.

[Stardust143]

I would personally prefer maintaining my job/career, which I enjoy and take great interest in. If there are children in the picture, I would do whatever's best for them, though. That could mean one of us staying home when they're young, or alternating staying home, taking extended maternity/paternity leave, and/or having their grandparents help out - whatever works best.

[MikeGaultier]

Career women, no competition. Housewives are fine, but I've noticed that a lot of them end up feeling like something is "missing" (lack of career usually), which ends up putting a strain on the relationship.
Career women are more goal oriented, know what they want and will do anything within reason to get it, and make great SOs (they understand the value of a dollar, how much work has to go into making money, etc.)

[Anonymous]

Most women these days are both. Women may be going to work outside the home, but they are still responsible for the housework.

[Asker]

What do the men do?

[Opinion Owner]

Work. Men typically work longer hours and have more stressful and demanding jobs than women do. The high level of stress is quite costly.

[Asker]

True that

[Opinion Owner]

The high level of stress in traditional male-dominated professions is taking a great toll on men's health. Some men do not want the stress associated with these professions, so they choose something that are less stressful and something that they enjoy doing for a lifetime. Now, there are greater numbers of men entering the teaching and healthcare professions.

[Smmyskittles]

I prefer a husband not a wife. :P

- However, overall, if I was making enough money, he could stay home for all I care.

That's his choice and won't make me think any less of him if he does.

[sund0wn]

You're a genius, M. me :)

[TheLawProf]

I feel like you need to do a bit of both. The housework needs to get done somehow. However, the husband doing all the housework is unappealing. I think you should follow your ambitions, but make sure your career won't take too much time from home. Your family comes first. If working helps payment, work. If taking care of the kids help the family more, then stay at home for a few years until they are able to take care of themselves. Both are very respectable, no doubt.

[spoonman2014]

Career, unless I can make like 100,000 a year and not be drowning in debt. My supervisor in the air force said get a woman with a job. His wife never worked, they had 4 kids so he was stuck working like 3 jobs just to take care of them. He retired and has all kinds of money coming in now so I'm happy for him.

[Anonymous]

Housewife. It's not that women can't do the career thing. They've proven they can. It's not that they shouldn't be allowed to. They're every bit as good as men (if not bettter) and can do what they want. There are 3 reasons why I prefer housewives.

1. I don't think the current job market is big enough to support the two income family. The single income family plan would work better if we could get over the turmoil that would arise during the switch.

2. I think society was better off when someone was home to raise the children and keep house. You can hire a housekeeper to clean, sure. But the TV and iPad are no substitute for good parenting. And Microwave anything is no substitute for a real home-cooked meal like we had when mom stayed home.

3. I hate my job but I'd rather do it than stay at home mopping and vacuuming all that stuff. Besides, the wife is better at it anyway. So, househusbands could be a thing but, I'd rather work at that office and have a housewife.

[Berethor]

Most career women that I know are too obsessed with their job, and I like when a women knows to take care of the house, so personally I think that I prefer a housewife. :)