So I got this question and I'm kinda curious, my friends have been talking about the pro's and con's of being a housewife or a working wife/mother. what would you prefer? its nothing wrong with being a housewife or working wife/mother. both do equally hard work. and a question for the men. what would you prefer your ladies to be doing. At the end of the day it's her decision obviously.
Ladies, would you prefer being a housewife or a working wife/mother?
Personally, I would prefer not to work outside the home. This is partly because maintaining a home and raising children is a full-time job and when both parents are working it's very difficult to have a stable environment for everyone. There's so many things that just need to be taken care of like doctor appointments and home repairs and school activities.
Plus there are so many things in the community that can only be done during work hours. I never realized until I was a stay-at-home parent how much of a community is kept going by volunteers who drive older people to appointments (for example) and do so many other things to keep the town and churches and libraries and charities and schools going. I had no idea until I was a stay-at-home mom how much of a community is run by volunteers.
Also, I personally am not ambitious and don't care about a career other than making money. I have a lot of creative hobbies and I could easily spend my time writing fiction and maintaining a home. I honestly think that if I was able to dedicate full-time to it I could have a writing career but I can't do that cuz I have to work. I also was involved in volunteering when my son was little and my husband was actually mad at me for it but so many people depended on it I couldn't NOT help.
When one person is a homemaker, they have time to closely watch the budget, clip coupons, be sure that you're using the food that you have and not throwing it away cuz you didn't have time to cook it, planning meals from scratch, doing all the time saving and money saving things as a working parent I can't do. I feel like money just pours like water through my fingers cuz I don't have time to give it the attention it needs.
However many women are not cut out for that. It's not their personality, they don't even lyrics, they get satisfaction from a career, and are miserable at home. So it really depends on the person.
It also depends a lot on how much support you have. I don't have any family here so I have no grandparents or aunts or uncles to help. Everything was on me so I really needed to be home when my son was little. Once he started school I went back to work.
Well, working at home is a job in a way! One with lots of benefits!
You gotta keep shit clean and make good food (which is fun since you can eat the best bits before anyone else!).
You watch the kids, if any- "Listen, I will give you half of the brownies if you go and pull up ALL of Sharol's marigolds and morning glories. They looks like this picture. Go wreak hell. If you breathe a word about it, I will know." who are your little demons. If you direct their evil energy on your shit neighbors, they'll leave you for the most part. If they try it on you, whoop 'em. My black friends don't try shit with their moms but love them to death. That's what I wanna achieve!
You also get to be pregnant (which some people don't like, that's fine!) since making new life is fucking COOL! And your man or lady gotta listen to you or risk tears. But they probably love you so much they'll do anything anyways! Plus, your own parents get you stuff and fawn over you and visit and bring lots of food. Hell yeah!
Brag about your mini-army to your fellow moms and wives. "Yeah, we have six now. We have our own soccer team. Yeah, it is cool. I know."
Cleaning is fine. I'm a neat freak anyways!
Spend time with your pets after making sure all is well, laundry hung and floors good and fresh muffins on your lap and play games until hubs or wife comes home. Doesn't sound half bad to me!
Just like with anything else, society can never be pleased. You don't work and stay home with the kids? What a lazy piece of shit you are. You work and have a job outside the home? You're a bad mom and should be spending that time with your kids. I think that whatever works for ones particular family and situation is best.
Sorry, but it's not "her decision obviously", in a relationship it has to be decided together. If she relies on me to earn the bread because she stays at home, it concerns me as well. And a housewife and a working wife can, but usually don't do the same amount of work. Working wives normally still do the main part in the household, which means more work than doing the household and nothing else. I would prefer her to work so I can stay at home to care for the kids and do the household, because the time with the kids is VERY precious, but it will ultimately boil down to either both working, or the one who earns more to work while the other one gives up their job. (Unless she just stays at home after maternal leave although she would earn more. That could happen but wouldn't be ideal)
Don't conflate preference with decision. She just asked for a preference, which is fine. I hate selfish women too, but not every disposition means a woman is selfish.
I know your question is aimed at girls, but I'd just like to say that women who are housewives have always worked hard. They just don't get paid for doing it. Maintaining a household and cooking, cleaning, shopping, doing child care and all the rest is a major job that deserves respect.
I'd prefer to work. It's extremely hard to live here on one income if you don't make six figures. Anyways, I like my job!
Absolutely nothing wrong with either choice. But I've been told I'm making a terrible choice or that I will be a terrible mother because im working, by other women on here in the past. What the fuck. How do you know what my life is like? Some people, I tell ya.
I want to work but I might end up being a house wife if I can't afford child care when I get married. I'm currently single so don't need to worry about that.
I just had my first child she is 8 months. When I found out I was pregnant. I was looking into child care costs it's expensive. With today expenses it's more beneficial for both parents to be working. Me and my husband are Separated. So I have to work hard. Luckily my mom is retired so she watches my daughter for me. It's hard to not have you're child with you at such a young age. If I was more financially secure I would rather be with my child. It feels like something is missing. Always thinking did she eat, is she happy. Before I was separate and had my daughter the plan was to be a stay at home mom until school started. Work part time than pick her up and be at home with her helping her with everything she needs. Things are never set in stone. So I work hard to provide for my daughter to make sure she is healthy and taken care of. It's not easy but I'm happy to be a mother. I feel like being a mother is amazing and being a stay at home mom would still be a lot of work on it's own. The bright side you won't miss your child when your at work. If your financial stable and can afford to be a stay at home mom and can be with your child i would say do that. Because not a day goes by I don't miss being with my baby. All about being a parent is doing what you have to do for your children. Both being a stay at home mom and a working mom are jobs on their on. To each their own we are all different people with different circumstances. We do the best we can that's life
Men don't have the emotional makeup to mother kids. They have the temperament to fight the rest of the world, but they need to be able to do that. There's only so much that can be done to improve a house and family. That limit to improvement bothers men.
Women are generally bothered by the unnecessary competition on which men thrive.
A housewife is what keeps a superman going, because he can't manage his own domestic life as well as a woman can.
Plus, women have higher rates of depression without a family.
I will only marry an educated woman who is willing to be a housewife and teammate because 1. Unintelligent people bother me/ I'm nerdy, and 2. I plan to have kids.
I'm a man and I'd rather be doing the house 'work'. Although I'm a bit perplexed by the term work here. I'm not sure staying at home and looking after the kids, taking them to school, helping with homeworks, cleaning the bathroom all really compares to the most people's 9 to 6. Surely the old Skol 'keeping house' is a better term? Also worth commenting that in my experience it's only a wealthy elite that can afford that arrangement. In my home we both do a full days work and for the 'house work' in our 'free' time.
If I had kids, I'd be a house wife for the early years of my kid's lives. I wouldn't want my kids raised by nannies. But once they start elementary school and are gone from 8-3 or 4 pm, I'd start working again but make sure to be home before they do on the bus.
It all comes down to the guy I end up with. Some men respect what their wives do as houswives and somejust saythat she has it easy and that she is just staying at home watching TV playing withthe kids even ifher job takes much more workthan he could think of. If a man respects the work I do at home and how I take time to raise our child then Yes I would be a housewife, but if not. Then I don't see whats the point in doin all that, get a job, use the money to paya maid and babysitter and be a business woman that comes home to have relaxing family time just like he does.
I'd prefer to work. Despite the fact I'd like to stay home with my babies. If I had a choice I'd stay home with my babies until they were at least old enough to go to preschool before going back to work. To be honest I don't think I could handle being a stay at home mom. I hate being at home and I hate doing house work even more. I have to feel like I have a purpose. Obviously caring for your children and your home are definitely a purpose but I'd need something outside of the house to give me something to focus my untapped energy on.
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Honestly from what i see from my mom who's a housewife, it's better to be a working wife. Her husband alone makes enough money to pay all the bills and our necessities but we don't get to get the things we want. I see there's many things she would love to have that he can't get her and it's sad tbh like asside from being stressed of taking care of the babies, i try to help as much as i can but i go to school. She stays home all day and doesn't go out like she use to when she had her own money to buy her own things. I just can't wait till i get a job soon so i can spoil her because she deserves it.
Being a housewife isn't a lazy choice, one have to put more effort and hardwork than 8 hours job. In a family everyone is dependent on everyone else, like a small society and every member of the family have to contribute their part. Being a girl I would love to work as a housewife if that is necessary, similarly if my family is in need of money I would love to work. Personally I find work of an housewife more challenging.
I am both, just because I work outside of the home doesn't mean I get to stop being mom and a homemaker.
I work double shifts mostly on weekends to get my full time hours in, in 2 days. That way the hubby is home with the kids and we don't need to worry about a babysitter. It works well for us because there's not much going on on the weekends and the hubby gets to do the stuff he's good at with the kids (fun) and I'm home all week for the "mom" stuff like real dinners, housework, doctors appointments and homework.
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I'd much rather be there for my children and teach them things myself, compared to chucking them in a centre like every family seems to do now days. My mum started work again when we were toddlers/young children, but only night shifts, therefore she had us during the day. We didn't have much money, but we made it work. I compare my childhood to my young cousins today, and they're fucked. Barely see their parents because they're shoved in child care and are literally stupid. My step auntie and uncle leave their kids in an after school program so the mum can go watch tv for a few hours alone like? Be a parent maybe? Your damn children didn't ask to be born, you did that, now you need to take responsibility (and not by giving your 2 year old an iPad).
To tell you the truth, I really am not interested in working. There is nothing I am passionate about. If I married someone who made good enough money (like 80K+) then I would like to stay home completely. But if that's not the situation, then I will work if I have to. My preference would be to work until about 29/30 and then start having kids. I want a big family, 4-5 kids. I would like to stay home from the time the first one is born until the time that the last one starts school. After the last one has begun kindergarten, then I would go back to work.
Flexibility between both. It may be better for children's upbringing to stay at home for a few years during infancy and then transition back to work force once kid (s) reach school. Find/demand a job that requires hours you can handle that balances between motherhood and working and expect to be paid accordingly (it won't be equal). Takes pressure off husband so he can come home earlier too and spend more time with family. More balance for both. Might be idealistic given economic constraints tend to blow things up with reality.
I think before I get mariage serious with anyone, I will ask this question cos I don't want to force anyone to prioritize our future kids over a job. There are women that love to be there for their kids till they start school and there are women that willingly will give more hours to their kids than work. Find someone that fits with your plan not someone that see stay at home moms as oppressed. Not all men feel the same so it's all good. Everything men do is so one day they can get a family. We were raised to provide for wives and kids not just for ourselves and I think that is a sacrifice that gives us joy.
As you said it's completely her choice. I don't have a prefference.
If she feels like she wants to do that, rather than work, well fine. I wouldn't care, i know my childeren would be lived by their mom if she stayed at home or not.
But I think the times you are at home and you are constantly taking care of childeren, you might get bored after a while. You might miss the adult human interaction.
So as a guy, i think it's her choice, but i hope if she does choses to stay at home, that she doesn't become misserable.
And to flio the script. As a guy, or stay at home dad. I would be able to do that, but i would need some of my hobbies, to get me out of the houss.
I'm alsk scared in both cases, that it can bring some toxic conversations into the marriage.
I dont think I could be full-time housewife... I would definitely want my kids to be happy and I would love to spend time with them/have time for them. But I also like my job and I need to get out among people. I´d prefer a part-time job in my profession.
In my country it is very unrealistic, the wages of one person aren´t usually enough to pay for rent, electricity and support family (clothes, food,...) Both parents are normally full-time working people, hardly noone can afford to be a stay-at-home-parent.
I am a part of a lot of female groups who are married or in serious relationships. Majority of these women seem to be a housewife. Sometimes it seems sweet and fun. But then some others have bad experiences. Like the relationship they are in is abusive or not fulfilling, and because they dont' work or handle the money, they can't move on from that relationship as easily as a woman, like myself, who does make her own money.
But as a girlfriend who cohabitates and works, I feel like nothing around the house gets done because I am too exhausted from work and school. He has offered to be the sole provider, but I know where we live requires too incomes, but believe me, I have thought about it. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side.
Housewife. Because If I became housewife, I can take care of my family more than I can say and I can give my love to my husband. Working wife will be like busy with work, tired when coming back home, can't take care a lot to her husband and her children. But housewife can give them a warm exactly for sure. So, I only prefer being a housewife. I will abandon my job not to lose my family and not to regret it later like a fish out of water.:)
So working mother's are incapable of taking care of their husband and children? We can't take care and provide for their needs and wants while being nurturing to our children and comforting to our husband's. Your sorely mistaken. It is absolutely possible to do both, to work to provide a comfortable life for your family while being nurturing, comforting, and warm.
But you can't however. Look at the women who're busy with their work. They can't give enough time for their family and at last, that family will be broken apart.
Completely untrue. There are many women who stay at home and don't tend to their children or husband. I could say that women who stay at home are lazy, and don't put in an effort to financially provide for their children or help relieve the strain off their husbands. Sure, there some people like that but not all are like that. Just the same there are many women who work, come home, clean their home, cook dinner, help their children with school work, prepare for the next day for themselves and their family, spend time with their kids, get them to bed at a decent time so they can spend time with their husband. You're using absolutes and in life there are no absolutes.
Tho we all agree that's she is young, I will agree with her that most women today don't know how, are not taught to cook or even value the tradional values of a mother. a lot of moms leave their kids and go to work before they even start kindergarden and that's how daycare even came into existence. The feminist cry is, how can women hold high positions when they work less of take long maternity leave, thus a lot of career oriented women will be planning to get back to work too early to stay relevant and catch up with the competition with the men and possibly other single women. My mom did both and I can not complain cos she took her babies to her dress making shop till each of us started school. If u are able to put both together from day one then it's all good. Some women can work from home to.
@sexywhispers I agree with what she said in way. Of course maybe it depends on where you live and what kind of work you have, but I can say that I work full-time now and that means leaving the house at around 7 am and returning at 8 pm at best, if I don't work overtime. If I'm still going to cook something, we will be eating quite late, then shower and no time to relax. Same for my husband.
I don't think the family would be broken apart, but there's no way we can have a child and keep this lifestyle, it wouldn't be healthy to any of us.
Of course, as you pointed out, it's also true that just because someone is a housewife, doesn't mean they're a great mom and wife, but I don't think she was implying that.
I love your question. Working wife/mother is important but a housewife is also a working woman especially if she has children. I respect greatly a working mama especially at home.
OMG yes thank you. It is work and everyone feels like they are entitled to tell her how to do it. You can reason with most adults but try reasoning with a small child. I went back to work part-time when my youngest started school just so I could have a bit of adult time.
Goodwifie, when I was an adolescente my mother repeated to me that a housewife and mother were the most powerful woman on the planet. Why? They reinforced the nuclear family and in her absence children oftentimes suffered greatlydue to self confidence and worth. As a man who has worked with abused children several years prior I can attest the power of a mother despite abuse from men when she personally provides the spiritual and emotional support and the strength to engage whatever challenges the child may confront in life. Motivation is a pragmatic power of strength. By the way, my name is Roger. Thank you for your invaluable influence as a mother to your little ones.
When children are growing and bonding I believe it is a duty as a mother (or father mother) to show genuine love and trust so a child can learn to be confident early on which can greatly reduce the risk of being another victim of mental illness caused by many issues pertaining to not having a loving genuine mother (daddy) .. I believe it would greatly reduce the risk of becoming a product of environment and system... lol and most importantly 1 less narcissistic member of society... But if a mom kicks ass, working is great too... but being a loving mother and wife is worth more than any dollar!
People often have this conception that a housewife sits at home and looks after the kids , and that's about it. But the reality of the matter is that being a housewife is basically a non paying job , you don't have 9 - 5 work ours and you never have off days. Personally I would never be able to live a life as a housewife , I need the stimulation of working and being creative and having something to show for my work but I have so much respect for housewives/mothers , my mom was one and she has two successful daughters to show for it
Working wife, since I don't want children. I'm definitely not the type of person to stay at home. It would drive me crazy. Plus I'd like to provide an income... 🤷♀
And I don't know... This might sound very pessimistic but what if you break up/get divorced? Where do you go? New apartment? Back to your parents? With what money?
I think people underestimate how hard it is to keep a home in order. Why people constantly water down those tasks I really don't know. I personally want to work when I'm married, mostly because I want to do a lot of things but I'm hoping for a very freestyle life, as the average family is disappointing to me.
Disappointing how? And working AND being a mom is the exactly opposite of having a freestyle life. That's having a "not a single hour left to myself in the day"style life.
Which isn't for you? That's what I was asking. Being a housewife or being a mom altogether? Not judging, just unclear as to what you're on about. If you don't want to be a mom because it ties you down, don't, but working as a mom leads to a lot less freedom than being at home as a mom.
No, I want to be a mom. I'm just not interested in a traditional lifestyle because I'm not a traditional person. I don't have kids yet so I can't exactly tell you what that entails nor do I feel like I have to explain it.
You don't have to explain it because I already know what it entails. But I wasn't arguing. Just trying to get clarification as your initial answer was ambiguous.
Why is it disappointing? Having a family is beautiful. I can't understand how people can put money over love. I guess that's one of the consequences of capitalism.
@braveheart97 who said having a family is disappointing? I'm saying having a traditional lifestyle isn't something I'm interested in. If anything, I would want to raise my family in a way that reminds them that money isn't everything.
I'd rather be working. I worked hard to get where I am and I can't see myself giving it all up. I may choose to stay at home the first few years, but once they hit school age no way in hell am I staying home. Being a wife and mother is not enough for me, I need an identity outside of them. However, I do have imense respect for mothers and fathers who choose to stay at home. It just isn't for me.
I'd prefer to be a housewife. This way I will be able to give my family the proper kind of attention. I do not say that working women are unable to do so but I personally would find it difficult to keep balance between the two. That is why I would think about marriage after some years of job so that I can enjoy both experiences.
I’d prefer to work. My mom worked, she and dad have always been a team, and I’d love to have the same dynamic with my guy. I’d go crazy if I had to stay at home all the time, even if I found some hobbies that could keep me a bit busy and get me out of the house now and then. I want to earn my own money, and financially pull my own weight. I don’t have anything against women who want to be housewives, I just know that it’s not for me personally.
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Mostly my culture is based on women to raise kids and be sit at home mom’s and men to be the bread winner. I want to get my degree and everything to be educated, and if my husband tells me he can provide for all of us I’m not against taking care of my future kids well. Raise them right. But if I can choose I would like to have a career in the medical field that I’ll love coming to everyday. Plus my mother said she can take care of my future kids teach them the native language well, because I’m not so well at it. Nothing as bad as being house wife if you love kids. So many things I can do, like read books with them, give them all my attention and also give myself time like do workouts at home, stay fit. And coook no problem, cook amazing food for my SO. So yeah it depends.
I'd love to be a housewife. The ideal family for me is a man, as he should be, as the head of the family and I would be there to support him and look after him and our kids.
Well no because biologically that's how it's meant to be. Human women are meant to look after the young, while the man hunts and protects the women and children. This would make the man the head of the household as he was for centuries here in the west.
@jatjakazuhira I completely agree with almost all of both of your staments so far except hunting and protection doesn't mean "head of the household". There are 2 separate domains there and they don't overlap very often. Neither one rulling over the other but both coexisting and supporting each other.
It depends. Daycare without government assistance is my entire wage. Id be working a job i hate for free when i could just be at home with my child, where i'd prefer to be anyway. Id actually be out of pocket because i still have to come up with fuel money to get to work.
Househusband 😊 I can work from home, I love to clean. Yes , I see the question says ladies 😁 just saying , if i run into a woman that's works as a teacher , doctor , nurse or just loves her job , it dosent matter. As Long as she is happy , I'm great. Part time job , clean the house , pick the kids up , sounds like early retirement to me 🤣 jokeing... I think 😉 ... 😙
I'd prefer being a housewife. Althought it may get boring being in the house all day, same could be said about being in most work environments. At least I'd be around family and get to relax at home
I mean, that depends on what my guy would earn. I wouldn’t want to live on 3000 a month with kids...
I think i’d probably be both. When I have a child, i’d love to take a year or three off to take care of my child full time, then get back to work until i have another child etc.
I did both lol I worked 24 hours at my job on the weekends and spent the whole weekdays with my kiddo. In the weekends she spent time with my parents. After she got older I took up one more day of work but still had 4 days with her. It’s sad not many people can do what I did ☹️
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Only if she is the Boss. My wife ain't working for someone else. Other than that, she can be the Boss of the household lol.. either way. She has to be a boss.
But I'll be making 5000-6000(if not more) per month anyways, and Im also not from a poor family soo.. financially its not that nessesary.. she'll be wasting her freetime.
I'll get a nanny for the housework People usually dont want to do, and enjoy life with her and our children.
$5000 per month is only $60,000 per year. You can’t support a family on that where I live. You can *maybe* support yourself if you clip a lot of coupons and don’t go out to do fun things.
@Astoriana also I was talking about €. Im from germany. And I dont know where in the US you live, but there is no place in germany that is this expensive. So if I'd have 10000-15000 per month, I'd had more Money than I could possibly spend in germany. Without getting a tit surgery every second day.
@Astoriana you used the $ sign Thats why I assume that. And yes in Germany you can earn 10000-15000 if you're a pilot for lufthansa, a Professor at the university (more like 10000), a doctor and jobs that simply need further education. Being a pilot isn't unrealistic, neither is it to be a professor, neither Is being a doctor unrealistic. Difficult does not mean unrealistic.
@Astoriana I dont. As I said, read it all or leave it. Dont only pick parts out of my Text and claim that I want my wife as pet "I want her to be a boss and not work for someone else." means she can work. But I want her at the top and in Control of the work she does. And not a stranger that tells her what she does Is right or wrong.
@Astoriana and even if 10000 isn't the Start salary. A junior prof in germany gets his 4500-6000 easily. Thats the least amount they'll get. And as I Said before, there Is no place in Germany where that would be enough.
Where the hell do you live? My family gets £22,000 a year. We all live happily and there's three kids a stay at home mum, and my dad. And your saying $60k isn't enough for a family barely enough for one person? I live currently in a different city, £8,500 a year and I live comfortably so I don't get where your figures are coming from, even with accounting for the difference in exchange rate. Even if I was living in London, a good yearly amount would be no more than £14,000/15,000 for one person to live comfortably.
I would love to take care of my kids and I will definitely take time off work to do so. But I can't say I won't work at all. The day the man tells me he wants a divorce, I don't want to have to worry about anything. I'm not saying all marriages end in divorce but it's better to expect the worst and hope for the best. Plus I am not getting all this education to end up sitting at home.
Well in my observations that there is a high probability that your marriage fail and end in divorce. If you are a housewife you have no education and once a divorce is final you will have no clue how to support yourself and the farm of kids you have made.
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I will marry a woman who is educated and wants a career, but who also wants a family and takes being a mother seriously enough that she'll stay home as a full-time mother until the kids are at least 8 - 10 years old.
I say that confidently because we're getting married in April. We both think it's sad how many women today are too selfish to make their kids the priority they deserve to be.
Wait so women who work while their kids are younger than 10 are selfish? Are you freaking serious!! I work damn hard to provide for my children... I get up probably before you even think of seeing your alarm so that I can be at work before the sun comes up, poor in a full day, same leave by the time my kids get out of school so that I can be there for them. What a narrow minded thing to say.
@Daynada Well then my comment was clearly not directed at you. It was directed at the many women who put their careers ahead of their children's well being, by choice.
@sexywhispers I'm pretty sure you're wrong about the alarm, and about the narrow minded comment. If you can "poor in a full day" without comprising your parenting, good for you. Most women can't, and a LOT of those women put themselves in that situation by choice, believing they can "have it all".
VERY few women can have it all. Something has to give, and usually it's their children who get shorted. Too many people today are unwilling to make compromises for the sake of their children. That's what I'm talking about.
@undoubtedly I work while my children are at school, there's no point in being home while they're in school. You can't be there next to your child 100% percent of the time.
@anonymous Thank you for clarifying your statement. Unfortunately some men and some women make the choice to put themselves and their careers before their children and family. This is obviously the wrong choice. I personally choose to or myself last every time because I love and cherish my children and husband. FWIW, I'd challenge that alarm any day lol
I am actually pretty clear. You don't believe your statement can be a two way street. However, it is. You don't like that though because you're a sexist and somehow believe only men have the right to work and women watch the kids until a certain age. Too bad women have a say now and aren't controlled by the likes of you
When I'm married & have kids, I want to be a stay at home mom until they start going to school. And being a housewife has always sounded fun to me, but that'd only be if my hubby wanted me to continue being a housewife even after the kids were in school. But, it's unlikely I'll marry a rich guy, so that will probably never happen.
I would want to be a stay at home mum until the youngest child is preschool age. Then I'd work part time cause I know from both sides how hard it is for men to be the only provider in the family, and how hard it is for two full time working parents to give their children all the support they need.
All women look for these three things in a man: Looks, social status, and money. That being said you can conclude that what a women wants is a luxurious life-style where they do nothing but consume food and spend money on things they want. All provided by the man.
I'm not going to say that some women aren't like that. It exists. But men can be liars incapable of respect, care and loyalty too. You don't see me over generalizing.
The only reason I'd personally care about money is because I don't have the money to fully support someone else. So we'd both have to make enough to support ourselves.
I’m absolutely right. You can make excuses all you want. The fact is most women want a man that demonstrate those 3 qualities. There are sub categories to those 3 things. But at a high-level that’s what women look for. Everything else to a women is secondary.
@fauna642 None of what I said was a personal attack on you. I only stated that your opinion of other women is not based in fact. Only wishful thinking. If you care about money for practical reasons and you're willing to make it on your own then more power to you. You're the exception. That does not change the reality of how most women operate.
Then I guess I know a hell of a lot of exceptions to the rule. I didn't take it as an attack (just giving an example) @redreddyred actually no. While money certainly helps to build a good life, you're making it sound like women in general are looking to leech. Social status matters the least of most things people look for in a partner.
You’re living in a delusion. What Kiran said is 100% accurate. You are the exception. MOST women have been taught at a very young age (through Disney movies, society and whatnot) to look for those three things In a man. This is all truth. MGTOW for life.
Since you guys are so unfailingly knowledgeable about what females are looking for (even though neither of you are women and both only know a "drop in the ocean" amount of women, as I do), how about men?
@fauna642 Men are simple. We like sex and sex appeal. A man wants a woman with sex appeal who can massage his ego and provide a comfortable home to return to. But mostly sex. Sex, sex, sex.
@Kiran04 Yeah but like, no one actually cares about that (or at least less than you think, there's obviously SOME people who think that ridiculously). Looks? Subjective, but that goes for every human (attraction obviously needs to be there, but that's not the number one thing going for someone). Social status? Who cares. Money? As long as when the relationship starts there's an income or at least a true attempt to find one, good. I don't need millions of dollars to love someone.
@enilatto you’re trying to combat the truth with your opinion. Women will go for those three things, you just admitted to it. The reason this strikes a cord with you is because we (men) have generalized all women to be the same, and you feel like we are attacking you personally. You’re upset because you realize what we are saying is true and there’s no way for you to change it. Or you’re upset because we’ve come in and generalized about your bad behaviors that you’ve worked so hard to make yourself look good in front of others, when on the inside your not.
@redreddyred Not sure what females you've met, but either you've been hurt one too many times and now generalise, or you're surrounded by petty, immature women. I don't know how I came across as upset¿ I literally couldn't care less about those three things mentioned (let alone your opinion). I mean, you're free to sit there and peg me as one of these girls, because I actually don't need strangers approval to feel okay with myself funny enough. I obviously can't put forth an opinion or point of view on behalf of every female, so yeah please excuse the fact I had to vary my reasons in regard to all the cunts who care about that shit lmao. You make me regret NOT being a feminist honestly. Live your life, deny the truth real women are giving you, and have fun with whatever girls you seem to meet who only care about three things :)
I’m interested in self preservation- not your shameful tactics. You don’t support men going there own way because we are your meal ticket. Without men civilization crumbles and you lose everything. You can’t admit this because if you do then men see you for what you truly are, children pretending to be adults. Just because you put on a pair of pants doesn’t make you man, honey. For the longest time you weren’t allowed to wear pants yet now you actually want men to put on skirts and chop our balls off using transgender bathrooms. Feminism isn’t equality, what it really is- is female superiority. Not into becoming a woman’s slave. Go back to your delusion 🙂
@redreddyred I'm not a feminist... I literally support men more than females. Rape, abuse, child custody, etcetc. I'm an advocate against feminism. I think you were raised a little questionably, but whatever, you're the one here salty over something you made up; not me.
@redreddyred just because you have a cock and balls doesn't mean you're entitled. Just because I have a vagina doesn't mean I'm entitled. You're living in the dark ages, I don't know why you're bringing up history like this conversation is nothing to do with that crap.
I find it hilarious that the whole point of this app is to share opinions and you guys are telling her that her opinion is wrong because your opinions ate facts.
Honestly I would like to be a housewife BUT also to have a few hours that I can do my own thing maybe from home. I believe that if you stay in every day all day you will go crazy and it is very good for our confidence to be productive!
I would want a job. When I have kids ideally a half day job would be the best. I still want to make a form of a income but I also want to spend time with kids and look after the home.
Couples do things however they feels suits them. Some split the bills, some pay for one bill and the other for another, some pool everything together, some may pool some together or some may completely separate it. There is no right or wrong. Everyone can do as they feel suits their relationship the best with regards to finances.
My career is important too me but if I had kids, was in a financially stable relationship with my husband, I’d at the least take the first couple, few years off to be at home with my child. From there I’d probably asses the longer term.
I would much rather be a working women. You need something to fall back on if a relationship goes downhill, I don't want to have to rely on a man to provide income because he could manipulate me. PLUS I really want to be a doctor and I get to earn money while doing my dream job.
I'd like to marry a woman who goes to work professionally. My mother's a working woman and she's way smarter than any housewife I've ever seen. She's independent and she also manages housework after her office.
Either one is fine by me to be honest. I like being at home a lot so being a housewife isn't too much of an issue. Working wife/mum would be good too but only if I'm doing something I'm passionate about.
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Personally I would want to work until we start a family, and then probably stay at home until they have all gotten through probably 3rd grade so that way we can make sure our kids are in a trusted environment. I have skills that I could and probably 2ould do some work from home type stuff on the side but especially while they are little I'd prefer to be with them rather than leave them with strangers though that could change once I see the working world
Depends on the type of job that ill get. and to all the girls that chose housewife bc they think its easier, think twice, bc, u might be used to berely clean your rooms, so imagine a whole house, and most of you might even dont know how to cook, aaaaand, you will have kids to take care of, so yeah, and the girls that said work wife, i think that both require the same amount of work tbh 😂😂😂
I'd prefer a stay-at-home mother because I can afford to pay my mortgage and feed the family on my own. If you can't afford that, then you don't get a choice in the matter either way. After the kids are old enough to go to school then mommy can go back to work. That's the way it used to work, and it worked brilliantly for generations. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
I'd prefer my wife to work so we can afford to enjoy life more. I don't ever want children. If we were going to have kids, than I'd rather her stay home if we can afford it. I feel that the destruction of the nuclear family and the stay at home mom is responsible for a large part of my country's problems.
Definitely a working mother. I need to have my anatomy. My aunt depends on a man for everything (she's a housewife) She feels she need him. It's funny because she was a successful businesswoman before marrying him. Get this, she did it because her husband believe women place is in the kitchen. So she turned her business over to someone else. It's sickening
As it stands I don't care what my partner does as long as she's happy, because she she's happy, i'm happy. How if I get my dream job I'll probably be too busy to take care of the kids so she'd have to pick between having a career or having a nanny raise our kids.
It feels more fulfilling, I learn more, eat more healthy, exercise, have time for hobbies, my boyfriend gets more time when he comes back home, we actually spend less money, we are less tired, we always have a luxury evening where we can both relax
My lazy side says housewife just because I’m already ready to clock out of work before I get there lol my smart side would say be a working mother just because I wouldn’t want to depend on a man for everything.
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