Housewife. Because If I became housewife, I can take care of my family more than I can say and I can give my love to my husband. Working wife will be like busy with work, tired when coming back home, can't take care a lot to her husband and her children. But housewife can give them a warm exactly for sure. So, I only prefer being a housewife. I will abandon my job not to lose my family and not to regret it later like a fish out of water.:)
So working mother's are incapable of taking care of their husband and children? We can't take care and provide for their needs and wants while being nurturing to our children and comforting to our husband's. Your sorely mistaken. It is absolutely possible to do both, to work to provide a comfortable life for your family while being nurturing, comforting, and warm.
But you can't however. Look at the women who're busy with their work. They can't give enough time for their family and at last, that family will be broken apart.
Completely untrue. There are many women who stay at home and don't tend to their children or husband. I could say that women who stay at home are lazy, and don't put in an effort to financially provide for their children or help relieve the strain off their husbands. Sure, there some people like that but not all are like that. Just the same there are many women who work, come home, clean their home, cook dinner, help their children with school work, prepare for the next day for themselves and their family, spend time with their kids, get them to bed at a decent time so they can spend time with their husband. You're using absolutes and in life there are no absolutes.
Tho we all agree that's she is young, I will agree with her that most women today don't know how, are not taught to cook or even value the tradional values of a mother. a lot of moms leave their kids and go to work before they even start kindergarden and that's how daycare even came into existence. The feminist cry is, how can women hold high positions when they work less of take long maternity leave, thus a lot of career oriented women will be planning to get back to work too early to stay relevant and catch up with the competition with the men and possibly other single women. My mom did both and I can not complain cos she took her babies to her dress making shop till each of us started school. If u are able to put both together from day one then it's all good. Some women can work from home to.
@sexywhispers I agree with what she said in way. Of course maybe it depends on where you live and what kind of work you have, but I can say that I work full-time now and that means leaving the house at around 7 am and returning at 8 pm at best, if I don't work overtime. If I'm still going to cook something, we will be eating quite late, then shower and no time to relax. Same for my husband.
I don't think the family would be broken apart, but there's no way we can have a child and keep this lifestyle, it wouldn't be healthy to any of us.
Of course, as you pointed out, it's also true that just because someone is a housewife, doesn't mean they're a great mom and wife, but I don't think she was implying that.
I’d prefer to work. My mom worked, she and dad have always been a team, and I’d love to have the same dynamic with my guy. I’d go crazy if I had to stay at home all the time, even if I found some hobbies that could keep me a bit busy and get me out of the house now and then. I want to earn my own money, and financially pull my own weight. I don’t have anything against women who want to be housewives, I just know that it’s not for me personally.
I'd rather be working. I worked hard to get where I am and I can't see myself giving it all up. I may choose to stay at home the first few years, but once they hit school age no way in hell am I staying home. Being a wife and mother is not enough for me, I need an identity outside of them. However, I do have imense respect for mothers and fathers who choose to stay at home. It just isn't for me.
People often have this conception that a housewife sits at home and looks after the kids , and that's about it. But the reality of the matter is that being a housewife is basically a non paying job , you don't have 9 - 5 work ours and you never have off days. Personally I would never be able to live a life as a housewife , I need the stimulation of working and being creative and having something to show for my work but I have so much respect for housewives/mothers , my mom was one and she has two successful daughters to show for it
Working wife, since I don't want children. I'm definitely not the type of person to stay at home. It would drive me crazy. Plus I'd like to provide an income... 🤷♀
And I don't know... This might sound very pessimistic but what if you break up/get divorced? Where do you go? New apartment? Back to your parents? With what money?
I think people underestimate how hard it is to keep a home in order. Why people constantly water down those tasks I really don't know. I personally want to work when I'm married, mostly because I want to do a lot of things but I'm hoping for a very freestyle life, as the average family is disappointing to me.
Disappointing how? And working AND being a mom is the exactly opposite of having a freestyle life. That's having a "not a single hour left to myself in the day"style life.
Which isn't for you? That's what I was asking. Being a housewife or being a mom altogether? Not judging, just unclear as to what you're on about. If you don't want to be a mom because it ties you down, don't, but working as a mom leads to a lot less freedom than being at home as a mom.
No, I want to be a mom. I'm just not interested in a traditional lifestyle because I'm not a traditional person. I don't have kids yet so I can't exactly tell you what that entails nor do I feel like I have to explain it.
You don't have to explain it because I already know what it entails. But I wasn't arguing. Just trying to get clarification as your initial answer was ambiguous.
Why is it disappointing? Having a family is beautiful. I can't understand how people can put money over love. I guess that's one of the consequences of capitalism.
@braveheart97 who said having a family is disappointing? I'm saying having a traditional lifestyle isn't something I'm interested in. If anything, I would want to raise my family in a way that reminds them that money isn't everything.
I'd prefer to be a housewife. This way I will be able to give my family the proper kind of attention. I do not say that working women are unable to do so but I personally would find it difficult to keep balance between the two. That is why I would think about marriage after some years of job so that I can enjoy both experiences.
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Mostly my culture is based on women to raise kids and be sit at home mom’s and men to be the bread winner. I want to get my degree and everything to be educated, and if my husband tells me he can provide for all of us I’m not against taking care of my future kids well. Raise them right. But if I can choose I would like to have a career in the medical field that I’ll love coming to everyday. Plus my mother said she can take care of my future kids teach them the native language well, because I’m not so well at it. Nothing as bad as being house wife if you love kids. So many things I can do, like read books with them, give them all my attention and also give myself time like do workouts at home, stay fit. And coook no problem, cook amazing food for my SO. So yeah it depends.
I'd love to be a housewife. The ideal family for me is a man, as he should be, as the head of the family and I would be there to support him and look after him and our kids.
Well no because biologically that's how it's meant to be. Human women are meant to look after the young, while the man hunts and protects the women and children. This would make the man the head of the household as he was for centuries here in the west.
@jatjakazuhira I completely agree with almost all of both of your staments so far except hunting and protection doesn't mean "head of the household". There are 2 separate domains there and they don't overlap very often. Neither one rulling over the other but both coexisting and supporting each other.
It depends. Daycare without government assistance is my entire wage. Id be working a job i hate for free when i could just be at home with my child, where i'd prefer to be anyway. Id actually be out of pocket because i still have to come up with fuel money to get to work.
Househusband 😊 I can work from home, I love to clean. Yes , I see the question says ladies 😁 just saying , if i run into a woman that's works as a teacher , doctor , nurse or just loves her job , it dosent matter. As Long as she is happy , I'm great. Part time job , clean the house , pick the kids up , sounds like early retirement to me 🤣 jokeing... I think 😉 ... 😙
I mean, that depends on what my guy would earn. I wouldn’t want to live on 3000 a month with kids...
I think i’d probably be both. When I have a child, i’d love to take a year or three off to take care of my child full time, then get back to work until i have another child etc.
I did both lol I worked 24 hours at my job on the weekends and spent the whole weekdays with my kiddo. In the weekends she spent time with my parents. After she got older I took up one more day of work but still had 4 days with her. It’s sad not many people can do what I did ☹️
I would want a job. When I have kids ideally a half day job would be the best. I still want to make a form of a income but I also want to spend time with kids and look after the home.
Couples do things however they feels suits them. Some split the bills, some pay for one bill and the other for another, some pool everything together, some may pool some together or some may completely separate it. There is no right or wrong. Everyone can do as they feel suits their relationship the best with regards to finances.
I would love to take care of my kids and I will definitely take time off work to do so. But I can't say I won't work at all. The day the man tells me he wants a divorce, I don't want to have to worry about anything. I'm not saying all marriages end in divorce but it's better to expect the worst and hope for the best. Plus I am not getting all this education to end up sitting at home.
Well in my observations that there is a high probability that your marriage fail and end in divorce. If you are a housewife you have no education and once a divorce is final you will have no clue how to support yourself and the farm of kids you have made.
When I'm married & have kids, I want to be a stay at home mom until they start going to school. And being a housewife has always sounded fun to me, but that'd only be if my hubby wanted me to continue being a housewife even after the kids were in school. But, it's unlikely I'll marry a rich guy, so that will probably never happen.
I would want to be a stay at home mum until the youngest child is preschool age. Then I'd work part time cause I know from both sides how hard it is for men to be the only provider in the family, and how hard it is for two full time working parents to give their children all the support they need.
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Housewife. Because If I became housewife, I can take care of my family more than I can say and I can give my love to my husband. Working wife will be like busy with work, tired when coming back home, can't take care a lot to her husband and her children. But housewife can give them a warm exactly for sure. So, I only prefer being a housewife. I will abandon my job not to lose my family and not to regret it later like a fish out of water.:)
So working mother's are incapable of taking care of their husband and children? We can't take care and provide for their needs and wants while being nurturing to our children and comforting to our husband's. Your sorely mistaken. It is absolutely possible to do both, to work to provide a comfortable life for your family while being nurturing, comforting, and warm.
But you can't however. Look at the women who're busy with their work. They can't give enough time for their family and at last, that family will be broken apart.
Completely untrue. There are many women who stay at home and don't tend to their children or husband. I could say that women who stay at home are lazy, and don't put in an effort to financially provide for their children or help relieve the strain off their husbands. Sure, there some people like that but not all are like that. Just the same there are many women who work, come home, clean their home, cook dinner, help their children with school work, prepare for the next day for themselves and their family, spend time with their kids, get them to bed at a decent time so they can spend time with their husband. You're using absolutes and in life there are no absolutes.
@sexywhispers she is young what does she know? Nothing. When she is older she will see how life really is.
Tho we all agree that's she is young, I will agree with her that most women today don't know how, are not taught
to cook or even value the tradional values of a mother. a lot of moms leave their kids and go to work before they even start kindergarden and that's how daycare even came into existence. The feminist cry is, how can women hold high positions when they work less of take long maternity leave, thus a lot of career oriented women will be planning to get back to work too early to stay relevant and catch up with the competition with the men and possibly other single women. My mom did both and I can not complain cos she took her babies to her dress making shop till each of us started school. If u are able to put both together from day one then it's all good. Some women can work from home to.
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I agree with what she said in way.
Of course maybe it depends on where you live and what kind of work you have, but I can say that I work full-time now and that means leaving the house at around 7 am and returning at 8 pm at best, if I don't work overtime. If I'm still going to cook something, we will be eating quite late, then shower and no time to relax.
Same for my husband.
I don't think the family would be broken apart, but there's no way we can have a child and keep this lifestyle, it wouldn't be healthy to any of us.
Of course, as you pointed out, it's also true that just because someone is a housewife, doesn't mean they're a great mom and wife, but I don't think she was implying that.
I’d prefer to work. My mom worked, she and dad have always been a team, and I’d love to have the same dynamic with my guy. I’d go crazy if I had to stay at home all the time, even if I found some hobbies that could keep me a bit busy and get me out of the house now and then. I want to earn my own money, and financially pull my own weight. I don’t have anything against women who want to be housewives, I just know that it’s not for me personally.
I'd rather be working. I worked hard to get where I am and I can't see myself giving it all up. I may choose to stay at home the first few years, but once they hit school age no way in hell am I staying home. Being a wife and mother is not enough for me, I need an identity outside of them. However, I do have imense respect for mothers and fathers who choose to stay at home. It just isn't for me.
People often have this conception that a housewife sits at home and looks after the kids , and that's about it. But the reality of the matter is that being a housewife is basically a non paying job , you don't have 9 - 5 work ours and you never have off days. Personally I would never be able to live a life as a housewife , I need the stimulation of working and being creative and having something to show for my work but I have so much respect for housewives/mothers , my mom was one and she has two successful daughters to show for it
Working wife, since I don't want children. I'm definitely not the type of person to stay at home. It would drive me crazy. Plus I'd like to provide an income... 🤷♀
And I don't know... This might sound very pessimistic but what if you break up/get divorced? Where do you go? New apartment? Back to your parents? With what money?
You shouldn't be thinking that way. You need to have more trust in your partner.
I think people underestimate how hard it is to keep a home in order. Why people constantly water down those tasks I really don't know. I personally want to work when I'm married, mostly because I want to do a lot of things but I'm hoping for a very freestyle life, as the average family is disappointing to me.
Disappointing how? And working AND being a mom is the exactly opposite of having a freestyle life. That's having a "not a single hour left to myself in the day"style life.
That's exactly my point dude, that's why I said I'd rather work. And disappointing because it's just not for me.
Which isn't for you? That's what I was asking. Being a housewife or being a mom altogether? Not judging, just unclear as to what you're on about. If you don't want to be a mom because it ties you down, don't, but working as a mom leads to a lot less freedom than being at home as a mom.
No, I want to be a mom. I'm just not interested in a traditional lifestyle because I'm not a traditional person. I don't have kids yet so I can't exactly tell you what that entails nor do I feel like I have to explain it.
You don't have to explain it because I already know what it entails. But I wasn't arguing. Just trying to get clarification as your initial answer was ambiguous.
What does it entail?
A shitload of work.
Why is it disappointing? Having a family is beautiful. I can't understand how people can put money over love. I guess that's one of the consequences of capitalism.
@braveheart97 who said having a family is disappointing? I'm saying having a traditional lifestyle isn't something I'm interested in. If anything, I would want to raise my family in a way that reminds them that money isn't everything.
Oh, well then my bad. I just didn't know what you meant by "traditional".
I'd prefer to be a housewife. This way I will be able to give my family the proper kind of attention. I do not say that working women are unable to do so but I personally would find it difficult to keep balance between the two. That is why I would think about marriage after some years of job so that I can enjoy both experiences.
Mostly my culture is based on women to raise kids and be sit at home mom’s and men to be the bread winner. I want to get my degree and everything to be educated, and if my husband tells me he can provide for all of us I’m not against taking care of my future kids well. Raise them right. But if I can choose I would like to have a career in the medical field that I’ll love coming to everyday. Plus my mother said she can take care of my future kids teach them the native language well, because I’m not so well at it. Nothing as bad as being house wife if you love kids. So many things I can do, like read books with them, give them all my attention and also give myself time like do workouts at home, stay fit. And coook no problem, cook amazing food for my SO. So yeah it depends.
Indian?
I'd love to be a housewife. The ideal family for me is a man, as he should be, as the head of the family and I would be there to support him and look after him and our kids.
If only there were more women like you.
Take the "as he should be" out and your opinion would be fine.
Thank you c:
Well no because biologically that's how it's meant to be. Human women are meant to look after the young, while the man hunts and protects the women and children. This would make the man the head of the household as he was for centuries here in the west.
@jatjakazuhira I completely agree with almost all of both of your staments so far except hunting and protection doesn't mean "head of the household". There are 2 separate domains there and they don't overlap very often. Neither one rulling over the other but both coexisting and supporting each other.
It depends. Daycare without government assistance is my entire wage. Id be working a job i hate for free when i could just be at home with my child, where i'd prefer to be anyway.
Id actually be out of pocket because i still have to come up with fuel money to get to work.
I would prefer that she does what she thinks is right. Either one is acceptable.
Great answer!
I was a stay at home mom... and I dont regret it for a second.
Go girl @Rissyanne high five :-)
Househusband 😊 I can work from home, I love to clean. Yes , I see the question says ladies 😁 just saying , if i run into a woman that's works as a teacher , doctor , nurse or just loves her job , it dosent matter. As Long as she is happy , I'm great. Part time job , clean the house , pick the kids up , sounds like early retirement to me 🤣 jokeing... I think 😉 ... 😙
I mean, that depends on what my guy would earn. I wouldn’t want to live on 3000 a month with kids...
I think i’d probably be both. When I have a child, i’d love to take a year or three off to take care of my child full time, then get back to work until i have another child etc.
I did both lol I worked 24 hours at my job on the weekends and spent the whole weekdays with my kiddo. In the weekends she spent time with my parents. After she got older I took up one more day of work but still had 4 days with her. It’s sad not many people can do what I did ☹️
I would want a job. When I have kids ideally a half day job would be the best. I still want to make a form of a income but I also want to spend time with kids and look after the home.
Yes.
I want my own money.
Couples do things however they feels suits them. Some split the bills, some pay for one bill and the other for another, some pool everything together, some may pool some together or some may completely separate it. There is no right or wrong. Everyone can do as they feel suits their relationship the best with regards to finances.
I would love to take care of my kids and I will definitely take time off work to do so. But I can't say I won't work at all. The day the man tells me he wants a divorce, I don't want to have to worry about anything. I'm not saying all marriages end in divorce but it's better to expect the worst and hope for the best. Plus I am not getting all this education to end up sitting at home.
You need to work
What are you on about? Did you read anything I typed there? I don't need to do anything
Well in my observations that there is a high probability that your marriage fail and end in divorce. If you are a housewife you have no education and once a divorce is final you will have no clue how to support yourself and the farm of kids you have made.
When I'm married & have kids, I want to be a stay at home mom until they start going to school. And being a housewife has always sounded fun to me, but that'd only be if my hubby wanted me to continue being a housewife even after the kids were in school. But, it's unlikely I'll marry a rich guy, so that will probably never happen.
I would want to be a stay at home mum until the youngest child is preschool age. Then I'd work part time cause I know from both sides how hard it is for men to be the only provider in the family, and how hard it is for two full time working parents to give their children all the support they need.