Do men want housewives or career driven women?

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Do men prefer housewives or career driven women?

Battooot · Accepted Answer

I would never go for a straight up house wife from the start because it means she is in many cases not educated, didn't work hard on herself in life, she is usually NOT independent, and will rely on me to do everything. Now if she cooks really damn good food, that might soften my heart a bit as food is love. But i would never marry an Uneducated Dependent woman.

Whatever she chooses to be i need to know i can rely on her and trust her to raise our kids even if i was not there (im a pilot so i could die anytime) and be confident that she will raise our kids to be strong warriors with a kind heart.

What i find myself appealed to: is an independent woman, who is able to work when she needs to because she secured a good education and some work-experience. One who has ambitions and character and is responsible. If we were both working and she had a kid, then decided to be a houswife to focus on our kids and raise them well... i find that best in slot. I dont want to ever leave my kids with some nanny. I want them tended to and nurtured in every step of their lives.

mk200195 · Accepted Answer

It is common among middle income group today to look for employed girls. High income group is flexible but women are particular about their career and profession today. Our assumptions come from urban mentality. Most of the women like to be independent. Mediocre women are lacking domestic excellence. Smart women are more demanding and love to spend their energy away from their homes. As men are unable to spend much time with family wish their women are engaged during their absence to avoid them from idling. More than monetary needs men like their women spending their time constructively and prevent loneliness when they are away. Women today are at their liberty to be what they are. Amazingly child bearing is also now not a big problem. We are seeing many working couple abroad managing the maternity matters quite competently. Some women prefer to resign their jobs if their husbands are affluent or popular personalities in their respective fields. Men in general wish their women to be happy and at peace. It has become women’s choice than men’s demand.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

So women want househusbands or career driven men? I'd say you'd have to ask the individual people. Career driven sounds like they're never home with you and your family and you're second fiddle to their work. Househusbands might be better because you want a warm, loving partner who focuses on your home and children. But that can be a creative, driven job too. Doesn't mean you sit on your ass eating bon bons and playing bridge. So it's according to what level of career interest and what level of homemaking a person does.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

I'm a stay at home mom and my husband likes that I am 😊😊

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think a lot of men would want a house wife if they could afford one - if a guy is working at McDonalds - he might not have the funds to pay for a house wife and children but I'm sure if he won the lottery he might reconsider his dating priorities - some guys legitimately want a career woman - others choose career woman cause they can't afford a house wife

MzAsh · Answer

A good man wants a woman who puts her desires as a priority, no matter what those desires are.

CubsterShura · Answer

I feel like most men who want women for their careers only want it for the status and showing off to others that they are modern men with career driven wives and they are equal and all, whereas in reality he gets to chill and have nothing else to do than working in office whereas his wife has to do work, household chores AND look after the children.

I see that happening a LOT in Asian countries. Don't know about other countries but I've heard similar things from Western women so I think this experience isn't exclusive to Asians only.

I want a man who is flexible/fine with either. Because I personally want to do whatever is best for the family and don't have any concrete plan of being a total SAHM or being totally career-driven. I want to have the ability to choose for myself and make mutual decisions depending on what we think is more beneficial for us.

Pinning yourself at home for no reason when it feels pointless but you but do it anyway just because, OR always feeling the need to work work work and just stressing yourself unnecessarily even though you don't feel like it... Both feel equally tragic. As long as I'm not in either of those mental prisons I'm good.

akihon · Answer

I honestly don't think that the majority do want a housewife. I think that they want somebody to share the load with, the trouble is that we live in very selfish times, we get rewarded for our selfishness and vices and often punished for any virtues we have.

We therefore tend to think that only we work hard, for example a man and woman working in the same office doing the same job but on different projects will think that they have worked harder than each other, so imagine that they live together, they don't want to share the workload because they both feel that they have worked harder than the other.

Instead of working for each other in what can be described as a competition to see who can do the most for the other, or actually sharing the load we tend to try to put things off, this in turn breads resentment between people.

I think that most people know everyone works hard and everyone gets tired but everyone tends to forget that and focus on their own needs and wants rather than the whole, the home or family.

I think as this increases we'll see society fracture more and distance between men and women grow over time rather than shrink, rather than improve relationships between the genders it will get worse

Sensmind · Answer

I don't think you can give a general answer to this. Guys will prefer all types plus there are other factors like economics. In a world where economics were not a factor, there might be a higher number of guys who would like a stay at home housewife/mom, what percentage I don't know maybe some women want to stay at home. Even within this the role of woman can be different from "Submissive" wife to an independent homemaker. From my own interactions with friends who are parents and want to stay at home, it crosses gender as to who wants to stay at home the most.
As I say hard it is hard to predict, there will be a group who want a stay at home mom, a group of men drawn to career women and whole lot in between. I think in reality like minded people are drawn together and it is no real surprise the route they take (circumstances permitting)
What I think I am saying is according to stats your nature may be first, second, third largest group but you are usually drawn to a like minded person so keep being yourself rather than fixating on whether you are in largest group or not. In questions like this no one is right or wrong from the the stay at home 7 kid mom to the no kid CEO, she is doing what feels right for her and different guys will respect/appreciate those stances.

TonyMetal_1986 · Answer

I personally want a girl who adores becoming a housewife, i'll never marry a girl who wants to work after marriage.

I think that most men wants working women because it makes life less easier for them, more responsibilities dropped on women where she will handle thr house and the bills and everything while he just work outside or becomes a couch potato, also because the majority of men are capable to handle family responsibilities and also for financial reasons.

AynonOMouse · Answer

She should work at least part time to contribute. If she contributes $400 per month to our family she can keep the rest of her earned money to spend for whatever but I shouldn't be the only one fully supporting the family. I'm not an ATM.
I would understand if when the kids are not yet school age she is at home, maybe doing online college or something, but once they are school age she should work and contribute.
Stay at home parenting is easy and taking care of the house takes very little time and anybody who claims otherwise is lying.

SouthernLAguy · Answer

When I was dating my wife now I was dating 3 other women in different states, they new about each other. I say that because my wife asked me why did you pick me over the others? Especially since once was a dancer another was a model. I said because you want to be a wife, I can party with women anytime but it's hard to find a woman who wants to be at home, cook, clean, and be a housewife. You did I told her. That's what I was looking for. 20 years now. Yes I want a housewife. I'm the career guy and I'll take care of the bills and outside stuff.

HawkPerception · Answer

For me, I'd prefer that she's making at least enough money to be independent. It's not the old days where women worked for less than a fraction of the wage men did. I don't care about how career driven she is. I only care that she's happy doing what she's doing. My opinion of a girl goes up the more independent they are, because let's be honest... it's actually much easier to stay at home and cook and clean and maybe take care of the kids. If we do have kids, then I'd definitely prefer at least one of us is with them, but get a part-time work from home job at least. Nowadays it's about equality. Both partners work together.

genericname85 · Answer

i want a woman that is on eye level with me. she could even make more money than me. i have no issue pausing my career to have a family if she earns more than me. i don't need a pet at home that i need to feed. i want a partner that carries at least somewhat as much as i do.

Anonymous · Answer

The perfect woman to me has an education but puts relationship and family before her career. She will quit her job and stay home to raise our children until they are through the vulnerable years when they desperately need a real mother. Then, when the kids are old enough, she will go back to work and continue her career.

Most high value men are not attracted to so called career women.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Career women are divorce machines.

All they do is throw everybody and everything away every time they get a promotion or reach a new level in their careers, suddenly everything they had before isn't good enough for them anymore, they need a NEW husband that reflects their NEW status.

The only reason any man should want a career woman is if he has a specific cuckholding fetish and wants to find out one day that his wife has been sleeping with her boss at work, lol. If that's your fetish, career women are right up your alley.

Passinggas · Answer

I know many intense career women and they are not compatible with the concept of family which they find burdensome—just ask one. Then there are women that put most of their energy into family and work to supplement incomes. And, of course, dedicated stay at home women. My so is in the middle, wanting a family and she runs our farm which is doing good while I am in a career that is going well. There are different blends of compatible types and it is not simply either career vs. housewife.

The types I wouldn’t want at all are, psycho-career-woman or lazy-couch-potato-“housewife.”

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Traditionally , I believe a truly hard-working man would still appreciate coming home to a clean house, a hot home-cooked meal and an  "excited"  wife.

BeingSingleBlows · Answer

If there is a baby involved, she needs to stay home and take care of the thing while the man works like it's traditionally supposed to be. And I'd rather work than take care of a baby. And the woman would probably choose baby over career because nurturing is more in their nature. Plus milk doesn't come from my nipples. If there is no baby, then career is fine.

arabgoddess · Answer

I know that Arab men prefer to have women as housewives and they hate the idea of their wives working.. They get worried that she might meet someone 🙄🙄🙄 which isn't necessarily true

crazy8000 · Answer

Not that simple. it isn't black or white view.

Absolutely not into just a home wife, yeah, partner since I'm not in to marriage.

Moore in to somewhere between both since certain kind of career doesn't leave that much over for a proper relationship.

It isn't that common here with that home wife structure. more common both are working.
Very few wants to take on just one of the roles of either ome partner not contributing to any income or just be the one contributing with income.
Even if one of them happen to be home for some reason they get some kind of welfare paycheck.

Anonymous · Answer

I believe most poor men prefer career driven because they need help to pay bills and getting with a housewife will only stress them out more about debt. Lol

Whereas a man who is well off with a good career probably just wants a wife to take care of the kids and be a family with him because he’s not so stressed about paying bills. Not that they are against the wife making her own money but they are more focused on having a family rather than someone to help pay bills because they don’t have a difficult time paying all the bills themselves.

That’s how I see it.

Anoniemus · Answer

It doesn’t matter what they want if they’re not compatible. I’m not having kids but there isn’t going to be any BS about me doing housework and him doing nothing.
He’ll be cooking all three meals (4 courses each) if have to clean the house alone.

thegirlfromthething · Answer

Most of them are at least open to the idea of a housewife but that’s no longer practical for a lot of families. Most men are fine with their wife working but don’t want extremely ambitious women who place a lot of importance on their career.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I don't really have much of a preference. I like the idea of both. My fear with housewives is that they won't understand the lifestyle of a guy who works very hard like me. and my fear of a career driven women is that she won't hold family values as strongly as I do.

Preferably, I'd like to have a woman who works part time until the kids are 5 or 6

honestGUY45 · Answer

I find old school men seem to prefer a housewife because they want someone at home to take care of everything on the domestic end. Younger men, especially those trying to survive or buildup their assets, like a home or multiple vehicles, tend to rely on a second income to achieve those goals. There are men of all ages that want to continue to raise their financial standing and want their partner to contribute to that, regardless of domestic responsibilities.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I can't speak for what men wants in that regard. I do know they want peaceful home like us all.
It's not so simple nowadays. Often requires both to work full time.
Best is to be able to balance, work life and fun life. Then comes down to reality of household chores. Hopefully, with both income, a cleaning person and a trusted babysitter occasionally to take time to go on dates.

PrimalInstinct · Answer

Is there a reason why it can't be both or the generic (e. g. cooking) responsibilities shared? I ask as my mother & her same-aged family/friends were all successful careers (teacher, lawyer, etc.) women & housewives.

It's not hard if someone isn't lazy. No different, in many ways, then working & living by yourself (same for guys). Unless someone is a slob living off of fast-food & takeout they've gotta cook & clean for themselves anyway when single.

RobYes · Answer

She can be a career woman, she can be successful, she can even earn a lot more than me. I just want the kids raised by their mother rather than their father. And for my career is second place to family. I would break my back and have a shit career overall if that means my family has money and is happy and the kids are raised properly.

PinkMichae · Answer

I think kids would be raised better by having a parent stay home. Unfortunately it's hard today to support a family with one income.

djmzes · Answer

Simple

Can_I_Get_a_Do-Over · Answer

Men want different things. You can’t make that generalization. You can say that men, and women, who want someone, want someone that makes them feel good about themselves. But if I had to choose, I’d say contemporary men want a woman with a successful career as long as they’re not overly inconvenienced and she’s a good match in the bedroom.

lightbulb27 · Answer

A woman that contributes. That could be either. Ideally, someone stays home for kids sake until they are old enough, then both work. I don't see anything else that works as well.

thus, I could not select. I'd take either, but I don't want to stuff my kids in a daycare (if I had them) and I don't want a lazy soap opera watching woman.

Curmudgeon · Answer

She has to bring *something* to the table, so to speak. A doting housewife who is thrifty and frugal and stretches out the money a man earns is great. So is a career wife who brings money home, although she may cost more because she likely cannot be as frugal.

standingUP · Answer

how about BOTH?
I work well over 40 hours a week. I come home build things for the house make improvements. tend to the yard duties, cook, clean, straighten up, give plenty of my undivided attention to family and especially significant other. Eager for plenty of play time. Get out of house with family make it fun to explore and do outdoorsy stuff making memories.

Why would I want to settle with a lazy woman that can only do one task as her title she gave herself.

Face it, you're lazy and asked a question to support your laziness. lol

Piteka5 · Answer

It depends on the guy, I'm very family oriented, I don't care about careers, and want a girl that thinks the same, people are not born to be just one more cog in the corporate machine

AbleLearner · Answer

Other guys are such dumbasses. I want a Bread Winning Wife. Besides, Snow already makes a ton of money, and she talked to me first, so she knows I don't make a ton of money.

Asian women are smarter than men anyway, so I may as well play my role, right?

Dargil · Answer

We want women with career skills, such as medical or teaching where we can get a marriage off and running into a single family home, then suspend her career to be a full time home maker and raise children and then ease back into it when children become less labor intensive in school in time to help out with career training.

nathanp97 · Answer

In an ideal world, both. The best relationship would be if both parties could have a 3 day work week when they have kids, because that is 6 days of income, and allows both them to spend lots of time with the kids.

The amount you have to make and how long you have to work to make enough money for a stat at home wife and kids is a lot, and it prevents you from being with them. When both work, often neither gets lots of time with the kids, which isn't great either.

jgokgotit · Answer

I respect both, but I'd rather have a housewife. Makes sense to have one person work and the other care for house/children. Makes childcare cheaper and ensures the homefront is cared for. I would leave it up to her to choose whether she wants to he the main one in charge of maintaining the budget as well.

theCobbler · Answer

Personally, I believe that, if a ( child. Or children ) are involved, than I'd want my SO, home with them !

That's part of today's problem with Society, too many, weren't taught
ie: common curtiousy, respect, manners, and or morals... etc.

jmzero · Answer

All that matters to me is being able to make time for each other. I think I personally would prefer a career driven woman but in my past experiences the career driven women I have dated seem to forget the whole time together thing.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Neither-- I want a girl to hop on back of a bike with me and ride off into the sunset on adventures together :D

(note to self: buy a bike and learn to ride it, also get more money for adventures, also find willing girl to take with me)

pajamasam · Answer

Any woman I'm with is gonna have a job. A relationship is a partnership, and if were gonna live together then we are gonna pool resources and meet in the middle. So a woman with a career is far more attractive that just a stay at home wife.

art84 · Answer

Career driven would be better for both of us. She makes her own money and in case anything happens to me, she's there to bring home the money. A housewife would get bored of being at home and cleaning and making dinner and washing dishes and taking care of the children.

Darcia · Answer

Hopefully he wants more out of life than to want a lady whose in the kitchen. I grew up with both my parents cooking in the kitchen. Both cleaning and going to work. They are workaholics. I won’t stand for my husband or wife to stay at home we both must work. If we don’t work or have dual incomes then I can’t pursue nothing with that person. I want stability not a broke fella who can’t even support me and our family. I deserve more than that in my life by now.

SirRexington · Answer

I think nowadays there is a slight possibility to be both depending on what kind of career chosen. But society benefits when the majority of women stay home primarily and watch the kids and the house while the guys goes and works.

However, if the man wants to stay home and watch the kids and the house while the wife works that's also fine. Though not as instinctual or innate.

Factualman125 · Answer

Whatever she chooses to be she should be only sexually and emotionally attracted to me and must be loyal

If she falls out of love she can divorce me but not use and cheat on me

Is this too much to ask?

Tho Both of them have a nasty habit of having an affair

Iron_Man · Answer

We want housewives that work part time so they can have some money for themselves

Canberraisboring · Answer

Let's see, do I want a wife that will be there for me, support me, raise our kids and make sure we have a family or do I want a partner that will be at work most of the day, unable to see our kids, and stressed and with no time for myself...

jason0559 · Answer

A women can be both
Wether Carier women and house wife
What a girl can doo in whole life a man cannot doo
Turning from a daughter to a girl to a women and from women to mother
Girl is perfect in ints own way
If she can handle both job and carrier she is perfect

anonbrunette99 · Answer

I feel like men want a happy medium - a woman who is career driven and ambitious but also somewhat domesticated to an extent.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

At first glance you would think its about half and half from the poll. But do realize the kind of men who are responsible hard working attractive to most women are selecting housewife.

Here is a perfect example of who is selecting career women:
SissyFrenchMaid "Men should generally adopt the role of housemaid. Id willingly serve a Mistress"

Is that really the kind of man you want? A sissy maid? Smh.

crack21 · Answer

I prefer a carrier drive woman, house work is a shared responsibility. I want someone who wants to develop herself and chase her own goals as well. This sets up a positive environment for the Kids too.

Guanfei · Answer

I'd prefer a housewive, because that would mean we have enough money to be able to live on one salary. And also, as someone who loves being with someone I love, I'd like that because that would mean I could see her more often, and spend time with her.
Which doesn't mean I wouldn't help her.

Anonymous · Answer

Housewives hands down. Career driven women are nothing but problems and never want a family either. Just chasing the almighty dollar until they die, not the kind of person I want to be with.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Personally speaking, I want her to what makes ‘her’ happy.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

I didn’t go to grad school for nothing I’d still continue to work after taking a small break once born I’m not taking a year off though and their dad is going to need to bring more to the table than just work I’m not doing everything myself

mistiblue · Answer

Men where I live seem to like housewives/surrogate mothers/helpers around the house. So if I were to vote it'd be A. Some also seem very intimidated by career-minded women and consider them "selfish" and "aggressive".

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Career woman. It's different times, it's not 1400's anymore. I woman can be as succéful like a man does and even more. Even if i make a million bucks a minuten, my partner gotta work.

4eyes2mouths · Answer

I like housewife. To he home with our kids. I don't care if she doesn't want a career but if that's what she really wants then I'll support her in it.

Waseem94 · Answer

It depends on financial situation of man, if he is financially strong he will prefer a housewife otherwise he would like his partner to help him financially. It also depends on mindset of the man.

Eaglehead · Answer

Absolutely yes... man works outside so woman should stay home... if woman works outside so man should stay home... because of children... but before being mom and dad... yes both of them can work outside...

Kinogo · Answer

people can live their lives however they like. If the wife and husband is happy with their lifestyle together, there's nothing wrong.

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