Do men want housewives or career driven women?

[sunshinet123]

Do men prefer housewives or career driven women?

Housewives

Career women

[Battooot]

I would never go for a straight up house wife from the start because it means she is in many cases not educated, didn't work hard on herself in life, she is usually NOT independent, and will rely on me to do everything. Now if she cooks really damn good food, that might soften my heart a bit as food is love. But i would never marry an Uneducated Dependent woman.

Whatever she chooses to be i need to know i can rely on her and trust her to raise our kids even if i was not there (im a pilot so i could die anytime) and be confident that she will raise our kids to be strong warriors with a kind heart.

What i find myself appealed to: is an independent woman, who is able to work when she needs to because she secured a good education and some work-experience. One who has ambitions and character and is responsible. If we were both working and she had a kid, then decided to be a houswife to focus on our kids and raise them well... i find that best in slot. I dont want to ever leave my kids with some nanny. I want them tended to and nurtured in every step of their lives.

[Battooot]

by the way i have a girlfriend but i have to say: You have really gorgeous eyes!

[VIVANT]

But if she stops working to take care of kids then something did happen to you, she will be way behind on the career track and Stuck in some bottom feeder crap job, can’t offer them as good a life as if she had never stopped working.

[sunshinet123]

Thank you, but if your a pilot your always away from home. And if she’s a working woman then manly strangers will look after your children.

[sunshinet123]

Viviant, do you know that if someone with a high paying career as a pilot passes God forbid, that with life insurance she will be cared for legally. She would never have to take a bottom feeding job.

[Battooot]

@sunshinet123

well, that's why i said that if i'm married to a woman and we are both working, then she has a child and decided to become a housewife after she got the child, then i feel that's best in slot. This way no stranger will look after my children.

[Battooot]

Thanks for MHO.
Im glad i could be of help to you

[CubsterShura]

I used to follow this housewife YouTuber whose husband was a police officer working in night shift. She said she used to do a 9-5 job but that made it hard for both of them to see each other because when she was home, he was out and when he got home, she was leaving for work. So she finally gave up work and decided to become a housewife even though they don't have kids so that someone can consistently look after the house and she can maximize the time she can spend with him.

Honestly, even I wouldn't wanna be working outside all day if my husband was outside for a long time or in odd hours. Until there are in-laws to help, which doesn't always happen.

[CubsterShura]

Also @VIVANT if she is a SAHM and in case she's in need of money she can work in that time. Staying at home doesn't mean you don't have any marketable skill

[mk200195]

It is common among middle income group today to look for employed girls. High income group is flexible but women are particular about their career and profession today. Our assumptions come from urban mentality. Most of the women like to be independent. Mediocre women are lacking domestic excellence. Smart women are more demanding and love to spend their energy away from their homes. As men are unable to spend much time with family wish their women are engaged during their absence to avoid them from idling. More than monetary needs men like their women spending their time constructively and prevent loneliness when they are away. Women today are at their liberty to be what they are. Amazingly child bearing is also now not a big problem. We are seeing many working couple abroad managing the maternity matters quite competently. Some women prefer to resign their jobs if their husbands are affluent or popular personalities in their respective fields. Men in general wish their women to be happy and at peace. It has become women’s choice than men’s demand.

[sunshinet123]

Do you believe the tasks of a housewives are idle? And do you believe that a women who stays home to properly raise her children instead of them being raised by school, tv strangers etc makes her not smart?

[mk200195]

No i am not that saying that tasks of housewives are idle. I am saying that spending time alone is a very big challenge. Loneliness not only make the person dull but also it can lead to depression. In modern society nobody has the time or skill to manage all their domestic chores so i feel it's okay; However, i also feel that these things can be easily managed by hiring a maid (idk about other countries but its is far too easy in india to hire labour) and you can work on your self goals or value adding subjects that you really enjoy spending your time on for e. g. Writing, working out etc.

[sunshinet123]

But if a women has children and invests in them academically why would she be lonely or bored?

[mk200195]

Aren't schools an appropriate option for that? I think it's very important for a child to develop his mind overall and not just academically. Also it's not practical to teach certain subjects that require expertise.

[mk200195]

My point is after a certain period of time ( years or months) there are limits to one can do for someone but everyone can do something they love over number of years

[sunshinet123]

Teachers are very underpaid and few have the time and resources to give your child individual attention. and they can teach your child as they will such as immoral topics like the current sex education curriculum which is mandatory in some states. Academically you can teach your child reading by age 2 and morally you can direct them better

[Battooot]

Hi! I no longer have a girlfriend. But you still have gorgeous eyes!

[Screenwriter]

So women want househusbands or career driven men? I'd say you'd have to ask the individual people. Career driven sounds like they're never home with you and your family and you're second fiddle to their work. Househusbands might be better because you want a warm, loving partner who focuses on your home and children. But that can be a creative, driven job too. Doesn't mean you sit on your ass eating bon bons and playing bridge. So it's according to what level of career interest and what level of homemaking a person does.

[Apple1996]

I'm a stay at home mom and my husband likes that I am 😊😊

[Satu16]

It's not about what your husband wants or not. What do you want? What should your career look like? Do you really want to be satisfied with so little?

[sunshinet123]

Good for you don’t let anyone belittle what makes you happy. Not every woman is satisfied with a career. And it’s not little to those who get to spend time with loved ones instead of more time with coworkers and bosses who stress you out and you don’t like.

[Satu16]

If you are happy with it I think that's completely fine. It would not be my way. I don't want to be financially dependent and I've worked too hard for my degrees. But consider what your life would be like if your husband left you and you have nothing or very little to show professionally. No one will give you a job if the only thing you can say is "I'm a mother and a housewife!"

[Apple1996]

@Satu16 I like staying home with my kids. They need their mother, i gave birth to them and it's my responsibility to raise them. I would never sit their and pay a daycare my whole check every month just so I can say I worked. I'd much rather get to spend everyday with them and have no professional work experience. I value my life as more then a 9-5, like I want to acutally live not just go through the motions like everyone else does.

And by the way if my husband leaves me I litterally get everything. All our stuff and the kids so I not too worried about that. There are a lot of programs for single moms, I could easily get a job if I ever wanted too.

[Satu16]

@Apple1996 As I said if you are happy with it then that's fine.
Both of my parents always worked full time and were always there for us unconditionally. My mother went back to work three weeks after giving birth to me. And we were never looked after by others (we never had to go to one of these dirty kindergartens) My parents are my heroes, my idols, my best friends, my everything. I adore them and I will raise my kids the way the raised me.

[Satu16]

As I said if you are happy with it then that's fine.
Both of my parents always worked full time and were always there for us unconditionally. My mother went back to work three weeks after giving birth to me. And we were never looked after by others (we never had to go to one of these dirty kindergartens) My parents are my heroes, my idols, my best friends, my everything. I adore them and I will raise my kids the way the raised me.

[sunshinet123]

The laws are set up that housewives get paid and cared for regardless even after divorce. And it’s ok to be working women with degrees but it’s better to have a man ready to take care of you in times of need such as when you are sick and unable to work job loss etc. But if he relies on half of your check you can never have time off.

[Satu16]

That may be, but why am I as a woman entitled to rely on his money? That's unfair. And if I rely on half of his money, he can never have time off too. We both are adults and partners and each adult should finance his / her own life. In my eyes, women abuse men as the breadwinner and they are the only ones who advantage of it. They hide behind obsolete role clichés and then complain that the men don't help them with the children and the household.

[Apple1996]

@Satu16 my husband has a job where they give him more money for having a wife and a family. If he didn't have me he wouldn't have a house or and would make less then half of what he makes now. Its not like I'm freeloading off of him. He provides for me and our children. And I never make him help with the kids or anything in the house so we definitely both contribute in our own way

[Satu16]

As I said, if this model works for both of you, nice. I think it is a bad role model for children if parents stubbornly sticks to old role clichés. It limits their independence. Girls shouldn't need a man to fix things and be able to live on their own. Boys shouldn't need a woman to run a household or cook a meal.

[Apple1996]

@Satu16 my kids dont see that kind of stuff. My husband goes away for months at a time. Everything our life gets done because I do it. I play both roles as mom and dad for them. Just because I dont work doesn't mean I'm not independent.

[Battooot]

@Satu16 Satu. You said both your parents worked fulltime and you were never looked after by others and your mum went back to work after 3 weeks having you. Who was looking after you when both your parents were out? Did you have brothers/sisters? Or family members stayed and raised you

[Miristheiss]

@Satu16
Femamist lie that a woman should be ashamed if she is a full time mom. Only a career gives purpose and contentment. It is supposedly about choice but look at you casting judgement because she chose "wrong".

[Miristheiss]

@Satu16
Femanazis are gross

[Miristheiss]

@Satu16
SHE ALREASY SAID SHE IS HAPPY!!!
Go the F away now!

[Jamie05rhs]

Both Apple and Satu have good points. But Apple shouldn't be criticized for being a stay-at-home mom. There is no shame in that. It is a very valuable role to play, and a child being raised by their own parent is a beautiful thing.

[Satu16]

As I said if she is happy with it then that's fine.

[Satu16]

@Battooot No, no family members or older siblings. Only my parents looked after me, they took me with them whenever they were out. It's all a question of organization, discipline and will.

[Battooot]

@Satu16 they took you with them? to work? what do they do that made them allowed to bring children in? also wasn't that boring as hell for you while at their work?

[Satu16]

@Battooot Yes, they took me with them to work. My father is a lawyer and has a very successful law chancellery. My mother is a doctor, more precisely a neurosurgeon. She works and researches in the areas of neurology, surgical procedures, prevention and early detection of brain tumors. Of course I wasn't in the operating room. (just in case someone assumes that right away)

No, it wasn't boring at all. I was able to learn, discover and try out a lot there. I also had my own room with toys, pens, etc. there. Primary school was rather boring to me because I was already able to do a lot of the things they teach you there and everything was so predictable.
In primary school I couldn't wait to finally study at a university so that I could work with my parents (again). I've always been very determined and ambitious. Haha

As you can see, my parents are both very highly qualified and have very demanding jobs with responsibility, and nevertheless they are the most wonderful parents ever!

[Passinggas]

@Apple1996 I am astounded how you were somewhat bullied for stating your position.

[Apple1996]

@Passinggas haha yeah I know. I guess some people really hate stay at home moms 😆😆 I doubt anyone in person would have the guts to tell me this shit

[Passinggas]

"... doubt anyone in person would have the guts to tell me this shit" That I do not doubt!

[Satu16]

@Miristheiss Ah okay I see who does not share your opinion should shut up. If you had enough mental skills to understand my words then you would know that I have already written several times "If she is happy with it then that is perfectly fine".

[Satu16]

@Apple1996 and @Passinggas
Of course I would have the guts to tell you my opinion in person. I'm not a shy little girl and I stand by my beliefs.
I personally don't hate housewifes I simply don't understand how they can live a life that is so antiquated.

[Passinggas]

@Satu16 “Of course I would have the guts to tell you my opinion in person.” You might try and start but I guarantee you wouldn’t finish. It is sick the way you try to force your beliefs and control upon everyone. That is the liberal elitism; no one knows what is best for him or her and therefore you know better and by default, you are right. “how they can live a life that is so antiquated.” That is your pure arrogance assuming you know what everyone desires. How could someone not want what I have or seek, so your shallow mind wonders? Women that criticize housewives like you do simply are doubting themselves and their priorities.

[Satu16]

@Passinggas Why wouldn’t I finish? Because I'm so scared of people like you don't liking me? HAHA, no way!

And I don't try to force my beliefs or control upon everyone. You're trying to control me by telling me that I'm so wrong in your eyes.
You seem to be the one who cannot accept that someone has a different opinion. That's what I call compulsion!

I can guarantee you that I'm not doubting myselves and my priorities.

So gradually it is getting too stupid for me to have to repeat that again and again "if she is happy with it then that's all right" Has it finally arrived this time or do I have to repeat it another 100 times? I have my opinion, you have yours. That's all!

[Passinggas]

@Satu16"You seem to be the one who cannot accept that someone has a different opinion." You’re accusing me of your first action of your criticism of Apple1996 by then attempting to ignore that and turn it on me—liberal elitism 101. “I can guarantee you that I'm not doubting myselves and my priorities.” You definitely are by attempting to make all in the herd be just like you. The only way that you can justify your position is by committee as most followers of a common mantra do. “ if she is happy with it then that's all right" well it is so comforting to know that she has your approval to live her life as she chooses—pure arrogance. Do you even have a slight clue how twisted your bloated perception of yourself is?

[Satu16]

@Passinggas I see that nothing has arrived. A waste of time.
As I assumed, you have a real problem accepting other people's opinions.
And this is guaranteed to be followed by another stupid comment that is truly meant to offend me in some way. I'll tell you a secret; it doesn't work. Sorry honey, but you would have to act and argue at a higher level.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think a lot of men would want a house wife if they could afford one - if a guy is working at McDonalds - he might not have the funds to pay for a house wife and children but I'm sure if he won the lottery he might reconsider his dating priorities - some guys legitimately want a career woman - others choose career woman cause they can't afford a house wife

[MzAsh]

A good man wants a woman who puts her desires as a priority, no matter what those desires are.

[CubsterShura]

I feel like most men who want women for their careers only want it for the status and showing off to others that they are modern men with career driven wives and they are equal and all, whereas in reality he gets to chill and have nothing else to do than working in office whereas his wife has to do work, household chores AND look after the children.

I see that happening a LOT in Asian countries. Don't know about other countries but I've heard similar things from Western women so I think this experience isn't exclusive to Asians only.

I want a man who is flexible/fine with either. Because I personally want to do whatever is best for the family and don't have any concrete plan of being a total SAHM or being totally career-driven. I want to have the ability to choose for myself and make mutual decisions depending on what we think is more beneficial for us.

Pinning yourself at home for no reason when it feels pointless but you but do it anyway just because, OR always feeling the need to work work work and just stressing yourself unnecessarily even though you don't feel like it... Both feel equally tragic. As long as I'm not in either of those mental prisons I'm good.

[akihon]

I honestly don't think that the majority do want a housewife. I think that they want somebody to share the load with, the trouble is that we live in very selfish times, we get rewarded for our selfishness and vices and often punished for any virtues we have.

We therefore tend to think that only we work hard, for example a man and woman working in the same office doing the same job but on different projects will think that they have worked harder than each other, so imagine that they live together, they don't want to share the workload because they both feel that they have worked harder than the other.

Instead of working for each other in what can be described as a competition to see who can do the most for the other, or actually sharing the load we tend to try to put things off, this in turn breads resentment between people.

I think that most people know everyone works hard and everyone gets tired but everyone tends to forget that and focus on their own needs and wants rather than the whole, the home or family.

I think as this increases we'll see society fracture more and distance between men and women grow over time rather than shrink, rather than improve relationships between the genders it will get worse

[Sensmind]

I don't think you can give a general answer to this. Guys will prefer all types plus there are other factors like economics. In a world where economics were not a factor, there might be a higher number of guys who would like a stay at home housewife/mom, what percentage I don't know maybe some women want to stay at home. Even within this the role of woman can be different from "Submissive" wife to an independent homemaker. From my own interactions with friends who are parents and want to stay at home, it crosses gender as to who wants to stay at home the most.
As I say hard it is hard to predict, there will be a group who want a stay at home mom, a group of men drawn to career women and whole lot in between. I think in reality like minded people are drawn together and it is no real surprise the route they take (circumstances permitting)
What I think I am saying is according to stats your nature may be first, second, third largest group but you are usually drawn to a like minded person so keep being yourself rather than fixating on whether you are in largest group or not. In questions like this no one is right or wrong from the the stay at home 7 kid mom to the no kid CEO, she is doing what feels right for her and different guys will respect/appreciate those stances.

[TonyMetal_1986]

I personally want a girl who adores becoming a housewife, i'll never marry a girl who wants to work after marriage.

I think that most men wants working women because it makes life less easier for them, more responsibilities dropped on women where she will handle thr house and the bills and everything while he just work outside or becomes a couch potato, also because the majority of men are capable to handle family responsibilities and also for financial reasons.

[kim45456]

You know that a working woman would not all house chores except she is stupid

[TonyMetal_1986]

@kim45456 well a woman would be so stupid if she really thinks that any guy will share everything 50/50.

[kim45456]

She is not a slave. If you dont cook and clean the house, go grown up then. A grown up or an adult has to know basic survival skills. I dont wanna babysit boys like you

[kim45456]

You are seeking for a babysitter who also earn money for you.

[kim45456]

" well a woman would be so stupid if she really thinks that any guy will share everything 50/50." You are calling a woman for excepting from a man basic survival skills. You can like housewifes but stop calling us stupid for wanting to work and for excepting some help from our husband to do housechores after all the women is working too, so he has to do house chores too

[kim45456]

I also talk in general?

[kim45456]

Other men are not lazy and stupid like you

[kim45456]

They dont need a babysitter like yoz

[sunshinet123]

Kim I think you missed his point. Many men who want 50/50 actually do not do 50/50. Women will always end up caring for children and housework more than men. We are meant to nurture our children and be overly invested in them.

[kim45456]

"I think that most men wants working women because it makes life less easier for them, more responsibilities dropped on women where she will handle thr house and the bills and everything while he just work outside or becomes a couch potato" other men dont lack survival skills and can do the half of the housechores and cooking except you are talking about mental ill peeople like you who is not capable to do cooking and cleaning. We are talking here about adults not kids

[kim45456]

"Many men who want 50/50 actually do not do 50/50. Women will always end up caring for children and housework more than men. We are meant to nurture our children and be overly invested in them." Then make them do it. Some women just do more housechores than necassary just because they dont complain about it. I also dont think that many men are like this. You should find a nice guy who is not an asshole and let her woman do most of the housechores.

[kim45456]

Jklllp

[kim45456]

I dont except from a man do everything for me

[heloooop45456]

Why are you so rude? She has right. A man should also cook and clean the house and vica versa. She is a feminist hoe only because she shows valid points? Your iq level is the same level as a kid, otherwise you would not need a babysitter and insult her like mad kid. Funny how can stand facts

[heloooop45456]

You are mgtow faggot

[AynonOMouse]

She should work at least part time to contribute. If she contributes $400 per month to our family she can keep the rest of her earned money to spend for whatever but I shouldn't be the only one fully supporting the family. I'm not an ATM.
I would understand if when the kids are not yet school age she is at home, maybe doing online college or something, but once they are school age she should work and contribute.
Stay at home parenting is easy and taking care of the house takes very little time and anybody who claims otherwise is lying.

[AynonOMouse]

@sunshinet123 Maybe you can tell me what you think of my other standards for an SO that I have in a MyTake on y profile?

[sunshinet123]

I’m sorry I don’t understand your question?

[AynonOMouse]

I was asking what you think of what I wrote in this:
My standards for a potential SO. Wow, this got really long. ↗

[sunshinet123]

I think you will never find what you are looking for. I agree with a lot of things they you said but your too extreme the amount of perfection you expect is a sign of a not normal childhood maybe the relationship with your mom was not that healthy.

You have to give some grace, for example if a girl smoked pot once as a teen and never did it again she can’t be trusted? Also I understand you want to be showered with love but on a first date if you do not pay get prepared to get a lot of rejection. It’s like a women coming to a date with bad hygiene and looking a mess. And if a women who doesn’t mind paying she will probably will be the feminist type who will be against toxic masculinity.

You seem to want a traditional woman with values but yet you are acting modern when it comes to dating.

[Imcmullan]

@AynonOMouse , it isn't easy staying home with the kids, doing the chores, and cooking. Its actually more work and mentally draining than going to work. Think about it, if you stay home u have no adult communication. All you do is child related things (this takes away from who that woman is as a person). She becomes a mom only and her identity feels like its stripped away. I've been a stay at home mom. And I never rested. All day I cooked, cleaned, and took care of my daughter. My s/o wasn't an ATM, he was taking care of our half of our life (making money) while I took care of the other half (running our household). We aren't together but it had nothing to do with the way we ran our home. Supporting a family isn't just financial. Supporting a family also comes with coming, cleaning, laundry, dr. appointments for the baby, sitting down n budgeting for bills, taking the child to its recitals, games, PTA meetings, helping with homework, moral n mental support, etc.

[Imcmullan]

Being a stay at home mom is harder than working n from experience, I've realized, I'd rather go to work than stay home.

[AynonOMouse]

@Imcmullan Being a stay at home partner is WAY easier. Only lazy people disagree. I can get all the home stuff done myself and make the meals done for the week and it takes less than 8 hours for the entire week. So that is only equal to ONE full day of working a job.
The only people that have a difficult time with it are terrible at time management and think the hours sitting there doing nothing counts as work.
And kids are easy to take care of too and manage. Heck, working in schools I had to deal with so many kids, all coming from different backgrounds with different personalities and I handled them better than anyone else there.

[AynonOMouse]

@sunshin123 Yeah it will be very difficult to find someone like that, even though I meet and exceed those expectations myself.
The not paying for the first date thing is the easiest way to find out if she is just a gold digging user, which most are so it helps me eliminate the kind of people I wouldn't want or respect.
Coming to a date with bad hygiene is a bad comparison because the guy could just as easily do that too.
I don't understand why women feel so entitled to be treated much better than they treat men. They expect to not be worth much themselves but want a great guy. lol

[SouthernLAguy]

When I was dating my wife now I was dating 3 other women in different states, they new about each other. I say that because my wife asked me why did you pick me over the others? Especially since once was a dancer another was a model. I said because you want to be a wife, I can party with women anytime but it's hard to find a woman who wants to be at home, cook, clean, and be a housewife. You did I told her. That's what I was looking for. 20 years now. Yes I want a housewife. I'm the career guy and I'll take care of the bills and outside stuff.

[genericname85]

i want a woman that is on eye level with me. she could even make more money than me. i have no issue pausing my career to have a family if she earns more than me. i don't need a pet at home that i need to feed. i want a partner that carries at least somewhat as much as i do.

[Anonymous]

The perfect woman to me has an education but puts relationship and family before her career. She will quit her job and stay home to raise our children until they are through the vulnerable years when they desperately need a real mother. Then, when the kids are old enough, she will go back to work and continue her career.

Most high value men are not attracted to so called career women.

[Primrose21]

Finally someone gets it. A lot of stupid men in here think that housework and child rearing is a fun thing to do. Plus they think housewives are a free loader. No wonder why women this days choose career over love so that we women can easily leave those jerks. They only think of themselves. They never thought of the idea that a baby needs attention and obviously a lot of men don't wanna do the changing the diapers seasons and yet complain if there wives stop working.

[Opinion Owner]

@Primrose21 I mostly agree with you, but in my experience the criticism of women who stay home to take care of the family and home, and the attitude that those women are freeloader... that is coming more from women than men. You should be blaming that more on women, and particularly feminists, than men.

In my opinion, women who do that work very hard and are doing the most important work in the world.

[sunshinet123]

Agreed I worked as an assistant preschool teacher it is best the children get more attention from mom or dad because a stranger does not love your child as much as you do. And a teacher has so many students to focus on and they are underpaid.

[heloooop45456]

Why dont you quit your job? Such a selfish guy

[Opinion Owner]

@sunshinet123 I agree with you, and especially the part about teachers being underpaid. They are so important in the lives and development of children and they don't get paid nearly enough for what they do.

[Opinion Owner]

@heloooop45456 @kim45456 I'm selfish for wanting my children to be raised by a real mother instead of a daycare worker who could never love and teach them them way a real mother can? LOL

No, I'm not going to quit my job, for two reasons. First, I earn way too much to give up my salary and work only part time. I can do a lot more for my family by being a provider and making it possible for my wife and kids to live a comfortable life where all their needs are met. And second, children deserve a real mother, and only a woman can be one.

[Opinion Owner]

@kim45456 Note that I said "the perfect woman to me". Why are you always so childish and offensive here?

[Bananaman177]

Career women are divorce machines.

All they do is throw everybody and everything away every time they get a promotion or reach a new level in their careers, suddenly everything they had before isn't good enough for them anymore, they need a NEW husband that reflects their NEW status.

The only reason any man should want a career woman is if he has a specific cuckholding fetish and wants to find out one day that his wife has been sleeping with her boss at work, lol. If that's your fetish, career women are right up your alley.

[nelly83]

its more like you're afraid that your wife can afford to leave you cuz you've been abusing her.

[Coolfred]

That.. doesn't make logical sense. Because they got a promotion they don't want a new husband because of their new job? That's quite a jump between the premise and the conclusion.

[nelly83]

@Coolfred you have to understand that husbands frequently think they can abuse their power over their housewives cuz he knows that she can't live without him.

[Bananaman177]

@Coolfred https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FfeBT0uuIrw

[Bananaman177]

@nelly83 Keep thinking all men are bad and men are the enemy and keep thinking that all women are good and all women are your friends, and see how life goes for you.

[nelly83]

dude, if your wife loved you enough to marry you, she wouldn't leave you as soon as she starts making money. She would only leave you if you were treating her like shit. And yea, there are tons of woman hating misogynists on this website. Its no surprise if you go abusing and controlling your housewife after marriage.

[nelly83]

I am working a decent salary right now. And I'm planning on being a working mother. I'm not gonna leave my husband if I get a promotion. I have no reason to leave him. I enjoy his company and he is the father of my children. If your wife leaves you after getting a job, it means she's not happy with you in the first place.

[Bananaman177]

@nelly83 It's sad and disappointing to me that you actually believe all men are abusive and all women are victims, and it could never be the other way around. No way could a woman be the abusive one even though it happens all the time. She must have been abusing him because he was actually the abusive one! Yes, that's right. It's okay to blame the victim if the victim is a man. Everyone knows that. Good luck with your gender studies degree.

[nelly83]

I think you need to stop victimizing men and start seeing how men can abuse their power over their housewives. Many of the men who insist their wives to stay at home, usually are misogynistic and power hungry. They make their wives feel locked up servants around the house. When he needs anything, she needs to be his servant. If he wants a foot rub, she is expected to be there. If he is unhappy with her, he can refuse to give her an allowance. She has no power to resist her husband. She has no power to leave her husband either. Leaving would be very very hard indeed especially if she's been unemployed for 10+ years.

If your wife is happy married to you, she will not leave you even if she gets promoted. If you fear she will leave you, that means you know she's UNHAPPY.

[Passinggas]

I know many intense career women and they are not compatible with the concept of family which they find burdensome—just ask one. Then there are women that put most of their energy into family and work to supplement incomes. And, of course, dedicated stay at home women. My so is in the middle, wanting a family and she runs our farm which is doing good while I am in a career that is going well. There are different blends of compatible types and it is not simply either career vs. housewife.

The types I wouldn’t want at all are, psycho-career-woman or lazy-couch-potato-“housewife.”

[kim45456]

Wtf it is selfish that she has to work at farm like a alave while you making caarer

[Passinggas]

@kim45456 So you think I should force her to do something that she doesn't want to do? She inherited her farm, and it is in her blood and we combined it with mine. She does exactly what she wants to do since I knew her when she was 3yo and I 4yo. She runs, manages many farm hands and when I help I am nothing more than another farm hand, repair and mechanic. Forcing and imposing your will is a sign of your own lack of fulfillment I would say. That is the ills of the lib mindset, no one knows what it good for himself or herself, and therefore an elitist knows better, right? Everyone should be like you so that therefore you are right. Also, I am not making a career, I had one before we got together. It is a good living, that’s all.

[kim45456]

Would you be ok, if she makes caarer instead being at farm? Sorry for misunderstanding you and you really know her since she is 3-4 years old?

[kim45456]

"I know many intense career women and they are not compatible with the concept of family which they find burdensome—just ask one." I dont think it impossible for a woman to make a caarer and have family, if she has great husband who supports her.
And also how old is you girlfriend. So you know her whole life since you know her since she is a toddler

[kim45456]

Wow i am kinda impressed. Were you guys together since childhood. How cute is that

[Passinggas]

@kim45456 Yes, we grew up together. "Would you be ok, if she makes caarer instead being at farm?" She has a career and she is good at it. It is interesting how so many hear farm and all of a sudden the visual is ignorant, toothless, hog slop-er. This is exactly what Blumberg painted the other night. That is elitism at its best. Nope, she wants to have a dozen and she isn’t planning to change anything so there is no sense in speculating what I might like.

[Passinggas]

@kim45456 I replied before I saw your last.

[kim45456]

So cute, were you guys a couple since childhood? How old is she? I mean you guys are 20, how are you guys making caarer at that age

[Passinggas]

@kim45456"... couple since childhood?" No, I had no idea she had anything for me until about a year ago. I went off to school at 16yo and graduated a little over a year ago. She, just made up her mind and started riding her horses over on my place always bringing one for me to ride and it went from there. But, we knew each other always but she never hinted at all.

[Passinggas]

19...

[kim45456]

Oh cuuteeeee

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Traditionally, I believe a truly hard-working man would still appreciate coming home to a clean house, a hot home-cooked meal and an "excited" wife.

[sunshinet123]

I think some men prefer housewives because they want the joy and pride of being the main breadwinner and getting the appreciation from the family. Excited is a very good point.

[bamesjond0069]

You got that right!

[Unit1]

I know I do and I'm a hard worker myself.
The house will be kept clean by me and her at most times.
Hot home-cooked meal can be substituted with pizzas or eating out in affordable places - yes, they do exist!
Nothing like an excited girlfriend, that pounces on me and kisses me just a few minutes after I entered home 😍😍😍

[Unit1]

Point is - I don't want a housewife but a career woman 😁

[davids88]

So what did you mean by an "excited" wife?

[DeeDeeDeVour]

@davids88: A wife who's been yearning throughout the day for her husband's return so they can "get it on!" :)

[Unit1]

How does a man make a wife/girlfriend excited, so that she yearns for him to come home?

[bamesjond0069]

Yes traditional relationships are basically like 247 for play from my experience. Every time she cleans up or cooks for me I get turned on thinking about how she is taken care of me and I know my girlfriend loves to watch me fix things around the house like install new electrical outlets Or just lift heavy things for her like a man should do

[DeeDeeDeVour]

@Unit1: I can't speak on behalf of others. As for myself, I'm still very much head-over-heels for my husband. When we're apart, even for just hours, I feel incomplete. He assures me the feelings are mutual.

[Unit1]

gah. I suppose if the love is real, we'll see it. Until then enjoy the single life 🤷‍♀️

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I'm a successful businesswoman & investor. I ran most of my operations from the comforts of my properties. He's the same except he operates on site, away from home. Despite both being busy, we think of each other throughout the day. Each other's absence makes our hearts grow fonder.

[Unit1]

That's literally what I'm after. Becoming a businessman and a investor and find a woman, who's also into business and investing because money is where the game is at every day in our lives 🤔

Would you mind sharing your tricks in investing right?

[Coolfred]

@bamesjond0069 I'd be terrible in your place. They'd probably be better at lifting heavy things than me.

[BeingSingleBlows]

If there is a baby involved, she needs to stay home and take care of the thing while the man works like it's traditionally supposed to be. And I'd rather work than take care of a baby. And the woman would probably choose baby over career because nurturing is more in their nature. Plus milk doesn't come from my nipples. If there is no baby, then career is fine.

[kim45456]

Kids are not forever babies

[Primrose21]

If you don't wanna share the pain of taking care of a baby then might as well just cut ur balls. Useless men like u shouldn't procreate. Want a baby? Then contribute in all those sleepless nights.

[BeingSingleBlows]

Hmm. Both you girls are 20 and 21. You'll grow into. We all have a part to play. If you want add work to yours. Knock yourselves out. That's nearly how it's been in every culture for centuries. Not sure what your mad at.

[Primrose21]

How about u contribute on taking care instead of putting all the work on women? You sure do have a lazy balls.

[Primrose21]

Then just marry your mother or grandma. This days women needs a career so we can easily leave a man if he turns out to be a jerk.

[kim45456]

Look, dont call yourself an adult, if you can't cook amd clean

[sunshinet123]

It seems that many women encountered horrible partners and use a career in order to escape them which I understand. But ladies if you Met a honest good guy and he wanted to care for you financially while you invest everything into family that’s an amazing fulfilling trade.

[HawkPerception]

For me, I'd prefer that she's making at least enough money to be independent. It's not the old days where women worked for less than a fraction of the wage men did. I don't care about how career driven she is. I only care that she's happy doing what she's doing. My opinion of a girl goes up the more independent they are, because let's be honest... it's actually much easier to stay at home and cook and clean and maybe take care of the kids. If we do have kids, then I'd definitely prefer at least one of us is with them, but get a part-time work from home job at least. Nowadays it's about equality. Both partners work together.

[HedwigInABox]

I don't know why this got downvoted. I 100% agree.

[arabgoddess]

I know that Arab men prefer to have women as housewives and they hate the idea of their wives working.. They get worried that she might meet someone 🙄🙄🙄 which isn't necessarily true

[Jamie05rhs]

That's hypothetical, because he himself might "meet someone."

[Jamie05rhs]

"hypocritical.". Damn autocorrect

[Satu16]

And that's on of the reasons why I've never been attracted to arab men.

[arabgoddess]

Yesss you're both right!! The man feels it's OK if he does.. But the woman never!!

[Battooot]

Im Arab straight to the BONE, and lived 80% of my life in UAE and Syria and i find what you said incredibly ignorant and stereotypical.

And offensive.

[Battooot]

You are clearly surrounded by the WRONG people.

[arabgoddess]

Nice to meet a rare Arab! A7la beek

[Battooot]

i'm not a 'rare' Arab. that's why i said that your thinking is very stereotypical and ignorant. NO educated ARAB will 'worry' that his wife might meet someone and hates the idea of his wife working because of that. That's literally you assuming that ARAB men are idiots and insecure as well.

Despite what the media portrays, Arabs dominate the working and business industry and occupy the highest paying jobs. the most brilliant doctors, engineers, and many other professions are Syrians or Lebanese or from neighboring countries to those.

You seem like you are surrounded by less educated or non-open minded arabs. Where do you live? Morroco? Tunisia?

[arabgoddess]

Thank you for the lecture but got bored after reading the first sentence 🙄

I use to call my son batoot.. You sound just like him.. A angry duck!

[Battooot]

Oh i see..

32 years old by the way, and you replied to me in that way. i Also had asked you a legit question.

I think i don't need to bother.

[crazy8000]

Not that simple. it isn't black or white view.

Absolutely not into just a home wife, yeah, partner since I'm not in to marriage.

Moore in to somewhere between both since certain kind of career doesn't leave that much over for a proper relationship.

It isn't that common here with that home wife structure. more common both are working.
Very few wants to take on just one of the roles of either ome partner not contributing to any income or just be the one contributing with income.
Even if one of them happen to be home for some reason they get some kind of welfare paycheck.

[Anonymous]

I believe most poor men prefer career driven because they need help to pay bills and getting with a housewife will only stress them out more about debt. Lol

Whereas a man who is well off with a good career probably just wants a wife to take care of the kids and be a family with him because he’s not so stressed about paying bills. Not that they are against the wife making her own money but they are more focused on having a family rather than someone to help pay bills because they don’t have a difficult time paying all the bills themselves.

That’s how I see it.

[Anoniemus]

It doesn’t matter what they want if they’re not compatible. I’m not having kids but there isn’t going to be any BS about me doing housework and him doing nothing.
He’ll be cooking all three meals (4 courses each) if have to clean the house alone.

[thegirlfromthething]

Most of them are at least open to the idea of a housewife but that’s no longer practical for a lot of families. Most men are fine with their wife working but don’t want extremely ambitious women who place a lot of importance on their career.