I don't really have much of a preference. I like the idea of both. My fear with housewives is that they won't understand the lifestyle of a guy who works very hard like me. and my fear of a career driven women is that she won't hold family values as strongly as I do.
Preferably, I'd like to have a woman who works part time until the kids are 5 or 6
I find old school men seem to prefer a housewife because they want someone at home to take care of everything on the domestic end. Younger men, especially those trying to survive or buildup their assets, like a home or multiple vehicles, tend to rely on a second income to achieve those goals. There are men of all ages that want to continue to raise their financial standing and want their partner to contribute to that, regardless of domestic responsibilities.
I can't speak for what men wants in that regard. I do know they want peaceful home like us all. It's not so simple nowadays. Often requires both to work full time. Best is to be able to balance, work life and fun life. Then comes down to reality of household chores. Hopefully, with both income, a cleaning person and a trusted babysitter occasionally to take time to go on dates.
@Jamie05rhs heehehe... i have many good qualities... domestic chores is not one of them :P besides.. they are professionals clearners... gets the work done in 2-3 hours... I take out everthing to "try" to clean... then 2-3 hours later.. i get too tire to put them back... So i work hard, make my money and let the profesionals do it... then I can go play :)
@midnightmoon05 Okay, well, as long as that's what you want to spend your money on. I would rather spend my money on music downloads. Then I can jam out while cleaning and I don't have to pay anybody else.
Is there a reason why it can't be both or the generic (e. g. cooking) responsibilities shared? I ask as my mother & her same-aged family/friends were all successful careers (teacher, lawyer, etc.) women & housewives.
It's not hard if someone isn't lazy. No different, in many ways, then working & living by yourself (same for guys). Unless someone is a slob living off of fast-food & takeout they've gotta cook & clean for themselves anyway when single.
She can be a career woman, she can be successful, she can even earn a lot more than me. I just want the kids raised by their mother rather than their father. And for my career is second place to family. I would break my back and have a shit career overall if that means my family has money and is happy and the kids are raised properly.
But if its not important why do they then complain about it alot? Also the number 1 reason for divorce is financial. Love doesn't trump all. I've loved girls that were plain wrong for me and i dumped them. Same thing. If you love a broke man... he's broke so... why still be with him to divorce him later because of it?
Doesn't mean we want a man that gives up and stops working to help support the family. Most women don't complain and divorce their husbands because she knows he's doing the best he can. They divorce the ones that give up, get lazy, and stop making their family a priority. And I don't mean the ones that fall on hard times by getting laid off but make their new job looking for another. I'm talking about the ones that get fired, feel sorry for themselves, and drink it away. Giving up instead of doing what he should do. In most cases if women complain or divorce their husband he gave her many reasons to do it.
We want women with career skills, such as medical or teaching where we can get a marriage off and running into a single family home, then suspend her career to be a full time home maker and raise children and then ease back into it when children become less labor intensive in school in time to help out with career training.
Men want different things. You can’t make that generalization. You can say that men, and women, who want someone, want someone that makes them feel good about themselves. But if I had to choose, I’d say contemporary men want a woman with a successful career as long as they’re not overly inconvenienced and she’s a good match in the bedroom.
A woman that contributes. That could be either. Ideally, someone stays home for kids sake until they are old enough, then both work. I don't see anything else that works as well.
thus, I could not select. I'd take either, but I don't want to stuff my kids in a daycare (if I had them) and I don't want a lazy soap opera watching woman.
She has to bring *something* to the table, so to speak. A doting housewife who is thrifty and frugal and stretches out the money a man earns is great. So is a career wife who brings money home, although she may cost more because she likely cannot be as frugal.
Money is not hard to come by if you've had a decent education and work hard enough. The whole point of going to college, getting promotions is so that you can enjoy life more.
Its just gonna get easier when you make more money. Unless you seriously have terrible budgeting skills or if you're the type to run up a ton of credit card debt
how about BOTH? I work well over 40 hours a week. I come home build things for the house make improvements. tend to the yard duties, cook, clean, straighten up, give plenty of my undivided attention to family and especially significant other. Eager for plenty of play time. Get out of house with family make it fun to explore and do outdoorsy stuff making memories.
Why would I want to settle with a lazy woman that can only do one task as her title she gave herself.
Face it, you're lazy and asked a question to support your laziness. lol
Lazy lol as a person who worked in the childcare system and observed the treatment of children I know that if both parents are working they will be giving them up to strangers.
Strangers don’t care about your children they can verbally, physically and sexually mistreat your child leaving permanent mental scars.
It’s not about laziness or just cooking and cleaning it’s about being socially aware undivided investment into your children teaching them, providing organic healthy meals. Making them college ready before high school.
And working 40 hours a week both parents just know no low paid teacher loves your child.
It depends on the guy, I'm very family oriented, I don't care about careers, and want a girl that thinks the same, people are not born to be just one more cog in the corporate machine
Other guys are such dumbasses. I want a Bread Winning Wife. Besides, Snow already makes a ton of money, and she talked to me first, so she knows I don't make a ton of money.
Asian women are smarter than men anyway, so I may as well play my role, right?
In an ideal world, both. The best relationship would be if both parties could have a 3 day work week when they have kids, because that is 6 days of income, and allows both them to spend lots of time with the kids.
The amount you have to make and how long you have to work to make enough money for a stat at home wife and kids is a lot, and it prevents you from being with them. When both work, often neither gets lots of time with the kids, which isn't great either.
I respect both, but I'd rather have a housewife. Makes sense to have one person work and the other care for house/children. Makes childcare cheaper and ensures the homefront is cared for. I would leave it up to her to choose whether she wants to he the main one in charge of maintaining the budget as well.
All that matters to me is being able to make time for each other. I think I personally would prefer a career driven woman but in my past experiences the career driven women I have dated seem to forget the whole time together thing.
Any woman I'm with is gonna have a job. A relationship is a partnership, and if were gonna live together then we are gonna pool resources and meet in the middle. So a woman with a career is far more attractive that just a stay at home wife.
Yes I did. I still have a good relationship with my dad and my mother and they are still happily married. He was in the army when I was young so I did see how hard it can be to raise a child alone, even though he was still contributing to the family his absence made a significant difference and it's part of why I define relationships the way I do.
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I don't really have much of a preference. I like the idea of both. My fear with housewives is that they won't understand the lifestyle of a guy who works very hard like me. and my fear of a career driven women is that she won't hold family values as strongly as I do.
Preferably, I'd like to have a woman who works part time until the kids are 5 or 6
I find old school men seem to prefer a housewife because they want someone at home to take care of everything on the domestic end. Younger men, especially those trying to survive or buildup their assets, like a home or multiple vehicles, tend to rely on a second income to achieve those goals. There are men of all ages that want to continue to raise their financial standing and want their partner to contribute to that, regardless of domestic responsibilities.
I can't speak for what men wants in that regard. I do know they want peaceful home like us all.
It's not so simple nowadays. Often requires both to work full time.
Best is to be able to balance, work life and fun life. Then comes down to reality of household chores. Hopefully, with both income, a cleaning person and a trusted babysitter occasionally to take time to go on dates.
You don't need a cleaning person, though, necessarily. You both could just clean yourselves.
@Jamie05rhs heehehe... i have many good qualities... domestic chores is not one of them :P
besides.. they are professionals clearners... gets the work done in 2-3 hours...
I take out everthing to "try" to clean... then 2-3 hours later.. i get too tire to put them back...
So i work hard, make my money and let the profesionals do it... then I can go play :)
@midnightmoon05 Okay, well, as long as that's what you want to spend your money on. I would rather spend my money on music downloads. Then I can jam out while cleaning and I don't have to pay anybody else.
Is there a reason why it can't be both or the generic (e. g. cooking) responsibilities shared? I ask as my mother & her same-aged family/friends were all successful careers (teacher, lawyer, etc.) women & housewives.
It's not hard if someone isn't lazy. No different, in many ways, then working & living by yourself (same for guys). Unless someone is a slob living off of fast-food & takeout they've gotta cook & clean for themselves anyway when single.
She can be a career woman, she can be successful, she can even earn a lot more than me. I just want the kids raised by their mother rather than their father. And for my career is second place to family. I would break my back and have a shit career overall if that means my family has money and is happy and the kids are raised properly.
I think kids would be raised better by having a parent stay home. Unfortunately it's hard today to support a family with one income.
And the one whonis supposed to be in the house is the female of course.
Her body is created to adapt ar home.
But you haven't thought about a person can have many source of income.
Its only hard if you marry a man who isn't a good provider. I don't know why women even consider these men just to complain about them later.
We marry them because them not earning an income that can fully support a wife and kids isn't what's important when falling in love.
But if its not important why do they then complain about it alot? Also the number 1 reason for divorce is financial. Love doesn't trump all. I've loved girls that were plain wrong for me and i dumped them. Same thing. If you love a broke man... he's broke so... why still be with him to divorce him later because of it?
Doesn't mean we want a man that gives up and stops working to help support the family. Most women don't complain and divorce their husbands because she knows he's doing the best he can. They divorce the ones that give up, get lazy, and stop making their family a priority. And I don't mean the ones that fall on hard times by getting laid off but make their new job looking for another. I'm talking about the ones that get fired, feel sorry for themselves, and drink it away. Giving up instead of doing what he should do. In most cases if women complain or divorce their husband he gave her many reasons to do it.
We want women with career skills, such as medical or teaching where we can get a marriage off and running into a single family home, then suspend her career to be a full time home maker and raise children and then ease back into it when children become less labor intensive in school in time to help out with career training.
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Men want different things. You can’t make that generalization. You can say that men, and women, who want someone, want someone that makes them feel good about themselves. But if I had to choose, I’d say contemporary men want a woman with a successful career as long as they’re not overly inconvenienced and she’s a good match in the bedroom.
A woman that contributes. That could be either. Ideally, someone stays home for kids sake until they are old enough, then both work. I don't see anything else that works as well.
thus, I could not select. I'd take either, but I don't want to stuff my kids in a daycare (if I had them) and I don't want a lazy soap opera watching woman.
She has to bring *something* to the table, so to speak. A doting housewife who is thrifty and frugal and stretches out the money a man earns is great. So is a career wife who brings money home, although she may cost more because she likely cannot be as frugal.
why would anyone's goal in life is to be frugal? frugal is a shit life
@nelly83 Because money is harder to come by than you think. Even with a well paying job.
Money is not hard to come by if you've had a decent education and work hard enough. The whole point of going to college, getting promotions is so that you can enjoy life more.
@nelly83 It's touching you still believe that. Between the mortgage and the car payments and everything else, it WILL be a lot harder than you think.
Its just gonna get easier when you make more money. Unless you seriously have terrible budgeting skills or if you're the type to run up a ton of credit card debt
how about BOTH?
I work well over 40 hours a week. I come home build things for the house make improvements. tend to the yard duties, cook, clean, straighten up, give plenty of my undivided attention to family and especially significant other. Eager for plenty of play time. Get out of house with family make it fun to explore and do outdoorsy stuff making memories.
Why would I want to settle with a lazy woman that can only do one task as her title she gave herself.
Face it, you're lazy and asked a question to support your laziness. lol
Lazy lol as a person who worked in the childcare system and observed the treatment of children I know that if both parents are working they will be giving them up to strangers.
Strangers don’t care about your children they can verbally, physically and sexually mistreat your child leaving permanent mental scars.
It’s not about laziness or just cooking and cleaning it’s about being socially aware undivided investment into your children teaching them, providing organic healthy meals. Making them college ready before high school.
And working 40 hours a week both parents just know no low paid teacher loves your child.
It depends on the guy, I'm very family oriented, I don't care about careers, and want a girl that thinks the same, people are not born to be just one more cog in the corporate machine
I agree family is everything. We work for our families not for our egos. But many people work for themselves and a child wants mommy and daddy more.
Other guys are such dumbasses. I want a Bread Winning Wife. Besides, Snow already makes a ton of money, and she talked to me first, so she knows I don't make a ton of money.
Asian women are smarter than men anyway, so I may as well play my role, right?
In an ideal world, both. The best relationship would be if both parties could have a 3 day work week when they have kids, because that is 6 days of income, and allows both them to spend lots of time with the kids.
The amount you have to make and how long you have to work to make enough money for a stat at home wife and kids is a lot, and it prevents you from being with them. When both work, often neither gets lots of time with the kids, which isn't great either.
I respect both, but I'd rather have a housewife. Makes sense to have one person work and the other care for house/children. Makes childcare cheaper and ensures the homefront is cared for. I would leave it up to her to choose whether she wants to he the main one in charge of maintaining the budget as well.
Personally, I believe that, if a ( child. Or children ) are involved, than I'd want my SO, home with them !
That's part of today's problem with Society, too many, weren't taught
ie: common curtiousy, respect, manners, and or morals... etc.
We dont want to be housewiges
No one said you had to be... ?
All that matters to me is being able to make time for each other. I think I personally would prefer a career driven woman but in my past experiences the career driven women I have dated seem to forget the whole time together thing.
Neither-- I want a girl to hop on back of a bike with me and ride off into the sunset on adventures together :D
(note to self: buy a bike and learn to ride it, also get more money for adventures, also find willing girl to take with me)
Lol what kind of bike
one that goes *VROOM VROOOOM* haha
Any woman I'm with is gonna have a job. A relationship is a partnership, and if were gonna live together then we are gonna pool resources and meet in the middle. So a woman with a career is far more attractive that just a stay at home wife.
Can I ask if you had a father growing up, or a strong positive male figure in your life?
Yes I did. I still have a good relationship with my dad and my mother and they are still happily married. He was in the army when I was young so I did see how hard it can be to raise a child alone, even though he was still contributing to the family his absence made a significant difference and it's part of why I define relationships the way I do.