Why do men of higher value usually want a housewife and not a woman who works too?

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Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

They want someone to be able to come home to. If both partners are constantly working then where is the time for love?
I know my hubby loves that I stay home with the kids and dont work. It's easier that way since we are all here whenever he gets home so we can have time together.

fonduegirl · Accepted Answer

Because they'd really like highly personalized maids for themselves. Period

coachTanthony · Answer

Look it's simple. I lead in every aspect of my life including relationships. However I also want to find my RIDE or DIE and build and empire TOGETHER. So no I don't want a housewife because we are too busy... steaks and wine are delivered!

thegirlwonder · Answer

Define high value. High value to whom? How are you defining high value?

The men who are top earning lawyers, doctors, engineers, executives, etc. often date women in similar jobs or professionals of other fields here. Most don't end up with housewives in major cities. Aside from the fact that many like women with careers and status (you'll even see many who have gone to Ivy Leagues here only wanting women who have also gone to Ivies - the status is real), the cost of living is also extremely high. Even among the men who earn far more than average (aside from the extremely wealthy - talking millionaires and billionaires), two incomes is still better than one for school districts, housing, etc. Plus they have to consider what image and education she can pass onto their children. And most highly educated career women aren't going to ditch everything to become housewives, but it does happen sometimes. Generally, I think that's a more conservative lifestyle that might be highly preferred in more conservative areas/cultures.

Not saying it doesn't happen, but I haven't noticed it to be a majority in the cities I have lived in.

SomeBlondeChick · Answer

Depends on what you mean by "higher value".

Being decently good looking, rather intelligent, and with a high level of self-respect & who dresses modestly I attract the attention of some VERY affluent and/or successful men. As in men who drive BMWs, Mercedes, etc. and/or own multiple properties and/or multiple businesses and/or are involved with the government/businesses have government only contracts. So definitely higher value (wealthy) men.

Do they expect a "housewife". No because they respect me - I am well educated/do very well in my professional with my boss who is no slouch in the up & up side of things treating me like a peer - and to be blunt I wouldn't put up with anything less than respect.

Does that mean I won't do chores, look after the kids, etc. No. I would. Or well hire someone (except the kids, that'd be my to do). But if someone were to expect me to sit at home and do nothing... they'd be better off marrying a whiny do nothing anyway dimbo.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Define "high value men"? There's over a dozen definitions of high value men by various people.

And a man having great riches doesn't make him high value when he's pure trash character wise.

Moreover, full time house is a concept created by deeply insecure pricks who often desire such women in that role to take advantage of the woman since the woman can't house, feed, nor clothes her without waiting for her man to give her money just to eat.

If you look throughout history dating as far back as you want, women always worked in society, as nannies, house keeping for the king or rich people, cooks, selling clothes or food in the streets etc.

Another thing, a full time house is for men for make a good salary.

Men who don't make a good salary can't possibly afford a full-time house wife and take care and provide for himself plus kids.

Its difficult in first world economic countries to have a good paying job with steady rising income to combat inflation to provide a good living for yourself with decent housing, healthcare cost, car, clothes, phone bill etc, now imagine throwing in 3 more people into the mix on top of yourself or men living in under develope economic poor countries who are lucky if they can buy full groceries that last 5 days let alone have a decent standard of living for additional 4 or more people in a household who don't work nor help out financially.

My advice to women or anyone is to never depend on anyone to feed you, put a roof under your head, clothe you etc as an adult because you can almost guarantee that person in this case a man will exploit that situation fully to his advantage one way or another since you can't take care of yourself as a grown adult.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Because it feels good to have someone focused on creating a home. If I can make enough for both of us, if I am the one who will deal with the craziness, then let me handle that part of the relationship. It gives me a responsibility. But I can't do what most women can do. And I don't want to.

I don't want to focus on decorating the house, making it look nice and open/inviting. I don't want to go out to buy curtains or get a nice rug for the front. I don't want to buy chimes for the door. Or make sure we have nice linens for the bed. Most times, I do not want to cook. I will do it sometimes. I will even vaccuum the floor or mop as part of my list of responsibilities.

But when it comes to that home, if it is left up to me, it will be cold and empty.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Very simple, a REAL MAN needs to feel that he's giving somthing in a relationship, something special, he likes to feel that he can be dependent on and that his wife needs him, it's a special feeling for a man...

Feminism wants to take everything from a man and add it to girls, it's like sending a message to men that we can do everything and anything and you aren't needed, we can take you and dump you anytime we want, your useless and surely STUPID to accept giving us all your privileges while we keep ours... etc

Dongtai · Answer

Men and women aren’t attracted by the same things. Men are drawn in initially by sexual attraction. Women are drawn in by how a man makes them “feel” initially. A man doesn’t get sexually turned on by a woman’s profession unless she’s a model or pornstar. Having five degrees and a business isn’t going to make a man want to have sex with you.

A man of high status will choose the sexy bank teller over the 6 figure making woman who’s physically a 7. If the man has enough money to where he doesn’t “need” a working spouse to support him, then logically he’d go for the sexy woman who’d be a better asset with taking care of the home and children. Men also usually want to feel depended on. It makes them feel masculine when a woman relies on them.

White_King2000 · Answer

Well simply put we want to have kids, we want loyalty, we want a woman who is a little bit younger, we want a woman in her most attractive sexual prime (16-30), we want a woman who is going to raise the kids rather than pawn them off on strangers to raise them.
High value men seem prefer women who are less career oriented, work is not a problem but a big reason it appears so is because a high value man finds himself able to pick and choose so naturally he picks the 20 something year old whos in great shape rather than the 35 year old career woman who's stressed out, putting on weight, lives for her job and can't devout all that much time to a relationship with a high quality man.

TheorionMage · Answer

Because they view her desirability and allure to the Peers as a 'trophy wife' as a status prestige.

Went to my first Wife's employer's home for a Christmas party and came time for handing out the bonuses.
His 'glamouried' stunning Missus, brought out a 'throne-like' high-backed kitchen chair to the center of their living room, whereupon he took up his rightful place. And, instead of his wife occupying any other seat in the room, she demurely knelt down and sat Japanese-style, on their carpet beside his left side, like a sleek, cherished Lioness awaiting petting~

ANY there, with "eyes any but enough to see" realized this had been choreographed!
Needlessly unspoken:
"I am Alpha here and this stunning woman is MY Dom/Sub Concubine" ~
... Tis GOOD indeed to BE the King!
Her submissiveness enhanced BOTH their prestige!

Levin · Answer

Basically the rules of nature ie of yin and yang. The more extremity of either, the more one is attracted to one's extreme. Those who are worldly or imbalanced towards the extreme yang (active) are often attracted to the extremely yin (and often nurturing) (passive) other side. The counteract each other and balance each other out. Not withstanding the subjective definition of high value :)

Luna1998 · Answer

Because thats what we have been taught and seen that men always lead and women always follow. I see the pro and con from both sides as a woman, and i would rather choose to do both, I can be a housewife while I work, BUT, he has to take some part and help me out too. He can't just sit and wait for food to be serve on the table after work then be gone by the time that he is full. Its not how relationship nowadays work anymore.

I know if i took both positions, my life would be hard and over work, but i think i would be happy doing things for my love one tbh, at the same time i won't risk my passion and work over it, if something ever happen (we broke up, he lost his job, or one of us got hospitalized) I still am able to stand by my own feet.

DavidFox · Answer

First men of higher value work hard and want someone to meet their needs each day. Second housewives are some of the hardest working people on the planet. Third any man who forces a woman to stay at home when she has a successful career outside the house is a damn fool. And forth men of high value want a woman of high value.. once they meet they plan their life together.

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

Why would they want to commit to someone they're not going to see as much?
I don't need a bigger bank account, I need someone to fill in the gaps in my social life not someone who's going to be off doing other stuff when I'm done with work.
Being "busy" is an unattractive quality, I see too many girl emphasizing it.

Jjpayne · Answer

Because they expect to be taken care of... It's strange but even my uncle is this way.. It's just natural to him.. Maybe traditional... I don't know 🤔

iseekpinetrees · Answer

Money want to be taken care of? No drama from her end? Lol I don't know I'm a house wife and I'm fine with it.

slatyb · Answer

Where did you get that? Who are these "Men of higher value wanting a housewife?" I work with a lot of high-earning professional mostly they have married professional women.

Soremain · Answer

If the man is rich there is no need for the woman to make money and it's better if she takes care of the home and kids. Seems like a good and equal deal to me to be honest.

Also men who are career focused might not want their spouses to be career focused, that might create competition within the relationship. You don't want competition in your home when you already have plenty of it in your career, you probably want someone more submissive.

Alyssa11 · Answer

I noticed the opposite actually. Usually high value men say I can do whatever I decide to do. Low value men want me to stay home so they can control me lol.

itsjustlew · Answer

Their wives are accessories to them just like their cars and houses plus they take care of things around the house like cooking and cleaning instead of needing to hire a maid and they have more time to pamper themselves for their husbands pleasure and amusement. They see women as items not people

Blerdsmith19 · Answer

Because some men believe they need to dominate by being the "man" of the relationship. Apart of that mindset is based around traditional beliefs that the man works and the woman stays at home. Another part of that traditional belief is being the one who earns money for the family. Or, simply, the man would feel guilty if their spouse had to work. They love them enough so to want to provide for them.

AndrewMG · Answer

In my experience (and I worked at a football club for a number of years where the players earned far in excess of the average salary and for an insurance company that has plenty of people who earn high salaries) almost exclusively the men have encouraged there wives/partners to pursue there own work ambitions/dreams so that's not a stereotype that I recognise.

Not_Average · Answer

Because high value men make enough to provide. High value men also like their women to be feminine and nurturing. They want to be prioritized. They typically don’t want a woman working for another man, and is too exhausted to even make you dinner or put out at the end of the day. They also want their children to be raised by their mother.

Me080Mo · Answer

There are two reasons for 2 different guys :
First guy is to control her and have power over her and that would make her a weak wife and can’t support herself in any way.

Second guy is because he love her and doesn’t want her to waster her time and energy when she doesn’t actually need anything and could use that time doing something useful at home.

I could be right or wrong on this but this is how it usually go.

havingfun101 · Answer

Guys all women want is your money and only white men don't receive Affirmative Action in universities and the workplace, so they don't earn their place. Marriage, cohabitation and childbirth are at all time lows and women lose 90% of their eggs by age thirty and file 75% of divorces.

Texaskid1 · Answer

A man of very high value wants to feel like the king of his castle - he will have a need to feel that he is the provider, the protector. To be the "man of the house" requires confidence that not all men have. A women will - subconsciously - comply with a man of high value and so he can pull it off.

Unit1 · Answer

I doubt they're high value. What i usually see is that these "men" are looking for a slave and a maid they can drill whenever the hell they please and control their every move. Sounds toxic to me like carbon monoxide.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I think most women who are with a very well off man who go piddle around to make 30k are well retarded. I wouldn't bust my ass for no damn reason and i dont think i could respect a woman who did either.

Id be more into a woman who volunteered, was an expert at her hobbies, and was well read. Not someone who worked 20 hours a week at $25 an hour, lame asf and waste of time.

StickStickity13 · Answer

Because men like women for who they are, women like men for what they can provide.

007kingifrit · Answer

you can't take care of our kids if you're working. housewives have a higher birth rate and more time to spend with us. and more time to do the things we don't want to do, like cooking and cleaning

after the kids are 6 or so and are out of the house all day I'd be fine with her picking her career back up so it isn't really that big of a difference

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Because men NEED to be responsible for something. For a long time the responsibility that most men had was to their family before women entered the workforce, pay was way higher in a relative sense and living in a single income was to be expected. Once women entered the workforce, relative pay dropped for everyone. Women that work are also much more likely to cheat due to opportunity, so they tend to cheat because they can.

msc545 · Answer

No man wants competition at home. He usually gets more than enough at work.

ariadneR · Answer

I think ideally they would want both, at least ones that have a bit of matter between their 2 ears. Nit all men are like that though.

ronaldsnugs · Answer

I don’t believe your accusation at all. My wife is a house wife sahm and she loves it and I only love it because she is so happy with doing it.

DocT1977 · Answer

My wife and I both have full time jobs and it works out just fine. We share all other duties.

ohwellmylove · Answer

Well for me, personally, I strive to do better and make more money so my wife doesn’t have to work. I want her to be able to pursue her passions and hobbies without the stress of working a shitty job. Like I’m still gonna put my daughter in daycare. So I guess I don’t want a house wife more than I would love to see her have the freedom to do what she wants and to see her happy/ less stressed, not being constrained by a 9-5

seanras · Answer

Because they don't want two tired people coming home in the end of the day. They want the woman to nurture them and give them the attention and relaxation they need when they get home. That way the relationship, and it's stability stays solid.

JackSmy · Answer

"Men of higher value"? WTF is that, when you ask about a 'housewife'? Is she, somehow less valuable, less important, as a woman? How is that now, that men are still valued more?

genericname85 · Answer

because men enjoy feeling like they are taking care of shit. i mean that's pretty much the definition of "manliness" and so that's what men want xD

Myk13 · Answer

A housewife? I remember my grandfather telling me stories about them when I was little. I’ve been looking my entire life, but I’m pretty sure they are extinct here in CA.

Avicenna · Answer

I don’t think that’s the case anymore, and hasn’t been for a long time either. They also want a high status/high value woman.

MAC1983 · Answer

Short answer is: Because they are used to delegating, in the worst-case scenario, or they are used to using and abusing people, in the worst...

Matt-G · Answer

Because the house needs to run, if he's a power job he won't have time to think about it. Can be the other way round don't forget.

alance99 · Answer

I totally respect those women who work but if i can earn good money then i would like to spoil her and give her rest and enjoy life to fullest

JKingOff · Answer

Because they can't be in two places at once and someone has to watch the kids and keep the place clean, and cook dinner.

Dave31989 · Answer

that's how they were brought up thinking it's taught

loveslongnails · Answer

I don't see how the two correlate. Everything depends on your financial situation, and your family goals.

hellacray · Answer

Ok what would you consider a man to be at a higher value?

Papadingdong · Answer

Because he's making enough bread to keep the house economically afloat, therefore, he seeks a live-in maid, one he can have sex with, plus, he seeks a slave, one who'll do all the necessary house-chores (for free).

Iron_Man · Answer

I don’t mind part-time work and she can help clean on her days off since I Already paid the mortgage off on the house

AmeerX · Answer

Working women have this problem of independence, not sharing in bills even. A women's wealth is for herself but a man's money is for the entire family

Mehzmeh · Answer

They want trophies. It's that old time b. s that, a woman needs a man to support her.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

That isn’t true with all higher caliber men. For sure, yes, but not as a whole.

honestB12 · Answer

Think about it... Really think about it... You know the answer 😘

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Division of labor yields far higher productivity than duplication of labor.

MountAverage · Answer

Because they're douchebags. Yeah, "higher value" my ass. Fuck off.

piyush8527 · Answer

If depends according to his priority for ke I don't care.

ShootShootBangBang · Answer

Because he can provide for her. Rich people don’t have to worry about what regular folks do.

Not-karen · Answer

not me. I would prefer a women to also have a career

TheAfrikan · Answer

It is basically that they prefer the wife to keep the home on high standards. And if they have all that money no need for there women to work.

Shellyworld · Answer

Higher value? What!!! 😱😱 oh no, what a control freak!!

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