Career driven would be better for both of us. She makes her own money and in case anything happens to me, she's there to bring home the money. A housewife would get bored of being at home and cleaning and making dinner and washing dishes and taking care of the children.
Hopefully he wants more out of life than to want a lady whose in the kitchen. I grew up with both my parents cooking in the kitchen. Both cleaning and going to work. They are workaholics. I won’t stand for my husband or wife to stay at home we both must work. If we don’t work or have dual incomes then I can’t pursue nothing with that person. I want stability not a broke fella who can’t even support me and our family. I deserve more than that in my life by now.
I think nowadays there is a slight possibility to be both depending on what kind of career chosen. But society benefits when the majority of women stay home primarily and watch the kids and the house while the guys goes and works.
However, if the man wants to stay home and watch the kids and the house while the wife works that's also fine. Though not as instinctual or innate.
I take care of the big bills. Plus if they work part time they can pay for their own beauty parlor and buy their own clothes without always having to ask me for money every day
Let's see, do I want a wife that will be there for me, support me, raise our kids and make sure we have a family or do I want a partner that will be at work most of the day, unable to see our kids, and stressed and with no time for myself...
I would want someone who's educated quite a bit. That's simply because I have literally no interest in spending prolonged periods of time with someone who hasn't. That doesn't necessarily mean they have to have a full time job though.
A women can be both Wether Carier women and house wife What a girl can doo in whole life a man cannot doo Turning from a daughter to a girl to a women and from women to mother Girl is perfect in ints own way If she can handle both job and carrier she is perfect
At first glance you would think its about half and half from the poll. But do realize the kind of men who are responsible hard working attractive to most women are selecting housewife.
Here is a perfect example of who is selecting career women: SissyFrenchMaid "Men should generally adopt the role of housemaid. Id willingly serve a Mistress"
Is that really the kind of man you want? A sissy maid? Smh.
I did notice independent men who are hard working just and highly ambitious want a housewife for love and and men who are not confident in their earning potential want love but needs help.
Yeah. But i dont think its so specifically ambition and success driven. I think the more generally overall attractive men lean towards the housewife side and the less generally overall attractive lean towards career women. For example there are many men like sissy maid but I've hardly met hot successful smart men like sissy maid. I have met chubby broke annoying men like sissy maid.
I prefer a carrier drive woman, house work is a shared responsibility. I want someone who wants to develop herself and chase her own goals as well. This sets up a positive environment for the Kids too.
Parenting should be a shared responsibility. A carrier doesn't necessarily mean being away from home. There are also more productive family settings (extended family) that can help with "baby sitting" the ultimate goal of Life Is supposed to have strong family ties.
Some people don’t have family to help babysit so is it better for the child to be placed in daycare or under the supervision of a stranger who can violate your child?
I'd prefer a housewive, because that would mean we have enough money to be able to live on one salary. And also, as someone who loves being with someone I love, I'd like that because that would mean I could see her more often, and spend time with her. Which doesn't mean I wouldn't help her.
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Housewives hands down. Career driven women are nothing but problems and never want a family either. Just chasing the almighty dollar until they die, not the kind of person I want to be with.
I didn’t go to grad school for nothing I’d still continue to work after taking a small break once born I’m not taking a year off though and their dad is going to need to bring more to the table than just work I’m not doing everything myself
Thats exactly my point. I dont judge a woman on career or education, its irrelevant. So if all you have is a grad degree and a good career, well some girl who spent all that time doing other things such as volunteering reading having hobbies learning to cook well going to the gym a lot etc will blow you out of the water.
May be, but in my case; I have a very good education, degrees, a great job and still read at least one book each week, train every day, meet friends, travel and spent time with my family. Most people judge me quickly just because I show them their own failures in their lifes by being successful in all areas of my life. They have failed and they do not want to admit that. They feel bad and small and condemn and insult you but from a certain point of your own success you can only laugh at how jealous many people are.
@Satu16 well that sounds great but the first time you came home late from work or didn't cook me a meal or couldnt take a vacation when i wanted to plan one id notice how your career brings nothing to the table except gets in the way... compared to a girl without one.
This is why male ceos and vps wife up the secretary and not the business women at the company. Her success is not important and often can be a bad thing if the goal is to have a family.
Why should I be responsible for the food all the time? Men also have two hands so they can clean and cook. Ah okay, when I have to chancel the vacation it's a bad thing but If a man did it it's okay because he's working. And not all ceos are male. I am also in a managerial position and I have numerous of men working under me.
@Satu16 "Why should I be responsible for the food all the time?" Because in the world of dating men can find thing thing called a stay at home wife. She will cook all the meals. Why would i then want someone who doesn't cook all the meals when i could have someone who does? 🤷♂️ "Men also have two hands so they can clean and cook. Ah okay, when I have to chancel the vacation it's a bad thing but If a man did it it's okay because he's working." If i have a housewife she can clean and cook and i dont have to... and like a majority of men im not good at it, nor care to be good at it, and i dont like doing it. And if i have a housewife, some other person will never demand she does something for them over her doing stuff for me and our household.
"And not all ceos are male. I am also in a managerial position and I have numerous of men working under me." And the point is? Most male ceos and powerful men do not want successful or powerful women. If you like men like that, typically you won't attract them by being career focused. If you like the men that work under you, those are the men who are typically more attracted to successful and powerful women. If thats what you like you do you boo. You all set. The point im making is the world is littered with women saying im a success and i want a man on my level but then they get mad when men on their level do not see them as relationship material. But if you dont mind a man who is not on your level you will be fine.
@bamesjond0069 "When I have a housewife" it sounds like you are holding an animal! And you address exactly the point; some men only want housewives because they believe that they are too fine for doing it themselves, they think they are something better and they are lazy. How about if both go to work and share the household? Oh no, not that the fine gentleman would have to make an effort. I don't know what kind of men you know probably only some who are like you. The men I know want strong, equal women not women they have to endure financially.
Thank you for your concern about my relationship. Haha I am married and my husband is as successful as I am. I would never get involved with stupid men. After reading all of this here, I'm damn happy that my husband is not such a narrow-minded Neanderthal.
So later you will tell your daughter "You don't have to make an effort and you don't have to write good grades either. The only thing that is important for you is that you can cook and clean well and that you are good to fuck and always keep your mouth shut" My god, poor, poor girl!
@Satu16 where did you get all that from? Lmao. Yeah i will teach my daughters to be homemakers. That way they can get hot successful men who treat them with respect instead of pimping them out for a paycheck to feed their materialism.
by the way equal doesn't mean exactly the same. A home maker is equally important yet a different role. But good to know you look down on homemakers. It sounds like you think a woman who stays home should shut up as thats what was on your mind not mine. My girlfriend talks a lot. she's always learning things and talking about it with me. You must watch lots of movies or have a wild imagination or something.
@bamesjond0069 So you see yourself as an hot successfull man?😆 If a woman freely chooses to be a housewife, that's perfectly fine. It just wouldn't be my way. You said that you only want a housewife because you need someone to clean up your dirt. And just because a man wants a woman with a career doesn't mean he wants to take advantage of her. He don't have to take advantage of her like she don't have to take advantage of him because both earn their own money.
@Satu16@Satu16 yes it means he wants more money at the expense of family and home. And i never said that. The sex is way better with a housewife. Im kinda addicted at this point. Career women aren't as sexually attractive. Something about a woman being so feminine and caring and taking care of me turns me on like crazy. And my life is easier. And it will be better for my children. So many reasons.
Men where I live seem to like housewives/surrogate mothers/helpers around the house. So if I were to vote it'd be A. Some also seem very intimidated by career-minded women and consider them "selfish" and "aggressive".
They aren't intimidating... simply selfish and aggressive and don't really offer anything except money. Last time i checked a healthy relationship doesn't revolve around money.
@bamesjond0069 did I say that? Did u even even read my original response? U have no idea where I live but you stay jumping to conclusions about me and these career minded women. How does career minded immediately mean money grabbing? Do you say the same things about career minded men? I'm guessing a couple of them rejected you? With an attitude like that it's not surprising. Your responses are so bitter. Stay pressed about these career minded women dude. I doubt they care.
Career woman. It's different times, it's not 1400's anymore. I woman can be as succéful like a man does and even more. Even if i make a million bucks a minuten, my partner gotta work.
🤔 Yeah. It's alright, satan has a nice corner for me in hell! Next to Hitler. Sorry to tell you that the argument is very weak. Give me the dislike, it would make me feel much better.
It’s not weak I worked in childcare and teachers are underpaid and can’t give your child individual attention. If you leave your child in the hands of the wrong caregiver it can be permanent mental scars
It depends on financial situation of man, if he is financially strong he will prefer a housewife otherwise he would like his partner to help him financially. It also depends on mindset of the man.
Absolutely yes... man works outside so woman should stay home... if woman works outside so man should stay home... because of children... but before being mom and dad... yes both of them can work outside...
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Career driven would be better for both of us. She makes her own money and in case anything happens to me, she's there to bring home the money. A housewife would get bored of being at home and cleaning and making dinner and washing dishes and taking care of the children.
Hopefully he wants more out of life than to want a lady whose in the kitchen. I grew up with both my parents cooking in the kitchen. Both cleaning and going to work. They are workaholics. I won’t stand for my husband or wife to stay at home we both must work. If we don’t work or have dual incomes then I can’t pursue nothing with that person. I want stability not a broke fella who can’t even support me and our family. I deserve more than that in my life by now.
I think nowadays there is a slight possibility to be both depending on what kind of career chosen. But society benefits when the majority of women stay home primarily and watch the kids and the house while the guys goes and works.
However, if the man wants to stay home and watch the kids and the house while the wife works that's also fine. Though not as instinctual or innate.
Whatever she chooses to be she should be only sexually and emotionally attracted to me and must be loyal
If she falls out of love she can divorce me but not use and cheat on me
Is this too much to ask?
Tho Both of them have a nasty habit of having an affair
We want housewives that work part time so they can have some money for themselves
How old are you mind if I ask?
40
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House wives don’t get paid
I take care of the big bills. Plus if they work part time they can pay for their own beauty parlor and buy their own clothes without always having to ask me for money every day
Let's see, do I want a wife that will be there for me, support me, raise our kids and make sure we have a family or do I want a partner that will be at work most of the day, unable to see our kids, and stressed and with no time for myself...
I would want someone who's educated quite a bit. That's simply because I have literally no interest in spending prolonged periods of time with someone who hasn't. That doesn't necessarily mean they have to have a full time job though.
A women can be both
Wether Carier women and house wife
What a girl can doo in whole life a man cannot doo
Turning from a daughter to a girl to a women and from women to mother
Girl is perfect in ints own way
If she can handle both job and carrier she is perfect
I feel like men want a happy medium - a woman who is career driven and ambitious but also somewhat domesticated to an extent.
At first glance you would think its about half and half from the poll. But do realize the kind of men who are responsible hard working attractive to most women are selecting housewife.
Here is a perfect example of who is selecting career women:
SissyFrenchMaid "Men should generally adopt the role of housemaid. Id willingly serve a Mistress"
Is that really the kind of man you want? A sissy maid? Smh.
I did notice independent men who are hard working just and highly ambitious want a housewife for love and and men who are not confident in their earning potential want love but needs help.
Yeah. But i dont think its so specifically ambition and success driven. I think the more generally overall attractive men lean towards the housewife side and the less generally overall attractive lean towards career women. For example there are many men like sissy maid but I've hardly met hot successful smart men like sissy maid. I have met chubby broke annoying men like sissy maid.
I prefer a carrier drive woman, house work is a shared responsibility. I want someone who wants to develop herself and chase her own goals as well. This sets up a positive environment for the Kids too.
So do you believe daycare is better than the structure of a parent who is more available to the children?
Parenting should be a shared responsibility. A carrier doesn't necessarily mean being away from home. There are also more productive family settings (extended family) that can help with "baby sitting" the ultimate goal of Life Is supposed to have strong family ties.
Some people don’t have family to help babysit so is it better for the child to be placed in daycare or under the supervision of a stranger who can violate your child?
Like i stressed, carrers ain't only drive outside home.
What would you prefer as a person?
Being a housewife or doing something you like as well.
I'd prefer a housewive, because that would mean we have enough money to be able to live on one salary. And also, as someone who loves being with someone I love, I'd like that because that would mean I could see her more often, and spend time with her.
Which doesn't mean I wouldn't help her.
Housewives hands down. Career driven women are nothing but problems and never want a family either. Just chasing the almighty dollar until they die, not the kind of person I want to be with.
Personally speaking, I want her to what makes ‘her’ happy.
To do* what makes her happy. Whether that is one or the other or some combination of the two.
I didn’t go to grad school for nothing I’d still continue to work after taking a small break once born I’m not taking a year off though and their dad is going to need to bring more to the table than just work I’m not doing everything myself
Amen to that!
I guess you never learned about sunk costs in decision making during your higher education. Smh. Women have such boners for higher education.
Again sir bring more to the table than work.
Thats exactly my point. I dont judge a woman on career or education, its irrelevant. So if all you have is a grad degree and a good career, well some girl who spent all that time doing other things such as volunteering reading having hobbies learning to cook well going to the gym a lot etc will blow you out of the water.
May be, but in my case; I have a very good education, degrees, a great job and still read at least one book each week, train every day, meet friends, travel and spent time with my family. Most people judge me quickly just because I show them their own failures in their lifes by being successful in all areas of my life. They have failed and they do not want to admit that. They feel bad and small and condemn and insult you but from a certain point of your own success you can only laugh at how jealous many people are.
@Satu16 well that sounds great but the first time you came home late from work or didn't cook me a meal or couldnt take a vacation when i wanted to plan one id notice how your career brings nothing to the table except gets in the way... compared to a girl without one.
This is why male ceos and vps wife up the secretary and not the business women at the company. Her success is not important and often can be a bad thing if the goal is to have a family.
Why should I be responsible for the food all the time? Men also have two hands so they can clean and cook. Ah okay, when I have to chancel the vacation it's a bad thing but If a man did it it's okay because he's working. And not all ceos are male. I am also in a managerial position and I have numerous of men working under me.
@Satu16 "Why should I be responsible for the food all the time?" Because in the world of dating men can find thing thing called a stay at home wife. She will cook all the meals. Why would i then want someone who doesn't cook all the meals when i could have someone who does? 🤷♂️
"Men also have two hands so they can clean and cook. Ah okay, when I have to chancel the vacation it's a bad thing but If a man did it it's okay because he's working." If i have a housewife she can clean and cook and i dont have to... and like a majority of men im not good at it, nor care to be good at it, and i dont like doing it. And if i have a housewife, some other person will never demand she does something for them over her doing stuff for me and our household.
"And not all ceos are male. I am also in a managerial position and I have numerous of men working under me." And the point is? Most male ceos and powerful men do not want successful or powerful women. If you like men like that, typically you won't attract them by being career focused. If you like the men that work under you, those are the men who are typically more attracted to successful and powerful women. If thats what you like you do you boo. You all set. The point im making is the world is littered with women saying im a success and i want a man on my level but then they get mad when men on their level do not see them as relationship material. But if you dont mind a man who is not on your level you will be fine.
@bamesjond0069 "When I have a housewife" it sounds like you are holding an animal! And you address exactly the point; some men only want housewives because they believe that they are too fine for doing it themselves, they think they are something better and they are lazy. How about if both go to work and share the household? Oh no, not that the fine gentleman would have to make an effort. I don't know what kind of men you know probably only some who are like you. The men I know want strong, equal women not women they have to endure financially.
Thank you for your concern about my relationship. Haha I am married and my husband is as successful as I am. I would never get involved with stupid men. After reading all of this here, I'm damn happy that my husband is not such a narrow-minded Neanderthal.
So later you will tell your daughter "You don't have to make an effort and you don't have to write good grades either. The only thing that is important for you is that you can cook and clean well and that you are good to fuck and always keep your mouth shut" My god, poor, poor girl!
@Satu16 where did you get all that from? Lmao. Yeah i will teach my daughters to be homemakers. That way they can get hot successful men who treat them with respect instead of pimping them out for a paycheck to feed their materialism.
by the way equal doesn't mean exactly the same. A home maker is equally important yet a different role. But good to know you look down on homemakers. It sounds like you think a woman who stays home should shut up as thats what was on your mind not mine. My girlfriend talks a lot. she's always learning things and talking about it with me. You must watch lots of movies or have a wild imagination or something.
@bamesjond0069 So you see yourself as an hot successfull man?😆
If a woman freely chooses to be a housewife, that's perfectly fine. It just wouldn't be my way. You said that you only want a housewife because you need someone to clean up your dirt. And just because a man wants a woman with a career doesn't mean he wants to take advantage of her. He don't have to take advantage of her like she don't have to take advantage of him because both earn their own money.
@Satu16 @Satu16 yes it means he wants more money at the expense of family and home. And i never said that. The sex is way better with a housewife. Im kinda addicted at this point. Career women aren't as sexually attractive. Something about a woman being so feminine and caring and taking care of me turns me on like crazy. And my life is easier. And it will be better for my children. So many reasons.
Men where I live seem to like housewives/surrogate mothers/helpers around the house. So if I were to vote it'd be A. Some also seem very intimidated by career-minded women and consider them "selfish" and "aggressive".
They aren't intimidating... simply selfish and aggressive and don't really offer anything except money. Last time i checked a healthy relationship doesn't revolve around money.
@bamesjond0069 Suree.
Healthy relationships revolve around money? That's just sick to me that you can be so materialistic.
@bamesjond0069 did I say that? Did u even even read my original response? U have no idea where I live but you stay jumping to conclusions about me and these career minded women. How does career minded immediately mean money grabbing? Do you say the same things about career minded men? I'm guessing a couple of them rejected you? With an attitude like that it's not surprising. Your responses are so bitter. Stay pressed about these career minded women dude. I doubt they care.
Career woman. It's different times, it's not 1400's anymore. I woman can be as succéful like a man does and even more. Even if i make a million bucks a minuten, my partner gotta work.
So you want to leave your children with strangers as both of you work?
🤔 Yeah. It's alright, satan has a nice corner for me in hell! Next to Hitler. Sorry to tell you that the argument is very weak. Give me the dislike, it would make me feel much better.
It’s not weak I worked in childcare and teachers are underpaid and can’t give your child individual attention. If you leave your child in the hands of the wrong caregiver it can be permanent mental scars
They are underpaid in the whole world. We all get mental scars too but you already made up your mind. Still a weak argument
I like housewife. To he home with our kids. I don't care if she doesn't want a career but if that's what she really wants then I'll support her in it.
It depends on financial situation of man, if he is financially strong he will prefer a housewife otherwise he would like his partner to help him financially. It also depends on mindset of the man.
Absolutely yes... man works outside so woman should stay home... if woman works outside so man should stay home... because of children... but before being mom and dad... yes both of them can work outside...
people can live their lives however they like. If the wife and husband is happy with their lifestyle together, there's nothing wrong.