How can I Trust My husband?

[Anonymous]

Maybe crazy to some how we got married ( international) and I find that I’m constantly questioning him and getting upset and thinking he will or is Cheating. What is up with that?

[qwert1234]

My ex overthinks. To the point she said to me one time that she stays the night so that "she can make sure I don't flirt" with other girls.

I hated that. HATED. It's one of the reasons why I slowly felt distant with her.

I be like "girl, I work, play video games and go out with you. I don't even talk that much to my friends. You have access to my laptop and my phone. My social media, while I don't share my password, is auto-logged in. What else do you want?".

In the end, we broke up. I felt like I just waited for her to initiate it. Deep down inside, I know I want out.

So my advice to you? Start figuring out why this happens and cut it out. It's annoying if you project it to your husband. If you keep quiet about it, it will eat you up inside and consume you.

[Asker]

You’re Right. He gets frustrated.

[qwert1234]

It's toxic. It's annoying.
Imagine coming home from work to "hey, you are 2 minutes late. Where is she?".
No food, no water, no hugs.
LOL

[Asker]

Like a living hell I bet. Hopefully it’s not too late to turn it around

[qwert1234]

It's not too late. But you need to identify the cause. I hope it works out for you.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

this is normal when you're insecure. i'd seek out therapy, just to find better coping mechanisms when your thoughts go negative or you start to feel insecure. i'd also talk to him about it, if you want. you don't have to. but sometimes we all need some reassurance in relationships. it's just the way you went about it, questioning him and getting upset, isn't really the way to go. so that's another thing a therapist can help you with, on how to approach these feelings.

[Anonymous]

does he give you reason to question him? or is it more your mind way overthinking?

[Asker]

Overthinking. To the point where it feels real. He very neutral, and calm. He tells me to trust him but I can’t

[Opinion Owner]

relax, you gotta learn to trust him, takes times

[Eelif]

The most important thing in international relations is supportive words. My language of love is reassuring words, and that's what I always want to hear. Also I don't understand why a guy who wants to cheat keeps staying in a relationship. It's sad but trust must always be

[chicken_nugget24]

You either do or you don't, sorry