Guys, Should I trust my husband?

[Anonymous]

I found out my husband cheated on me 2 weeks after we started dating about 4 years ago. months after that, he has messaged girls telling them they're beautiful and all that.
he's lied to me about talking to different female friends that I asked him specifically not to and one he actually talked to a few weeks ago and deleted the messages because he said he didn't want to start anything so that alone broke my trust. But the cheating thing 4 years ago that i just found out about, he claims he doesn't remember and is standing by that. He also doesn't remember calling different girls beautiful and etc.
I get it was 4 years ago but do guys really not remember this stuff? Should I trust him and that he wouldn't do that again?

[Chiefbenttwig]

Me, myself & I wouldn't, but I'm kind of bias, because I've had a few women that have cheated on me.
I've always was believed that if they will lie about something something small then lying about something major will be NO issue or problem for them. For myself I've always told my girlfriends that if I lose my trust in you, because they are being shiesty, shady or sneaky in our relationship then I don't need them in my life.
Last of all. A cheater will always be a cheater. To them it a game.
They want to feel the excitement of seeing how long before they get caught cheating.
Just something to think about. If he is doing these things what else has he done that you don't know about? Does he get upset when you ask to use his phone? Does he keep his phone locked so you can't look into to it? If he does I would be worried.
When I have a girlfriend I give her the code, why you ask? Because I have nothing to hide. I never get upset when my girlfriend answer my phone iether I sometimes leave it home & she bring it to me at work when it's an important call.
Just think about what I said.

[NativeAlaskan]

Well, did you do a self evaluation first before putting your husband on the burner?

there's reasons why guys cheat. Me personally, I’ll simply leave her if she does these things: She withholds sex, She’s disobedient, She’s combative and challenging my decisions, She’s become critical instead of being supportive, She gained weight, She stopped following my lead, She became a feminist, etc... You can leave him or make your marriage work. If you leave him and the next guy cheats on you, it’s not a pattern of attracting cheaters. It’s a pattern of your behavior that leads men to cheat. Make your marriage work, don’t be complacent.

[apollo3000]

I've had my trust broken once, and it didn't get repaired.
It wasn't even that one person, it was all the others who got involved and decided 'I wasn't ready' - and I was way readier than they ever were.
It's a bunch of old scared assholes that make everyone cheat so they can milk us for money, work, erotic attention - boomers are horrendous, mostly grabbers of anything (that you have to punch in the face before they stop)

[Anonymous]

Lmfao I did the same with my ex, and I only got better at hiding it when she found out until I felt too shitty about it and just completely left.

So no, don't buy his bullshit, guys like us can be fucking shitty, manipulative liars, just run away.

[OlderAndWiser]

He is a cheater and a liar. Why should you trust him? Do you have any children together?

[Asker]

Yes we do. I'm trying to forgiveand move on because multiple people have said it was 4 years ago and only 2 weeks in, why worry about it now, but lately I've been so stressed about it and just not happy. I believe he does love me but I don't know what to do

[OlderAndWiser]

He was texting other females a few weeks ago. The problem is not in the remote past.

How many children? How old?

[spartan55]

I can say, with much confidence, that he has been cheating on you the whole time you've been together. He is a liar and a cheater, THIS WON'T CHANGE.

[JSmith925]

He remembers and so should you. If they do it once, they will do it again.
~JSmith

[Bad_Man55]

If I said yes would you? Or would his deficiencies cause you misstrust him as well

[AmeerX]

You do remember it unless your episodic memory has failed

[Iron_Man]

Someone that has cheated can never be trusted again

[Cryptic-Game]

Never trust your husband once he broke the marriage bonds.

[jeremy_09]

if that's all it happened then i'd leave it alone