He asked me for marriage 3 times and I declined?

[Anonymous]

I declined and he refuses to take no for an answer as I don't want marriage. He doesn't understand that I don't desire marriage and would rather remain single and focus on my business/ travel. The 3 times has been over the course of the last 11 years. At one point I wanted marriage, but not anymore.

Updates

+1 y

I don't see any benefits in getting married again

Updates

+1 y

I've been single and celibate 11 years and never dated this man... he's changed since we last talked a few years ago and since he lost his girlfriend last year... he's changed for the worse... I haven't dated since my divorce and been focusing on my career, kidd, and travel... now I have no desire to date anymore or get married

[AviatorTom]

From reading your responses to opinions...

It would have helped if your original description explained that you and he have never dated, that he just randomly proposes.

[Asker]

Yes I tried explaining that through out the comments, but will update it

[Jersey2]

I wanted a family so I got married. I wanted to be successful, so I became successful in order to support my family and I wanted to travel so I travelled a lot.

I’ve done it all so I don’t know why people think they are mutually exclusive. I would not trade my family though for career, money or travels.

If you have travel questions, let me know. I enjoy talking about it.

[Asker]

Am I obligated to date or marry no? Been there and done that after my divorce just remained single my ex husband cheated and never dated again nor have the desire too now.

[Asker]

Yes I will travel and focus on my career from here out.. remain single and celibate as I have been 11 years

[Jersey2]

This question post doesn’t seem to be a question at all, its more of your point of view on a situation.

[Asker]

There is no point of view just what it is.. I'm not obligated to date or marry or in my case either...

[Asker]

I've given up dating for myself, kids, and business.. maybe I'll change my mind with the current dating climate no for my safety

[Jersey2]

Okay then, that works.

[Screenwriter]

Well, I'm worried that this might be the end of the line for you and him. He clearly WANTS marriage and you do not! You've known each other forever. He knows your feelings about this. Why are you with a guy who wants more from you than your are willing to give? This isn't fair to him.

And since you want lots of freedom, your being with him isn't reasonable for you.

[Asker]

I never dated him and haven't dated anyone since my ex husband 11 years ago... I think I made it clear I never dated him. How is it the end when we never dated? 😕

[Asker]

Yes I love my single life

[Screenwriter]

You put in your update later... I thought you'd been dating him in a relationship for 11 years. If you've never been out with him, why does he keep asking you to marry him? I"m confused! You have some kind of relationship where you have coffee or hang out together? Otherwise, he sounds like he's sort of a nut.

[Asker]

He is a nut why he's blocked and no never dated him

[Screenwriter]

Might need to get a restraining order against him. How is it that he keeps approaching you?

[sheikalana]

Is this your boyfriend? Maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship with him since both of you want two completely different things in life. Cut him off.

[Asker]

We never dated have you guys read the update? And he is blocked 🚫

[BLP11520]

I agree

[sheikalana]

So you never dated and yet he's proposing to you? Definitely cut him off.

[Asker]

I just said that literally

[Asker]

Read these updates sometimes

[safricanluke]

I'm not sure what the question is here.

If it is what to do with the guy who keeps asking, it seems like you've done all you can. It sounds like you've told him in no uncertain terms that you do not want marriage and that you want to remain independent. If he chooses to continue beating his head against the wall when he's been given the answer, that's on him.

[Asker]

Ikr this is is so crazy

[BigDog1989]

As you should

Marriage isn't necessary. Don't let Christians tell you what to do

[Asker]

Thanks !

[BigDog1989]

Yeah!

[JesseP1nk]

You two are not compatible. He wants to get married and you dont... I would dump that kind of woman after first time she says no to my proposal. If she loves me then she should not have problem to say yes.

[Asker]

I've been married and have kids not getting married again nor having anymore kids plus he's a man child

[Asker]

Extremely toxic and abusive

[JesseP1nk]

So why are you still together with him?

[Asker]

We never dated just know someone of 11 years

[Asker]

Never dated him made it clear

[JesseP1nk]

So you are not in relationship with him? What did you meant by "rather remain single and focus on my business/ travel. " then?

[Asker]

I've been single for 11 years and he knows that he also knows I'm celibate. I've declined marriage with him 2 ... this is the 3rd time and I see him a friend want nothing more with him beyond that

[JesseP1nk]

I guess you should move away from him and dont tell where you are going.

[Asker]

I'm in my home and just moved he needs to move

[jeffend888]

Then you need to leave. You’re not on the same page and never will be according to you. So why bother? You’re wasting his time, not to mention yours not being aligned.

Chaos is the enemy of progress.

[Asker]

Did you read my comment we never DATED - WE NEVER DATED ! HE IS 🚫 HE IS A NUT JOB!

[Starlove4]

Ok What’s his number girl? I’ll take care of that problem for u. Cause I could use a pretty shine ring on my finger 🤭

[Asker]

I wear a band to ward off these crazy ass men

[WhitneySnow]

You need to block him if he won’t take a hint

[Asker]

He is blocked 🚫

[WhitneySnow]

Good

[slatyb]

Why is he still dating you if he wants to be married?

[Asker]

We never dated

[Asker]

Ever

[slatyb]

Oh, then he's just desperate. How do you know him?

[Asker]

Been knowing him 11 years if you read my update since ww were teens

[Asker]

We^...

[ImalwaysrightOK]

He's dedicated. Marriage isn't something a guy throws around.

[Asker]

He's toxic and I'm not marrying him and he's a man child

[Asker]

Too many red flags for marriage

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Then why are you around him? I just said he sounded dedicated. Don't know anything about what kind of guy he is. If he's toxic, flush him

[Asker]

He's gone he's been gone a week- he kept threatening to kill himself so I had to back off slowly

[Anonymous]

your updates were very important to include before posting... so this is just some random "friend"? maybe block him...

[Asker]

I did girl even called the cops... I don't know what else to do from here

[Opinion Owner]

yikes. and restraining orders barely work... hm...

[Asker]

Ikr.. it's crazy

[Anonymous]

Sounds like what Jonny Cash went through for years, she finally said yes though. It’s usually a disadvantage for a man to get married not the woman so it’s surprising you don’t want to

[normandi]

He is a donkey... ride the fm

[Asker]

I agree I'm focused on myself and the thought of dating and getting married ain't the it

[BoopBoopBeep]

So what's the question?

[Asker]

He won't take no for an answer

[BoopBoopBeep]

So what? Is he your boss? Do you see him every day? There are literally billions of people out there who don't agree with you on something. This is just one of them.

[Asker]

Nothing I wish he move on

[BoopBoopBeep]

I wish people would stop throwing plastic on the side of the street. People suck. We'd be better off with 3 billion less. I can't do anything about that though. It's not your responsibility to make him less stupid.

[Asker]

He should stop pressing me to be with him and find someone to birth his babies and give him marriage

[BoopBoopBeep]

then stop talking to him and giving him reason to think otherwise

[Asker]

Were not talking

[Asker]

It's time for him to move on

[Asker]

He asked for marriage - he contacted me the answer will be no not only with him , but any man who approaches me moving forward. I don't date and haven't dated since 2014.

[BoopBoopBeep]

so he has only seen you three days in 11 years and each one he proposes?

assuming i believed that, there should be no conversation from you, you just walk away. if he can't get the hint then you get a restraining order

anything less than that and you're feeding off it for the attention

[Asker]

I've been single 11 1/2 years by choice and don't need attention from a man. He needs to move on seriously even when he was dating other women I was single in my career.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well I promise you're not hot enough that if you'd said no to me, over the course of a decade I'd ask you to marry me multiple times if you hadn't even said good morning to me in that time period, so you're leaving out some key parts of this story.

[Asker]

We've talked on and off11 years but didn't care he dated around.

[Asker]

I'm still in my career and running a business as I'm an owner and don't have time for a man or dating. My life is busy.. at some point we need to move on plus he's changed and has become toxic. I'm very content single and want to remain single

[BoopBoopBeep]

Ah now the truth starts trickling out. Before you said you weren't talking. When you're actually serious about getting him to stop asking, stop talking to him and he'll move on, as you should want him to.

Say "we need to go down different life paths" then never utter one more word to him. Not happy birthday, not hi how are you, not how's the new job, not hope you feel better.

Never speak again. Problem solved.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You are just as toxic as him because you can't say no to the attention and drama. If you wanted him gone you'd make it clear and stop talking to him but you want your cake and eat it too.

[Asker]

I'm toxic? Nah and nkt about to risk my business behind a man or anyone... my life is peaceful and will remain peaceful without the drama of someone who can't accept rejection and or has mental problems. My life is good when I'm by myself and had enough experiences with men including my ex husband- after my divorce with him that was it and made a vow not to deal with another man again. My ex husband cheated why we ended... I'm not raising a 4th person.. this man knew me and my family.. that was it nothing more nothing less.. we went to school together and he regrets not marrying me back then... I have no regrets not marrying him.

[Asker]

Actually called the cops on him because he admitted to stalking me on social media and Facebook so whose really crazy and drama filled? I'm in my home and in college... clearly he's the wackdoo

[BoopBoopBeep]

You're still talking to him. This is what happens when you don't rip the bandaid off.

[Asker]

Hopefully he's gone hopefully he moves on... hopefully he gets helps and finds a nice woman to marry. I don't know and idc... just let me be single and celibate as I have been

[Asker]

No we're not talking - been here at my home a month and he contacted me about a relationship and marriage. I'm sorry he caught feelings and thought I changed my mind.. I have not and will not.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You admitted that you talked "on and off" for 11 years. Keep your story straight. There should be no "on and off"... just off. Forever, not until you're feeling needy again. Drama drama drama.

[Asker]

This confirms men and women can't be friends.. the guy needs therapy especially grief therapy from the loss of his last girlfriend.. too many red flags why we never dated , but kept him friend zoned.

[Asker]

The only drama going on is him and his behavior I no longer have to put up with in the short time we talked.. reconnected...

[BoopBoopBeep]

Right. You don't friend zone people after they propose the first time, and certainly not after the cops get involved, but you're so desperate for the drama he brings into your life that you're addicted like some sort of drug. You both need extensive therapy. Not together, because you should stop all contact with him. For both of you.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You said "The only drama going on is him and his behavior I no longer have to put up with in the short time we talked.. reconnected..."

There should be no talking. No reconnected. Stop all contact. A child could understand this.

Ona asla bir kelime daha söyleme.

[Asker]

He was always friend zoned... how was he gonna marry me and dating someone else? He just lost his girlfriend of 6 years last year... make it make sense... seems he's confused.

[Asker]

Yes he got friendzoned... now we have parted ways as of last week , but he can never move on... I've blocked him and he keeps contacting me... I'm out of options now other then the restraining order

[BoopBoopBeep]

If you blocked him how does he keep contacting you?

[Asker]

Other numbers sadly. He gets a new number my other option change mines but why should I? He needs to move on , but he's blocked 🚫

[BoopBoopBeep]

You're impossible. I'm done. Good luck.

[Asker]

I'm not impossible lol this guy is unhinged -or something... he needs help

[Subflics]

Damn I would've been out if there the first time

[Asker]

He can't accept no

[Subflics]

😂😂